First off, I know and realize that Im better off than alot of people, so then I ask myself, WHY do I feel like a total mess?!?! It just doesnt make sense. The last time I remember being truly happy was when I was 9. Im 20 now and things feel like the same old drowning routine. I know it has alot to do with circumstances, like at that point of my life, we moved all the way across state, new everything. It's like with the move, I left myself there. I feel even more horrible when I try to talk to my parents about how sad and hopeless I feel. All they ever say is that I need to stop being stupid and get working on what I need to do to get on with life. They completely shut me off, sending me even worse off. I dont want to be the typical "emo", "I hate myself!" person, but I just cant control my feelings. My parents always say that Im inconsiderate, irritable, rude, mean, selfish, ungrateful, etc. I love them so much, but I cant show them my love when all they do is look down on me........
2006-12-08 14:04:44 · 10 answers · asked by Broken ♥ 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
like Im some disease. I feel worthless and like Ive failed their expectations, because they have said that themselves. Please.....please tell me that its going to be ok and that it will be better becuase I cant stand it anymore. Im not going to commit anything drastic, because I know its not the right answer. Ive done things to hurt myself that Im not proud of. Im just so lucky that He saved me from that. I do believe in Him, but its so much harder when Im going through all these emotions that are breaking me. The only reason im alive is because of Him, I know. But I just want to be blissful and smiling once again......
2006-12-08 14:08:48 · update #1
If you ask anyone else, Im just a normal person in everyday life, no problems whatsoever. But its all just a facade. Is that how alot of people are? Hide their feelings of sadness and sorrow, just to appear okay to someone else? Act all happy, when inside you're dying??? Is it even worth it?????
2006-12-08 14:11:53 · update #2
Ok, first of, God, does not put you on earth to hate your self. I think you are in a deep depression. It may help to stop and count your blessings, but talking out your problems with a doctor will help much more. When your parents start in on you, tell them how that makes you feel. Stand up for yourself. You are not worthless or any of the other things you say about your self. Your just lonely and sad.
2006-12-08 14:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given how your parents talk to you, it's no wonder you feel the way you do.
They don't seem to respect your feelings at all and discount how this move is affecting you. I think that is really sad.
I would suggest the following. You say you are 20, I hope you are working and in school working towards a degree of some sort. What do you hope to do with your future? Do you have plans? Focus on that.
Moving is traumatic, I've done is a lot myself and it is difficult to say the least. Here are some things to help with your transision: make new friends, find out your life goals, work towards those goals, get to know your new surroundings (play the tourist so to speak).
If you find you really don't like where you live, you are an adult, you can move back to where you came from and strike out on your own.
I would also suggest talking to a counselor about your home life. This professional can help you work out what is going on there with your parents. When someone constantly hears they are not good enough, they start to believe that. I suspect that is exactly what has happened here. Take care sweetheart, you are loved by God and are his precious child. I will pray for you.
2006-12-08 14:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey it's 3 in the morning where im from tired!!!! but think i have too answer u. Things will be okay u go through these phases its part of life but when u come out the other side u will be the stronger for it. So cheer up any time i feel really down i listen to bob marley 'don't worry be happy' I know it's weird/ maybe crap but u listen and u feel better. People care!!! this world isn't so heartless. So get on with life meet new people/ do new things/ and be happy, and gd luck with life!
2006-12-08 14:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by Andrew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all who is to say everybody is normal. Everybody has there own problems,and own ways of dealing with them.For example: When I was between the ages of 16 and 20 I Played junior hockey in Canada and I was making good grades,pretty girlfriend,nice car, and everybody thaught that Iwould be drafted into the NHL. And that I had Life by the ***.They could not of been more wrong.I was always depressed,Ididn't want to be around people.So I started drinking alot. Tried talking to my parents they thaught iwas crazy,because they thaught ihad Life made.Icouldn't talk to my coaches in fear of my hockey career.I didn't think I had anybody to talk to. My symptoms kept getting worse.Until I got drunk one night and attempted suicide.Thank God I didn't succeed.i finally found help from a psychiatrist. Iwent to him for 6 months.These people really do know what they are doing.GO AND SEE ONE! You will be amazed how much better you will feel.
2006-12-08 15:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by rush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, Its just a phase that you are going thru. Everyone at some point in their life goes thru the same thing. You are not alone to feel this way. Best thing is to realize is that what we feel is pretty much dependent on our emotions of our mind. Emotions change like the waves in the ocean and that changes how we feel about ourselves and others around us.
Best thing is that when you feel down, hang out with your friends and do something that you truely enjoy. Or maybe offer someone a helping hand.
2006-12-08 14:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you doing what you want? Maybe you are unhappy because your trying to figure out what other people expect of you. What you "should" want to do. Where do you want to be in life right now, think hard about what you really want, then get your *** up and get it. Be strong, don't give a **** about what other people expect you to do, your your own person. Find something that makes you happy, find a hobby, get a puppy, whatever. Or just give a big "F**k you" to anyone who tells you how you should be feeling. Do something postitive wth that emotion, get to a gym and punch something.
2006-12-08 14:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by Max_Gio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know the saying "parents just dont understand"
think of your move as a good thing. you get to start fresh in a new place. nobody there knows you. and any problems you had in the other place are there and they should be left there. you should please yourself before you, please your parents. as long as you are doing the best that you can do in life then you should not let your parents negativity make you sad. you should be happy with yourself.
most people do hide their feelings because they either dont know how to express them or they are afraid to. everyone is like that at some point in their life or another. it is normal.
2006-12-08 14:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jeremy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality is never the perspective with which we view it. In actuality, you're far more than you realize.
For example, you feel you're in this world? No, this world is in you.
Honestly, you'll probably not find that awareness on your path. And you cannot ever grasp it with the mind. So... why say it?
Just to point it out.
2006-12-08 16:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by unseen_force_22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling? Because believe it or not, they can and will help and understand you. You'd be surprised. Give it a chance.
2006-12-08 14:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by Kaykoura 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-08 15:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋