I need some serious advice! I have an 18 year old sister who has a mental problem..well a few days or less before my mom was going to give birth to her my mom had to have surgery and her appendix was taken out. So the drugs that they put inside of my mom affected my sister. But anyway my sister doesnt have the mental capacity to do things like my brothers and i can like reading or being able to do school for her age. That makes her really upset and her anger really comes out. Shes always looking for trouble and starting fights everyday because of this. It gets really scary sometimes because she hurts us or she might try to hurt herself or one of us again. Im christian so i pray about her healing and she has been getting better. But sometimes she starts up again. I just need help on what to do when things get out of hand when my parents arent home.
2006-12-08 14:53:25 · 10 answers · asked by Questions ^_^ 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sorry for any spelling and punctuation mistakes
2006-12-08 14:57:16 · update #1
Thats what i mean rtc 3. mentally challenged and i dont know understand why you think i have a problem its just i was upset and didnt put the words out right.
2006-12-09 03:21:14 · update #2
Thats what i mean rtc 3. mentally challenged and i dont know understand why you think i have a problem its just i didnt put the words out right cuz i was upset. I LOVE MY SISTER TO DEATH!
You didnt have to say it like that
that was mean
i am helping her!
2006-12-09 03:22:45 · update #3
Rtc 3 i know that to be able to understand her i would have to walk in her shoes
I know that!!
Why do you have to be so mean!?
2006-12-09 03:24:32 · update #4
i know exactly what your talking about
i know that feeling sorry for her will make it worse
im going through the same thing as you
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2006-12-09 03:28:44 · update #5
Thank you Female
2006-12-10 06:23:12 · update #6
Sounds like a tough situation. I work with folks who have cognitive impairments like I think you're describing. You're right, they can be very frustrated sometimes, knowing that they can't easily learn things that other people can. Sometimes they act out and hurt people.
First I would recommend telling your parents that you are scared to be alone with her. If they don't respond, talk to the school social worker or psychologist, they will want to help your family get the resources they need to involve your sister in constructive activities, and maybe therapy to help her with her frustration.
Families don't always know the resources that are available for them and their loved ones in the community. I work for the ARC as a therapist, and there are so many services we provide throughout the country. And I work with families, too, to help them develop better strategies at home, or even just to listen to their feelings. And there are other agencies like mine.
Good luck. Email if you have any more questions.
2006-12-08 15:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I had a sister like yours only my mother had a hard time at birth. You my sister was born with in a similar way. I loved my sister with all my heart and took care my self. I would not let any body make fun of her or hurt her. I took all the time I had to read to her and help raise my two brothers while my parents worked. It was tough for a person that was only 7 years old. I was blessed with such a sister.
You sister is just upset because she is different and she sensitive to your actions as well as the rest of you. Do not feel sorry for her this only feeds the anger. Tell her every day of her life how much all of you love her. There are hundred's of help program for your family. Call social services and ask them what can you do for your sister. They can help and teach you how to handle this challenge.
By the way it is not a mental problem for her. It is you that has the problem. You sister is mentally challenged and needs your love to feel equal. Sometimes you need too walk in her shoes.
2006-12-08 15:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by rtc_3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you have to be in the process of dealing with something like this.
I would talk with your parents and ask them if there's something else they can do so you don't have to be their alone with her if you feel uncomfortable with her alone. Or i would ask them if possibly you could seek counseling to help out with your worries about the situation because i understand you feel this way but i also understand you might feel guilty for feeling certain ways. And it'd just give you some time to talk freely with an outside person about everything going on with you- because i would think her probably gets more attention then you. Also as you say- pray, let Him help you thru this trying time, and also give Him some of the slack for helping the sit. than feeling like you should always be the helper right now. Live your own live as well!
2006-12-08 15:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by answers4questions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, sounds like she needs some sort of anger counseling. If she has a mental problem she should be in close contact with doctors or a psychiatrist, if she is hurting your badly you might want to consider getting a home nurse or placing her in a group home if she is an adult and is too much for you.
2006-12-08 14:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by Max_Gio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I suggest that you talk to your Mom. Ask her for suggestions on what to do since she knows your sister best. Is she on any medication for her mental problems. Keep praying and stay strong in your faith. God helps you more than you know.
2006-12-08 14:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by colee97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is your sister being seen or treated by any doctors? she may need to be on special medications which can help her stabalize her moods so she can be happier and more productive. there are lots of people with similar conditions, and these conditions can be treated by special therapies (with and without medications), but the therapies must be administered by the proper doctors.
2006-12-08 14:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by Elaine T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ee............. i would be scared too because we never know what can happen but GOD!! is so strong and mighty and he can do any thing. well the only way i can help is my praying so i will pray for you not only for you but your family as well.
GOD BLESS
God loves every one =D
2006-12-08 15:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Female 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents should seek pro help to see what they can do for her.
2006-12-08 14:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she could bring full awareness to this anger, it could not be anger.
2006-12-08 16:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by unseen_force_22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
church or therapists or just pout a movie on and sit her infront of tv
2006-12-08 14:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by LIL Shady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋