My boyfriend and I will be together a year in Febuary and we are committed to each other. We talk all the time of getting married after college and having a family. Our parents want us to wait til after school to get engaged. So promise rings came up... is that a good thing rather than engagement? I thought about it and i wasn't sure. Any personal opinion would be appreciated.
-michelle
2006-12-08 15:26:17 · 18 answers · asked by kylebaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that is a great idea =) The ring is about committment and love whether you call it an engagement ring or a promise ring. Plus, since it sounds as though you are both in college, the promise rings most likely won't take a big of cut out of your budget. Congrats =) and good luck in school
2006-12-08 15:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Promise rings are a waste of money. They are a promise to get engaged to be married someday. Anyone I have ever known that did the promise ring thing ended breaking up and never getting engaged for real later. Do not buy a ring for your BF. Men don't wear promise rings. He will not tell anyone that it is a promise ring because his friends will call him gay if they knew the truth. So basically your gift of a promise ring will be pointless because he will deny to anyone within ear shot that it is not a promise ring, just a plain old ring you gave him as a gift. He will probably tell people you gave it to him for his birthday or christmas. And promise rings are suppose to be worn on left hand ring finger so if he is wearing a metal ring it will look like a wedding band. Skip the rings and just promise to be faithful to each other until you are both ready to get engaged and married for real.
2016-03-29 00:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think that promise rings are sorta silly. My fiance and I just got engaged and haven't set the date yet. We're both in college and he wants to wait until we're out so we're not too flustered to enjoy our wedding. Personally I want to get married sooner rather than later but we're probably still at least 2-3 years off from the date at the earliest. There's nothing wrong with having a long engagement. In fact I think it's better to wait so you're really sure since marriage is a lifetime commitment.
2006-12-08 16:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's fine, definately. It is also practical, as promise rings are generally pretty plain with only small diamond (or whatever stone you like) chips.
That way, you can save up for a nice wedding set later on, when you are planning your wedding.
I don't see any problem with going ahead and getting engaged, since there's no time limit on how long you can be before you must get married. I've been 'engaged' for several years now, and we are just barely beginning to plan our wedding.
We've been together since high school and had originally planned to be married this past summer after college was finished, but I got pregnant so we pushed the wedding date back a year. We didn't want to huge things going on at once.
If you are really ready for the next step, go ahead and pick out a ring together, one like a promise ring. But treat it like an engagement ring. Don't go overboard with it, you know. Don't suddenly start introducing him as your fiance, stick with boyfriend. But just know between the two of you that you already are engaged, and when you are ready to set a date, there's no need for an engagement party or announcement of any of that silly stuff.
Good luck and congratulations!
2006-12-08 16:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, a promise ring is a promise to eventually get engaged. And engagement ring is a promise to eventually get married. So, if this is just a prelude to engagement and marriage will come shortly after engagement. I see nothing wrong with a promise. Also, this is a good way to save for your wedding set. Good Luck.
2006-12-08 15:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by dnisey64 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with your Parents, why not wait til you finish with your schooling, before committing yourself. A Promise ring sounds good because if you are truly meant for each other a ring is insignificant. Also, you might want to explore the World before tying down as a married Couple after College. Good Luck to you both.
2006-12-08 15:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by lousylaus 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My honest opinion is that promise rings are really meaningless, and kind of for high schoolers. But anyway, I see that you respect your parents' advice but I don't understand how getting engaged now can hurt your schooling, if you wait to get married. Many people have 4 year engagements now a days. So I would just go ahead and get engaged and plan your wedding for the summer, fall, winter, or spring after you graduate.
2006-12-08 15:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is a good thing that you guys love each other and think about the futur. Perhaps, your parents are right. Fnish your studies first and go for the wedding. There would be financial problems and such. They won't always be there to help you. Go for university if you can. It is good for your futur, children and make your family proud. If you guys are in love and loyal, what's the rush? Soon or later you guys will get married right? even if you guys get a preomise ring, it won't change anything to your relationship.
2006-12-08 18:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Promise rings...I think it's stupid bc it reeks of insecurity and immaturity...you don't need a ring to be committed, and you haven't been together long enough (at yout age anyway) nor seen enough of the world to make that decision.
Forget the idea of rings...it's like convincing yourself you're engaged, and you need to realize that you aren't. Which is a good thing. You're too young!
2006-12-08 18:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes
me and my soon to be husband
done a promise ring then a little later i got my engagement ring
and now we are going to get married on the 23rd
i love the thought of both of my rings i cried both times
2006-12-08 15:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by GINA D 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋