My ex-boyfriend and I were together 2 years and a half. We broke up this summer. I loved him soooo much, but i had to split up the relationship because he though I owned him, he was very controller, and very very very jealous. I couldn't do anything without him and i had to do it. He hated me for a time and he began to go out with another girl quickly. I remembered him sometimes but I never told anyone anything.
The problem came 1 week ago, when he phoned me telling that he had broken up with his girlfriend, and he had changed because he really loved me....
I'm alone now, but i'm comfortable and very well.
I've said to him a thousand times not to talk to me anymore, but he doesn't take care. What can i do with him??????????? It's just I don't wanna be rude, i apreciate him
2006-12-08 14:38:59 · 19 answers · asked by belen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
even though you do appreciate him...he didn't with you...with him controlling you and all...he has some major trust issues...and has a temper i'm sure too.
i wouldn't want to be around someone who would make me uncomfortable and unhappy no matter how much you love them..cause its not the same love your getting in return...
so you need to remove yourself from him completely..that means changing your number and doing what you can do avoid him..you told him no and that should be enough of an answer for him.
i know it will be tough cause you don't want to hurt him and i'm sure your a nice girl too and doesnt' want to feel bad over it..but sometimes you just have to be mean and to the point..you said your comfortable and happy...
so it just answers your question...of not going back with him..
have friends and family know about this too..make sure your not alone at nights in case you do feel he might do worst to you..i'm sure he won't but you never know..
2006-12-08 14:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, This is a very serious matter, I have been there and recognize signs of domestic violence. Over posesive men may seem cute in the begginning, but never allow that to even start. I really believe within my heart that you owe it to yourself to give yourself a chance to find out what you want for a change. No you do not want to be rude with him, but darling you can not be rude with yourself, and to make matters worse put yourself at risk. A very heartfelt conversation with him could be the magic trick, but then only you know how he could respond,. I wish you all the best, please keep safe and above all strong, Remember we are self sufficient, we are all unique. If your ex does not get the message even after a conversation, you should look into other things for your safety. Just that with all the crazy things going on in this world, us girls can not be to safe.
2006-12-08 14:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appreciate him for what, he controlled your life and I expect the other female had sense to get rid of him, when he tried to do the same to her.
You gave yourself the best thing going, your freedom and life. Be rude if you have too as this guy is a loser. You can do better than that, you need to find a guy who RESPECTS you. Not CONTROL'S you
2006-12-08 14:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by next1vfr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa now,
Your ex maybe wanting immedate comfort from his breakup with his girlfriend.
I know you probably feel love for this guy, but you have to be careful. He may be using you for a emotional cushin for his broken heart.
I can tell you might be afraid he might not appreciate you, but it is a fear justified. Just take things slow, and gage his attitude towards you. If you need him, take him back... but be careful with dealing matters like these.
Take him back, but just be careful when dealing with those who have your heart.
2006-12-08 14:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by Kalsin C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me, being a guy, should know this-
Don't let him feel like your 'running back to him'
Just play along and see how it turns out, and if you're REALLY feeling it between you two, then take him back
Make him 'chase after you' a little bit, make him feel sorry for what he did..but not to, overly sorry, just enough to make him feel lucky to have you
Hope it helps!
2006-12-08 14:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him and tell him that you are happy and you don't want to date him anymore, that you have moved on, but you can still be only friends. Maybe he broked off with his other girlfriend because she didn't bow down to him. and its hard to believe that he could change that fast. but the only one that can tell you to take him back is you. follow what your heart says, and don't worry about hurting his feeling. Its better to tell him the truth than to lie. good luck.
2006-12-08 14:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woaaa.... what you need to do is ignore his phone calls and block his number. do not go bak too him. understand?? sometimes if you have a controlling husband or boyfriend or anything like that it can become worse and become abuse. which you do not want. and you never know maybe he did change maybe he didnt. but dont go back to him. he could be tricking you and you dont want that!
2006-12-08 14:42:27 · answer #7 · answered by courtney5839 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone number. He is just messing with your head cause he knows you want him back. Be stronger than him. He doesn't sound very nice or caring about you or anyone else's feelings.
2006-12-08 14:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all I dont think you should have anything to do with him, someone who tries to control you and hurt you, obviously doesnt mean that, that person loves you.
2006-12-08 14:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cannot have your cake and eat it to, take legal action restraining order to keep him from bothering you or let him back in your like, if this is the way you want to be treated, it will only get worse.
2006-12-08 14:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by sidekick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋