was going just like this morning she said that she had to go to work at 10:00 am and then she called her manager and said that he said come in at 3:00pm that wasn't the deal deal than she asked my neighbor what she was doing at 3 and knowing i go to work at 3:00 so i called her boss and he said she was fired for being lately and not calling my boyfriend and i thought she was going to work but all a lie!! she loves her father and she acts like a baby and thats good she loves her father but she lives with me and she needs to show me respect to she has everything that a girl neeeds we like her boyfriend come over and stay late at night we trust her with that but thats going to stop also she doesn't go to school she finished early all i ask is she would get a job and maybe she needs to move in with her father would that be wrong to ask him to take her now not just for me everybody i don't keep her away from her father because he does live in flordia and she wants to goso what should i do?
2006-12-08 14:40:11 · 4 answers · asked by lorettaq_25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to just be honest with her and state your case as her mother. Let her know how you feel and don't hide how you feel. Let her know that she has to respect you as her mother because you deserve it with all that you put up with from her. Teach her to find balance; it's not hard especially since all you need her to do is find a job. Just tell her to hold on to a job and all her major necessities are at the house including her boyfriend. Put your foot down and be a mother!
If she loses this job, just send her to her dad and that's it.
2006-12-08 14:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing letting that boy stay at your home late? Are your supervising them? That girl needs tough love. Would her behaviour really change living at her dad's place? Why don't you have a job that is during her school hours so that you can be available to her the rest of the day? You are neglecting her with your late shift job. Whether she likes it or not, or would even acknowledge it, she needs you. She probably doesn't feel that you are available for her. I suggest counseling for the both of you. You need to learn about tough love & apply it. I savvy your difficulty with her being her age. It's hard, I know. Trust in God. Get advice from professionals & maybe some of your friends. I wish you well.
2006-12-08 15:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, stop and take a breath. Next, set some rules for her. Finally, find out why she doesn't live with her father. Are you the mother? Chronic lying is a sign of child abuse. While I certainly can not say this girl has been abused, she obviously has some problems and you should try to get her some therapy.
2006-12-08 14:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's still under your control, so confront her on her lies. Take away all her privledges and make her earn them back by getting another job and proving that she is keeping it by showing you the weekly pay stubs.
She'll be pissed but needs to learn she can't walk all over you.
2006-12-08 14:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋