I have fallen for my ex boyfriend of 6 years friend. It is acutally his best friend. I know that he feels the same way a little bit becuase his roommate told me to just wait a little longer because of the friendship between the ex and his friend. The roommate also said the friendship between my ex and his friend is sorta not as strong as it used to be.
My ex's friend knows about my feelings but I havent talked to him about it. Should I wait or what?
Also, am i a horrible person for falling for his best friend?
2006-12-08 13:12:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not a horrible person. We covet what we see when we see it enough to want it.
You obviously have left this boyfriend but I am confused. Is it that he was with you for 6 years or was he an ex for 6 years. The grammer threw me.
If you have been with someone for six years that is kind of serious. But you both broke it off. If he still has feelings for you is what is important to guys. I am a guy. Normally a guy rule is 6 months after a break for a move on a friends girl. Some guys may feel never is better though depends on the guy.
It isn't like it will affect your relation with the ex right? It is more about how the ex and his friend will be affected. I would make your feelings known not all at once but feel him out and make damn sure you are right about how he feels then leave it up to his discretion.
I mean you aren't on an NBC sitcom or MTV's Real World right? :)
It will basically ruin your romance if he feels that he cannot see you because of his friend if he is really that close to him.
2006-12-08 13:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by BrianBucks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a horrible person. You haven't hurt anyone. You've said this guy is a friend of your ex-boyfriend. You can't always help who you fall for. However, you might want to make sure you are really falling for him, and that he isn't just a close, attractive guy friend. If you are falling for him, the roommate might be right. You might have to give it time. Your relationship with the boyfriend ended. And if the object of your affection wants to pursue you, he might have to choose to end the friendship. That's something the guys will have to work out amongst themselves.
It's a lot to go through. A lot to mull over while you're giving it time. You aren't the only person to go through it. You'll live, and you'll be wiser at the end of it, whatever the outcome.
2006-12-08 21:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by snippet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be concerned about your ex. Why? Because he's your ex. And no, your not a horrible person for falling for the new guy. I wouldn't invest yourself emotionally until you discuss your feelings with the guy you really like. Tell him how you feel and then see how he responds. He is obviously in an akward position. Hopefully your ex is mature enough to handle this. If he's not, than the guy you like may be afraid to date you, which is a shame and would totally be his loss. I would hope the guy you like is smart enough to realize what a great catch you are and will act accordingly.
2006-12-08 21:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You're not a horrible person. You can't help who you fall in love with. How close are you and your ex? Did you guys remain friends? If so, maybe if you told him, he would appreciate you telling him first before you acted on anything. But at the same time, rules are rules whether it's male or female. Women shouldn't date their friends ex's, and the same should go for guys. But if you feel that strongly for him, I would see it through. But think long and hard before you make your decision.
2006-12-08 21:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a horrible person. You have feelings. You need to follow through with your feelings. Your ex bf, if he dropped you, Will be happy that he no longer has to be concerned about you.
If his best friend has the hots for you too , your ex should be happy for him and you as well. move forward, you are lucky it sounds like you may have a good future.also sounds like you have integrity that you put other peoples feelings before your own feelings. good for you. gooooood luck
2006-12-08 21:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not a horrible person for falling in love with this guy. As far as talking with the one you care for, go ahead if it is right for both of you. Only you can tell that for sure. It sounds as though you are getting word that he knows you care for him but he is being cautious so as to not ruin any friendship he has with his bud. Look, go with your heart.....it'll usually be right.
2006-12-08 21:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by Leigh P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! you are entitled to your heart.you are free to make decisions that make you happy.your ex-is your ex. i would step up to the plate and batter up. talk to this guy you like and dont worry about the ex-boyfriend. ask him if he wants to go out and maybe go bowling or to the movies and be kind to the ex but enjoy your life without thinking you are doing wrong because you and your ex-boyfriend brokeup.
2006-12-08 21:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait a little while before making any quick moves. Stay friends wth your ex .. if you still are , great... but you have to start very slow on this one........There should never be a rush anyway.......
2006-12-08 21:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have ya done!
2006-12-08 21:13:17 · answer #9 · answered by hottie_n_ms69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhhh.................................yea.......................kinda.................yes are u a horrible person...sorry 2 break it 2 u
2006-12-08 21:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by teddy bear 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋