2006-12-08 15:18:21 · 23 answers · asked by mna 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Call the police, get a restraining order, change the locks, get a lawyer, what about your kids father (he might go after him).
DON'T put up with it. You have kids that are affected. The police department can put you in contact with resources (the local hospital can, too)
2006-12-08 15:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that shelter didn't work because of no day care find one that has one...Ask Family, contact the police, get a protecive order not restraining order they are a lot better and free, if he breaks the restraining order they will just slap his hand and say don't do it again where as a protective order if he breaks it he will go streight to jail. I was in an abusive relationship for 4 yrs I know what it is like. Talk to a Family Advocate they specialize in these situations they can help u get to a safe place they can help u get a protective order in place THAT DAY, you can find one at the local police station and if u can't just ask the people at the police station where you could find one they should be able to give u a phone number so u can contact one. Contact Devision of Child and Family Services because children are involved they will and have to help you. You have so many options sweetie you just need to make the calls if u don't have a phone or a car take the public transportation and get somewhere that either can help or does have a phone so u can call for help. If you need any more advice or help u may contact me on messenger or through e-mail immortalbeloved16@yahoo.com
Good Luck hun I hope this helps.
Kat
2006-12-08 17:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, the Women's shelter is a MUCH BETTER environment than living with an abusive BF. If I was a kid...I'd rather be flat-broke in a shelter, than watch my Mommy get beat up every day.
There are options. I work at a YMCA. They are nationwide and have programs. I just signed up a lady for membership today who is living in a Shelter, has an 8,9,and 10 year old. She isn't working but wants to find a job. The YMCA has childcare for discount. We are going to provide daycare so she an work and get back on her feet.
Women all over the country deal with this every day. Shelters are dedigned to get you out of the situation, and provide you with options. DHS can provide FREE childcare as well. Demand options, demand services......demand a better life for your kids! Get out of that BF's home hon.
Good luck.
2006-12-08 17:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by momof2kiddos 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Better safe than sorry." Do you have relatives you can stay with until things get sorted out? Friends? Otherwise, the shelter is your best bet. The shelter has programs to help you in many ways: counseling, home, school, etc. Give your self and kids a chance and don't be so stubborn. This is a time for flexibility and courage to face new (and better) options/challenges.
Best wishes.
2006-12-08 15:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Rhonda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is just beating you up, they clearly you need to loose him, no matter what. But I know a lot of people that have gone through this. In almost every case where the man is beating up the woman, there is a cause. The cause may be a drug problem, on the part of one or both parties, or somthing else.
I think the most common reason is the women is being verbally abusive. I have seen many cases where some little thing pisses off a women. Something like, her man works too late, or perhaps he overcooked her eggs, or one of his friends called the house late at night, he forgot her birthday. She will start verbally abusing the man. She will follow him from room to room, yelling at him. He will lock himself in a room to get away, and she will kick down the door. He will get in his car to leave, and she will attempt to close the garage door on him. He just gets to the point where he can't take it any more, and he will lash out (somtimes viloently).
I have dated several woman that told me that their ex beat them up. In every case the woman was also very verbally abusive. I honestly think that may be the reason.
I just walk away from women that do that sort of thing, but not all men will do that.
If you are verbally abusive tward him, then please don't be. You might be able to fix your relationship.
Please don't think I am picking on you. If he had placed a question on the internet stating, "My GF is verbally abusive" I would try to get him to look into his own behavyor as well.
Good luck to both of you!
2006-12-10 18:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by Marvin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So leave him, find a pro bono lawyer and file for child support. You say a shelter isn't an option...yet you don't give a viable reason. State/county shelters will supply day care options as well as help you look for and get a job. What about your family (parents siblings/cousins/aunts, uncles etc)
2006-12-08 17:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shelter is an option. Each town has a woman's shelter. If the one in your town doesn't work, try going to another cities. That may be the better decision anyway.
2006-12-08 15:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by JT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call 911 the next time he starts in on you, Call social services, go to any church ask for help!
We all can tell you what to do ....however you've got to make the choice.
If he hits you , does he hit the kids...how long before he starts in on them?
These are things you needs to think about...or heaven forbid he killed you...would he get custody of the children.
You know in your heart what you need to do.....and it may be hard to do....however in the long run it will be so worth it.
Best wishes....
as far as the comment about getting a gun or hurting him....what good as a mother will you be if you're in Jail? Just a thought
2006-12-08 21:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the police and turn him in, don't be stupid and let him keep on hitting you. what happens if he hits one of your kids. better yet, what happens if your kids end up finding you died because of him hitting you. also the police will help you with somewhere to stay. if you don't want to do that there are places live churches that will put you and your kids up in a motel for a week or two. and there are some social service places that will do the same thing call the city hall in your city and they can get you referral or call the savation army or the united way. they will do the same thing. call the house of ruth. they will do the same thing for batter women.
good luck, i was in that same situation
2006-12-08 15:27:40 · answer #9 · answered by peggy1purple 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK well you need to get out of that you or your kids should not be around that. If you have family or any friends you can stay with go there. NO ONE should ever hit you. Leave for you and your kids. Good Luck
2006-12-08 15:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋