Now she spends much more time with her friends and leaves me out of it. I'm left here to be on Yahoo Answers on Fri & Sat night instead of with her. What should I do? I've tried talking it over but she says she can't tell me her problems. Should I continue to hang in there and be Mr. Nice Guy all understanding?
2006-12-08 14:59:44 · 26 answers · asked by pank1024 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just let her know that you are there for her. Tell her that if she ever would like to talk about to just let you know. Then you can just let it be.
If she doesn't want to talk about it let her be. Let her come to you in her own time. Men cannot always understand what a girl is going through. It might be any number of touchy subjects.
Now I know what they are, & I'm sure that you could guess a few. But if she won't talk about it, that's her decition. Please show her that you respect that. And sonn enough she will more than likely come to you. Just wait for that time to come.
Hang in there man.
:)
2006-12-08 15:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jarod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are trying to be understanding if there is a problem but that you can't ignore your own feelings if she won't be open with you.
Emotional problems don't make a person distance themselves from their relationship and spend time with their friends (especially on the weekend).
Tell her how you feel and then tell her that maybe you better give her the time that she seems to need BY HERSELF.
If she doesn't respond then there's something else going on here.
2006-12-08 15:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to hurt. Get ready. It sounds as if the problem she might be having is you. It sounds like she wants to take a break perhaps. Going out on weekends w/out you is not about emotional problems. It is about going out without you. She cannot tell you what is up because, well, she does not want to hurt you or herself. Mr. Nice Guy deserves an explanation. Good Luck.
2006-12-08 15:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find your own thing to do on the weekend when she is hanging with the girls. Hang with some of your guy friends. Maybe your two circles will eventually start going out together again?
How old are the two of your? When my sister turned 18, she wanted to start going to the dance clubs and her bf didn't want to, so she went w/out him...I was just curious if she just turned 18 or 21 and is now just able to get into certain places...
2006-12-08 15:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship if you guys can't talk about her problems. You guys can't be very old.
You can be nice as you want, but I don't think you have much of a girlfriend who won't spend time with you.
Not sure if this is an emotional problem, if it is her parents need to take are of her.
Maybe you need a new girlfriend
2006-12-08 15:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of things that woman take personal i would write her a love letter telling her that you love her and you will always be here for her and even if she cant tell you what is going on you will always love her and be here for her.. no matter what seems to be bugging her i would buy her a rose and tell her that it is for her b.c you cant go a day let alone a hour without thinking of her and tell her you dont need nothing forx-mas b.c she is the best thing you could of asked for be romantic hopefully she lets you know what is going on with you..
2006-12-08 15:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by Beth m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be loyal. Sometimes there are things you can't talk to your lover about that you can talk to your friends about. If she acknowledges that she's having a personal dilemma that only her friends can really help her with, I guess all you can do is accept it and wait for her to come around. I would ask her if there's anything you can do to help and if the problem is you. She might be saying she needs space.
2006-12-08 15:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by Not You, Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, just be there for her cause you're her boyfriend...
Don't get offended it's probably some "girl" situation that she's comfortbale talking about to her friends.
Maybe she's afraid you won't understand?
Well, just continue being the "Mr. Nice Guy".
2006-12-08 15:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick in there for a little bit longer but tell her that if this relationship is gonna go further shes gonna have to open up.. Be open and tell her that hey i feel unimportant in your life things need 2 change or we through.
2006-12-08 15:06:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run baby run!! Maybe you are the problem. Have you thought about that? Prove you really are a nice guy and excuse yourself from her life. You dont need somebody piling extra baggage on your shoulders.
2006-12-08 15:35:25 · answer #10 · answered by Nile Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋