For mothers only: is sex better, about the same, or not as good since giving birth?

Question

I mean physically, after you are completely healed - of course things slow down for a while after having a kid. My own experience is that it's considerably better, but I wonder what others' experiences are.
Please include what kind of birth you had (natural, hospital [induced or with anesthesia], or C section)

By the way, if you're a guy, shut up - I already know it makes no difference for you. :eyeroll:

Okay, amend that ... I'm not currently interested in men's answers so please withhold them, is what I meant to say. And of course, I meant to slam john b.

Answer 1

I had a vaginal birth, no drugs whatsoever, for my first two and a vaginal birth w/epidural for my third. After my first, I had my first orgasm. So I'm with you the sex IS considerably better. It is confusing to me as well, I wonder why this happens.

Answer 2

surprisingly it is WAY better! but it took awhile to get healed (longer than the 6 weeks told to wait) up completely. i felt like it was never going to get back to normal! ok, here is some horrifying details...i was induced at 6pm on december 21st 2002 and did not deliver until 4:30pm the next day...however active labor lasted more than an hour of pushing, my baby's heartrate was erratic so that was one thing they were considering a c-section if it took anylonger but i was deadset against c-section cause i was scared that healing would take longer (hah...if i only knew) so...after pushing for 35 minutes they decided to use the vacuum because my baby was not moving as they wanted and then they used forceps after doing an episiotomy (argh) and after that didnt work then the doctor used his hands to help maneuver my son's head out...i think back on it now and shouldnt have been so stubborn by telling the doctor that i wanted to keep trying...i pushed so hard i had an anal fissure that took about 8months to heal afterwards. yes luckily i had an epidural that after the third poke worked. it was quite an experience...obviously one i will never forget. my son was 9lbs4oz and 21inches long.

Answer 3

It seems like John B needs a lesson in human anatomy.

Anyway, for us it has been a heck of a lot better. But I had two c-sections. I think our sex life improved for a variety of reasons that really had nothing to do with having or not having children. But I can tell you that the stereo-type about married couples and parents not having sex is so wrong.

Edited to add: I'm 7 months pregnant and sex during pregnancy is incredible. :)

Answer 4

Worse. But it is for many reasons. One...now you have a baby keeping you up ALL Night. And when you are sleep deprived and stressed....you just can't get into sex. Two....if you breastfeed it makes you a bit 'dryer' down there, and that is kindof uncomfy. Three...you are petrified of getting preg again, so that kinda puts a damper on things.
Basically, 5 years and 2 kids later. I really wouldn't care if I never had sex again.
I know....sad but true.

Answer 5

MUCHO better!

I was in the hospital for 2.5 weeks before having our son, and after 24 hours of labor it ended in a c-section. Our son was in the NICU for 17 days.

After I was heal and we were past the colic of the first 3 months, the sex has been INCREDIBLE. Birth control dries me out, but the sex is...wow. It often leaves me with stars in my eyes!

Answer 6

I have a c-section and natural and I feel that it gets better with age I really don't think having children have anything to do with it. Also it depends in your partner and how much you love/care for that person. Loving the person your with makes the difference!

Answer 7

I had a vaginal birth (induced, with an epidural). Sex feels better to me, actually. My husband says he doesn't notice any difference in the way it feels- he says I feel the same as before.

Answer 8

During pregnancy, sex was bad (hurt lots during both pregnancies because of everything being more engorged with blood i guess) After I had my son and healed, it felt so much better, not like being stretched by a bowling ball. I hope it is better after this pregnancy too. (husband says this time it's so tight it's like when i was a virgin. I agree. It feels like i'm a virgin and it HURTS)

Answer 9

it is better seems like after a man can see and deal with you at your worst tends to build the respect and admiration for him therefore giving you the ease of mind to be more comfortable and freaky with him.... i have 4 girls and 1 boy and after my twins it was even better that is how i got my son...wink wink

obtw the first two were natural the twins and the boy were c section

Answer 10

With my daughter i did not have a intercourse force until I end breastfeeding her at 14 months previous. Then I progressively have been given my intercourse force back. For my son after i ultimately have been given my era back at 11 months i finished up getting my intercourse force back while he became into around 365 days. he's now 13 months and that is not back to while we did not have babies yet I a minimum of crave it each now and then. i'm guessing that some day that is going to likely be back to prevalent purely uncertain while. in case you're breastfeeding often times it does take lots longer to return back because of the fact your hormones are nonetheless loopy and it will take a on the same time as for you physique to get to prevalent. Like I mentioned in the previous it took until i finished breastfeeding with my daughter and with my son It took until I have been given my era back. in case you at the instant are not breastfeeding then you incredibly purely could wait until your hormones cool down and your physique gets back to prevalent. all of us is distinctive yet i'm specific you will get it back some day. i'm hoping this facilitates. i know it remains slightly obscure whether it rather does remember on your physique and the variety you attempt to get your physique back to being aroused. attempt a particular date night that's surely romantic a week whether you do not have intercourse or something that is going to hold you closer on your fiance that could help interior the intimacy branch. That labored slightly with me and my husband. bear in mind it does take time.