I have a self made rule that no women meet my kids unless the relationship becomes serious (at least six months). I spend every other week end with them and won't date when I have them (this is non negotiable). I work all over the country and spend a lot of time in hotels and planes, so I can not call a woman every day.
I have met several women who are offended by these standards. Would this offend you or is this reasonable to you?
2006-12-08 14:54:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No this wouldn't offend me....It just shows me your very responsible with your children and work...I think most women would love that in a man.
i understand waiting a few months about the children cause you want them to get to like the idea of you dating someone other then being with their mother...i think thats a lovely idea...then of course the women your dating getting used to you having children also. Especially if that women doesn't have children herself..
I mean she just has to be patient enough to be with you..she has to have a good heart too.
like me i've dealt with long term relationships alot. so i've known how to be patient with guys if i'm not going to hear from them in a few weeks...communication is a major key....
now if i wsa the women you were dating...i would be fine with waiting to meet your children that long and would just have my phone next to me..so when you do call i'm their to pick it up..of course i'm sure your reasonable to fix that schedule of yours...to make both parties happy to make sure we don't lose commuication or knowing each other.
i think if we both liked each other at the end of the day...no matter if your in another town or country..it shouldn't matter how we get a hold of each other... and missing each other isn't all that bad either...i don't mind missing my man...makes it all exciting when i seee him again...
so no i wouldn't be offended...sorry if this was long lol
2006-12-08 15:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely reasonable. Your kids have to come first. Any woman who is offended doesn't "get it" and is probably not going to work out anyway, so no loss. Good way to sort out who is really serious about a mature relationship with you.
2006-12-08 23:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all sounds reasonable to me. It says a lot about you that you don't let her meet your kids until it's serious. That says you are committed to your children and don't want to bring anyone into their lives unless it's for real. If a woman can't understand that, she isn't worth having.
2006-12-08 22:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the part about not meeting your children is admirable. They shouldn't see lots of women coming in and out of your life.
The not calling is questionable. Depends, again, on how serious you both are. If a man just told me....hey, don't expect me to call much, I would get bored and move on.
2006-12-08 22:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by Scunnered! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are for life, romancies come and go. You are doing a reasonable thing and any woman with heart will accept this. You're a good dad.
2006-12-08 22:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by tahanni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds reasonable to me.
2006-12-08 22:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem reasonable, although I want to take the women's side! ;)
2006-12-08 22:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it is very reasonable; unless you have been doing her.
2006-12-08 22:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by partyalldaydanceallnight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its quite reasonable....its not their kids
2006-12-08 22:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by GROOVY LILY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U SOUND SWEET
2006-12-08 23:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋