Question for sincere Christians: concerning sexual purity?

Question

being a single Christian i want to stay sexually pure until I meet and marry my wife in obedience to Christ.
There a lot of times when I want to engage in sexual acts and have had and could have the opportunity to do it.
Do you think that it is ok to buy condoms to keep for safety just in case something does happen or would this be considered willful expectation of fornication.

Answer 1

better safe than sorry!

Answer 2

Yes, buy condoms. That way, if something like that DOES come up, then you'll at least have some protection. Honestly, I think God would rather have a couple tablespoons of wasted sperm in a condom than a child that you either don't have the funds to take care of or will probably toss into the already-full adoption system (as I assume you won't be taking the abortion route should an unwanted pregnancy occur). And for those of you who are saying that it will encourage him to have sex...my college has been handing condoms out like candy since the beginning of the year (and the Women's Resource Center at my school has an entire basket of them up for the taking). I now have quite a few. However, it doesn't make me want to rush out and have sex (and, in fact, I'm still a virgin). It just gives me something to fall back on should a situation arise where I need one.

Like the first poster said: better safe than sorry. And at any rate, condoms can be so damn frustrating that by the time you've got it on, the mood'll have gone out the window.

Answer 3

I know your pain! LOL!

I have also been striving to preserve myself for marriage (it ain't easy lol). I, too, have had many opportunities to do otherwise, but to this day I've never crossed that line.

I don't know if you're Catholic, but if so, it is against the Church to use condoms. A lot of people jump up and down feeling this is stupid, that reality is different and people WILL sin, but the teaching is grounded in that we are supposed to keep ourselves chaste and pure. If we do that, then obviously there is no need for a condom.

It worries me also, what I might do, but at the same time, I know I'm not supposed to allow myself to be put near a close call like that. It's hard as hell most times, especially with everything we put up with. Do your best to stay focused and immerse yourself in prayer. The more it goes, the more I find out how little strength I have to avoid this, and how much I need Jesus to help me.

Hope this helps. God bless.

Answer 4

It would be safe unless you want to add having a child out of wedlock to fornication. I'm not christian, but it seems like a common thread between christians and non-believers is that we all make mistakes and go against our better judgement. You wouldn't want to bring an innocent life into the world under the circumstances " you were an accident"
As for the willful expectation part... thats up to you. You may buy them and in actually having them think "Would this please my god?" and decide the answer was no, and then be cured of your desire to sin against him. Just imagine the angels or whatever you believe is up there watching you. Do you really want to face them all one day and be like "Yeah about the condoms...."

Answer 5

yes I think it would be a good idea, to buy the condems. I commend you for your purity, you are safe guarding yourself from so many things by staying pure until marriage.Their is a reason God wants purity until marriage. I am sure He forsaw the disqusting filth that would have been eventual by sexual deviance. Although I am not nieve things happen dispite my beliefs I will still teach my children healthy safe sexual practices.

Answer 6

I'd say do not keep condoms available, if you're sincere about maintaining your self-proclaimed sexual purity. That would be the first step towards going the opposite way.

Answer 7

Along with all other kinds of sexual immorality, sex before marriage / premarital sex is repeatedly condemned in Scripture (Acts 15:20; Romans 1:29; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13,18; 7:2; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Bible promotes abstinence before marriage. Sex before marriage is just as wrong as adultery and other forms of sexual immorality, because they all involve having sex with someone you are not married to. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations that God approves of (Hebrews 13:4).



Sex before marriage has become so common for many reasons. Far too often we focus on the “recreation” aspect of sex without recognizing the “re-creation” aspect. Yes, sex is pleasurable. God designed it that way. He wants men and women to enjoy sexual activity (within the confines of marriage). However, the primary purpose of sex is not pleasure, but rather reproduction. God does not outlaw sex before marriage to rob us of pleasure, but to protect us from unwanted pregnancies and children born to parents who do not want them or are not prepared for them. Imagine how much better our world would be if God’s pattern for sex was followed: fewer sexually transmitted diseases, fewer un-wed mothers, fewer unwanted pregnancies, fewer abortions, etc. Abstinence is God’s only policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and most importantly honors God.

Answer 8

Buying condoms for safe keeping isn't what Jesus Christ wants you to do. Whenever you are tempted, pray to the Lord that He will keep you strong. And you will be able to stay committed to what the Lord wants you to do.

Answer 9

Do not do it. This is why one waits for the sexual act with your wife because you must be open to creating life. You are a partner with the Almighty in this. To only want the gratification is mere copulation. Be a man that God wants you to be and rise above the gut animal instincts.

Answer 10

That is a double edged sword. Yes you want to be safe if you have sex. But having them could also make the decision to have sex easier, when you might otherwise obstain. I choose not to keep them around and it seems to work for me.

Answer 11

I think if you buy the condoms you are planting the seed, and the longer you have them the seed will grow. And eventually your will act on your seed. In other words if you play with fire eventually you will be burned.