What is the perfect age to have your first baby?

Question

Does the number of years you've been married afect or change this?

Answer 1

Honestly, I don't think there is a "perfect" age. The role of parent is something you never are really prepared for. Once you have children, your life changes forever and you need to realize that your children come before anything and everyone else. Are you willing to make that sacrifice? As far as the number of years goes, that's also hard to say. As time passes, you get settled into a routine that is hard to change when a child comes into the picture. Having children right away does not give you the opportunity to enjoy yourselves as a couple first or allow you to see how you work together to resolve problems, issues, etc. VERY important when working together to resolve parenting issues. A lot to consider, but at the end of the day, it's all worth it no matter how old you are or how long you've been married.

Answer 2

There is no such thing as a perfect age to have a baby. People are all different and what works for one person may not for another. I was 25 when I had my first. I had also been with my husband for six years. For me that was the best time. I am so glad that my husband and I had a number of years together before we changed things up by having a child. Having kids is stressful and I think having a strong marriage base is important and I feel that many couples who jump right in to having kids are making a huge mistake. They need to be a real, solid couple before they are parents. But for some people, it works. So, who am I to say? I'm now 32 and expecting my third child and my mom thinks I'm nuts because I'll still have kids at home when I'm 40. She had both of her kids out of the house and into college before she even turned 40. That was good for her because that was what she wanted. That doesn't concern me so much. I'm actually hoping to try for a fourth baby in another 2 or 3 years.

Anyway, my point is that there is no perfect age. I waited. My mom had her kids young. It is all about personal preference and your own situation. What works best for you?

Answer 3

I belief at 30 a person basically had formed an identity and knows what they want and have made of there life so you have more to offer a child as far as you have built character, trust, identity, commonsense, and spirituality you can pass on to your child

No it doesn't matter how long you've been married but I do recommend if you don't have kids yet take parenting classes before you become a parent that way you can have a better understanding of what is going on and how to handle it trust me it really helps a person as far as raising children with pride and with high self esteem.

Answer 4

Probably between 25 and 35. Granted, if you have been married only a short time, you might like time before you have children, because they don't go away. Square away some of your plans for making/earning a living, it is hard to go to college or night school when you are breastfeeding. I think you have more personal strength as you are a little bit older, some children are very trying and need a lot of good input from parents who can be patient and steadfast.

Answer 5

If you're married, it really depends on how much time you and your husband want to yourselves. My husband and I got married at 24 years old and waited 2.5 years to get pregnant. This gave us time to depend on each, become closer friends, travel, buy a house and save some money. We're pregnant right now and super excited about it. We have no regrets and not a fear about becoming parents emotionally or financially. After we got married everyone expected us to get pregnant right away, but we wanted some time alone as husband and wife. I'm glad we did because we've really enjoyed each other and now we can share that with our baby. I recommend that you don't wait too long to have a baby (age wise). Having children after the age of 35 is a health risk to your baby. Good luck!

Answer 6

The best age to have a baby is around 23-26. Everyone says it's best to do it when you are finacially stable but to some people that never happens. Or it seems to never happen. In your 20's you are young enough to chase a kid around and have more patience. If you wait until you are older you probably will be more financially stable but you won't have as much energy. Plus, if you have a baby in your 20's you can still enjoy your 40's after the kid moves out of the house after high school or college!

Answer 7

I think it all depends on the person you are. Some like to begin having children in their early twenties and some in their late thirties it really depends on a persons lifestyle. I do think marriage affects the decision, simply because both partners in the marriage need to agree on the situation. When you both feel the time is right and you're emotionally and finacially stable, then go for it and good luck!

Answer 8

Depending on your age 5 years after your marriage is good because you can get to know your man fully & save some money as well
25, 26 ,27,28 ,29, even 30 but no later because you will be to tired when they are teenagers when you have to wait up for them at midnight etc
& also if you are to old the school kids will say to your kids ( gee your mum & dad are old etc ) & that will hurt you & your kids

Answer 9

I would say 26 after being married at 24. I was married at 24 and would have liked to have my daughter at 26. I had her at 28 and I just feel a little old especially since we would like another

Answer 10

I don't think there's really a perfect age, I think it's when you and your husband are both ready. Its true that younger mothers will have energy, but slighty older mothers may be able to handle more and have more experience. They may also be more relaxed and understanding. Just remember that once you have a child your life will change forever!