What are normal and abnormal signs to look for be sure if you are adjusting or falling into something worst?
2006-12-08 14:54:09 · 7 answers · asked by Johnny R 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
This is for people who have lost someone to cancer, but it applies to everyone.
http://www.cancersurvivors.org/Coping/end%20term/stages.htm
2006-12-08 15:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kacky 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different, but after losing a loved one recently and chatting with many people, I do hear two years seems to be some sort of magic number. Not when the hurt just suddenly disappears, but when you start to be able to think of the person without crying, when the good memories are there and the pain is not there as often. Grief counselling, private or in a group setting works wonders. If anything, it helps so much to know that feeling horrible is normal and that you don't have to feel better.......you need to allow yourself this grieving and healing. Take care.
2006-12-08 15:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by alwayslarat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi It is no set time to recover from grief. Are you still in grief theropy and reaching out to others who can support you. If you feel so deeply depressed you might hurt yourself I suggest seeing a doctor who might prescribe an antidepressant. Have you made a shrine to that purpose, and in the case of a spouse, do you sabatage the relationship when you feel you are getting too close because you feel you are betraying your deceased loved one. Another thing to consider iss are there children involved and do you have enough emotional and physical strenght to take care of them. Remember that person will always be with you in your heart and do not want you to be sick but to get on with your life and be happy. If you are a parent going to Parents Without Pardners will be a support group and give you an opportunity to help new people in the group. I suggest you do not put a set time to stop griefing. Times like birthdays and Christmas are always difficult. Missing a loss is normal and saving something of theirs that mean a lot to you is OK. Do not isolate yourself from others. They may think you are doing OK and you will bring the topic up. It will take time and I hope you take good care of yourself[getting enough sleep and eating adequate meals.] Take care my friend
2006-12-08 15:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you wish to obsess on the loss. You could chose to rejoice in the fact that you have been honored to know or love someone that has now gone. at least you got to experience such things, or you be selfish and indulge in YOUR loss. Choice is yours....look at the good or look at the bad.
Looking at the good is much more rewarding and isnt something you need to "recover" from.
2006-12-08 15:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by Old Cynic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you never get over it. Sorry. You just learn to deal with the pain and and become more skilled at masking your pain to other. It's like if they drilled a screw into your bone. Years later it will still hurt but you've learned to cope with the pain better. Use mental techniques to disassociate yourself from it, like using yahoo answers, or prayer.
2006-12-08 15:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by Professor Armitage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cannot dwell on one person there is more people out there that would love to have someone to talk to or just to hang out with go on with your life i bet they did
2006-12-08 14:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by nikki_77327 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont know that you can ever go back to normal...
2006-12-08 14:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋