This girl and I went on a couple dates and lunch dates. She is 24 and just broke up with her bf. I heard she was doing stuff with him so I asked where things were at with him. She just said it was "complicated". I asked if that meant she was getting back with him or not and she refused to answer one way or another. I asked if she wanted to go out that weekend and she said things were too fragile but that she would like to go out in the future. Am I just waiting for nothing or why can't she seem to be honest if she is going with this other guy? Does she want to be friends or something or is she confused and trying to decide who to be with? I give up...
2006-12-08 13:15:41 · 9 answers · asked by Chuck J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is confused
2006-12-08 13:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is confused and needs time to heal from that break up, even before/even if she decides that she wants to go back to him. She needs to stop and think and sort out her feelings. In a way she's leading you on, but for the most part she's really not. She's torn between the two of you and her tie to him seems to be strong still.
You may really want to date her, but you're not helpping the situation or the process by pursuing her at this time--she's just not ready. When people break up with someone, they need time to heal and to literally fall out of love with that person before they're really ready to move on and focus on the next relationship and on what they want for the future, much less actually finding what they really want.
Give her space, perhaps even play the field and don't wait for her. Otherwise, you'll just make yourself confused as well and get frustrated by her mixed signals in the process.
Let go. Let go of romance with her. And, for a while, even consider making yourself scarce for a friendship with her; either may be possible in the future, but don't sit and wait, pressure, or push.
2006-12-08 21:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by answerme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds pretty confused and it sounds like she may be Trying to work it out one last time with her boy friend. She could be holding on to you just in case she and her boyfriend decide to call it quits. I would stay away from her and give her space to think things out. It sounds like it is a waste of your time talking to her about all this if she can't give you any straight answers. Let this girl go and find someone else who is worth your time. Don't get caught up in her DRAMA!
2006-12-08 21:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to get with a girl right after she breaks up with her boyfriend is not always a good thing. Women like to to think things are ok and that they are ready to move on but they arent always ready for that. I would back off her and if she wants you she will let you know. Not only that you dont want to be with someone that will not talk to you and open up now do you? They are other fish in the sea
2006-12-08 21:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Tyetta P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude she just broke up with someone she needs to breath! give her some time she will get back to u dont worry. it could take a week to a month but she will get back to u
if u really want her u will wait for her
2006-12-08 21:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by ¡ RocH oN iCe ! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is totally stressed out and confused. She still has feelings for her ex, but she likes you to. I would let her know that you would like to see her again once she gets things figured out, but for now I'd consider seeing other people. You shouldn't have to wait around...what if she doesn't pick you?
2006-12-08 21:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by Lacey C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give up she is just going through a tough time. let her be and take time off for yourself.in a few days ask if everything is ok and ask if she needs help with anything.
2006-12-08 21:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lowlow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if shes not being honest wit u, just move on, u can probably find other people, and wen shes ready shell come for u
2006-12-08 21:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by hello 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is most likely going to end up back with him. i say move on.
2006-12-08 21:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by spicysaucylatina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋