My family and I moved to Monterrey, Mexico. We were supposed to work with my uncle and his family in a school that teaches English in Monterrey. He promised us 25% of the money the school got, he pays us $100 dollars a week. Just enough for groceries and toilet paper. I got Kicked out of school here because a bunch of people kept challanging me to fights because i was the Guy from the States. If i showed weakness, they would have bullied me, so i stood my ground. There was a fight that 50 people went too and i got kicked out.Its been a year since i have really talked to anybody i feel so lonely i sound like a wuss right now i just feel so lonely. Even though people have called me Handsome, i seem to be shy of pretty girls and once at a mall a pretty girl tryed to talk to me and ignored her and she thought i was a jerk and gave up. my family doesnt have money, i dont have any friends down here, i just spend my days walking and excersizing in Monterrey, Mexico. How can i cheer up?
2006-12-08 15:21:57 · 21 answers · asked by burndog7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you for the answers. it means alot to me. Knowing that people care might make this whole ordeal easier. God bless you.
2006-12-09 04:27:58 · update #1
Get some friends! I'm sure there are some people around who would befriend you, even though there are some idiots. If that doesn't work, get a hobby. It's kinda bad that you don't have any money. Is there any chance that your family could move back to the US? That would be ideal. Especially if your uncle and his family is chating your family. Your family could work better jobs than that, maybe. Good luck!
2006-12-08 15:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel in a way... I am kind of the outcast of my school, because I am the girl that challenges everything and avoids socializing when possible. Don't worry, you'll find a friend. Right now it seems like you're just never going to find anyone, but you will. Something will click. You don't have to be shy around pretty girls! Consider this: if you talk to a pretty girl, have a conversation that you enjoy, and then ask her out, do you think she'll say yes? I think she would. If she approaches you, then she's obviously interested in you. What have you got to lose? Don't just duck your head and blush (well, we think the blushing is actually kind of cute but don't be too shy). Take some chances. Learn how to avoid conflict, and if you do get into it try to learn different techniques of how to verbally cause the other person to back down. Remember: "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face." This is a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt that I love, and I think it might apply to your situation. Don't be scared. You'll make friends. :) You just have to trust people.
Amelia
2006-12-08 15:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by stratocaster lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it sounds like you are really in a tough situation...you sound like a smart person...have you talked to the rest of your family about the problems with your uncle? As for the shyness problem with girls, use the same braveness you have to try to talk to a girl or girls you think are nice..remember, the most beautiful person, girl, in the world still feels shy and insecure at times, some of the girls you see are shy, too...just remember that they are jsut regular people like you...you are never alone, remember, God loves you. Things will get better, try to be strong, we ALL get depressed at times, there is not one person on earth that has never been depressed! Good luck to you.
2006-12-08 15:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by jennycf2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh... Sumthing! Those Are Things That Could CHEER YOU Up, Uh... Make Friends In a Mexican Musical Band, Or Have A New Pair Of Maracas, & Have A Girlfriend Called Dora The Explorer. Maybe not. OOOOOKKKK! I DO Think So.
2006-12-08 15:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by Christian 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound very intelligent.. and sounds like you ARE handsome too. Everything takes time. Go out of your way to talk to girls.. (force yourself). Try and get involved in some activities. And what about getting a different job? Most people meet good friends at their jobs. Keep your chin up.. things get better with time.. You never know what fate will bring you.
2006-12-08 15:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you know English, use it to your advantage. Use it to get girls, they like that overthere. You have to be daring. In South America some girls actually are the ones who look for conversation first, so i imagine in Mexico is the same. Dont be scared or embarrassed because of that, its normal. Do you play Soccer? I know there must be a place near you where ppl play soccer. make some friends there.
2006-12-08 15:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by complexc25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to people. If you are spending your days walking around then surely you come in contact with people and things of interest. I believe that in some instances people become depressed because they choose to sulk in their own misery. Surely you can find constructive things to do. What other choices do you have? You have to make the best of a bad situation. What can better help you than new friends and activities? Don't succumb...beat the odds. You can do it!
2006-12-08 15:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you are doing right by getting out and exercising.
Get back into school if you can.
If you have insurance try to go to the Dr.
Go to the popular hang-outs.
Introduce yourself, I know this is hard as I am shy myself, but you will get grand rewards.
Hope all goes well for you and remember it is always darkest just before the dawn
2006-12-08 15:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by hurricanemercedes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey. do something fun. what do you have fun doing the most? do that for a whole day. do you have a girlfriend? if you dont, go search for one. if you have one, spend a day with her. are you clinically depressed? if so, go to a psychiatrist. i feel for you. i had this same problem and it almost ruined my life, but now im taking medication. I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder which is mixed with the depression, so i know how it feels. I REALLY hope you feel better soon. God bless you!
2006-12-08 15:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by blah b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard one. I guess the only thing 2 do is idk i'm not good with this type of stuff, and your info was to long that i didnt' want 2 read it all so i only read the 1st and last couple of sentences. So anyways from what i read the only thing to 2 is get out of the house and start meeting new people. Try joining a club or sport. That is always fun!
2006-12-08 15:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ern Bucket 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋