ok there is this guy that i work with and he is such a funny guy and the one thing about him though is he is engaged but his girlfriend is a "psyco" and he is planning on calling the wedding off,,,,my thing is that he is talking to me like he wants to get with me because he is looking for a nice girl and he knows that i have baggage (ex: i have a 2 month old baby) should i go out with him after he breaks up with his girlfriend or should i not because he is alot older than me...but i have a felling the he might have the potential to love me and my son...but how do i know that he wont do the same to me??
2006-12-08 15:37:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Even if he does leave her, you woudl just be there at the start for a rebound thing...if he does leave her and he is truely interested wait a couple months and then take it slow and cautiously.
2006-12-08 15:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you met his fiancee or are you just saying she's 'psycho' because he says she is?
If you've never met her, then don't count on him ever breaking it off. Sounds like he just wants a little action on the side. Don't do ANYTHING with him until he's 100% free of her or else you will very much regret it later.
I hate to say this, but some slimy jerks like to chat up young single moms because they think they're 'easy' so be careful not to fall for it.
How much older than you is he? If you mean like 5 years, then if he really does break up with her and you still want to, then go for it! But if you mean like 25 years, then no way! I can't see that ever working out and besides, yuck!
If you do date him, I would suggest not letting him have to omuch contact with your son until you are sure that this is going to be a lasting relationship. You don't want your son to form a bond with some guy you're only gonna be with for 3 months.
No matter what, there's never a guarantee that your guy won't dump you for some other woman, but a lot of the time, you can tell if the guy who's eyeing you is a sleaze after only a date or two.
Good luck!
2006-12-09 00:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. You have just given BIRTH TWO MONTHS AGO.
2. You no longer have a relationship with your son's father.
3. Are you willing to risk losing your job by having a fling with this "funny" guy.
After having a baby and into (I'm assuming) the breastfeeding routine, if you have any spare time outside of work, I'd be devoting that to your child and to also catch up on your SLEEP. You would be a mass of raging hormones about now.
Take a step back and look at your options and consider your child's needs FIRST. Pour your love and devotion on your child - not on some guy who is "funny" during work hours and has his own problems outside of work.
Be patient and don't rush into anything. What friends/family/ mother support/community health contacts do you have? Who is looking after your son whilst you're at work? Do you have any other responsibilities or people to be accountable to? This is where your attention needs to be directed at this point in time.
True love waits.
2006-12-09 00:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, please don't fall for what is literally the OLDEST line in the cheaters handbook of cheating rules.
He is grooming you. He may not even realize it, but the first step to cheating is to find a sympathetic ear, preferably in an attractive vulnerable young girl. That is you dear!
Sure, he wants to get with you and the classic line to get you to be sympathetic is to tell you how awful his current woman is and what a "nice girl" you are. But...why is he with her at all then? Why did he propose to her? Wouldn't you think he would have realized how "psycho" she is by the time he got around to that?
I would try to end social contact with him at work little by little. It can be done. Just be "too busy" to chat when you see him or he stops by. Don't stop to chat with him in the halls, keep on going and fast, like you have somewhere to be now. He'll get the picture eventually.
If he really does ever break up with her, sure, then he's fair game regardless of his age, however beware of becoming the rebound relationship and getting used and hurt. Just make sure too, that he has REALLY broken up with her and isn't just giving you a line to get you into bed. Chances of them really breaking up though are probably slim to nil.
Next thing you know he'll be married.
And probably cheating with some other young, attractive, vulnerable girl. Just don't let it be you. You have a baby to think about after all, and that's much more important.
Good luck!
2006-12-09 00:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't get involved!
He's engaged, about to be married if his fiance' was such a pysco he wouldn't be with her. He may be the psycho, don't let him fill your head!!
You need to focus on your two month old child. he/she should be your # 1 priority not a man!!!!
I don't know you and I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but baby I'm real, don't get involved, I don't want you to get hurt. So don't get your child in any situation
Babies are so precious it's our mistakes, not theirs so don't put him/her in a bad predictament!!!!
2006-12-08 23:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by TT 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Life is pretty much a gamble. We never truly know what we are going to get. All we can do is just pray for the best. Maybe you should start by just being there for him and if things progress when the wedding is called off then go for it.
2006-12-08 23:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him how you feel and if you guys do decided to get together tell him not to announce ur relationship until some time has passed. GOOD LUCk
2006-12-08 23:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by ChIkaBuEnA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i deffineatly think you should give it a chance. If you don't know his fiancee then who cares. You two seem like you would have a good chance at being good for eachother.
2006-12-08 23:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by hbhh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is NOT going to leave her...
He just wants to get in your pants.
Come on, Girl, you can not be that naive
2006-12-08 23:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by e_guanajuato 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wait until he calls it off, he'll need time to get through the break-up, emotional stuff you know.
2006-12-08 23:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by bridgette c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋