if it is acceptable to blame circumstantial situations for failures, how would you explain those who have grown up in abuse and neglect, yet are successful in life spiritually?
2006-12-08 12:58:26 · 8 answers · asked by herenthere 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I still stand firm on what I said Icheeknow...you don't know the circumstances that I personally have been through in my life...I hold the power of life and death in my tongue, and I don't want people making justifications and excuses for anything that I do...abuse? I dealt with it, and through JESUS CHRIST learned to deal with it, (forgive) and move on...same with the recent death of my husband...same with the insomnia I have, same with any other circumstance that is a part of my life....it is how I choose to percieve and react to these issues that makes the difference...
2006-12-08 13:20:30 · update #1
amen revfergy
2006-12-08 13:21:43 · update #2
Well I was abused as a child by my father in one form or another till I was 16 and I was also sexually molested by two men at the age of 12.
I had a lot of trouble with relationships but I over came them. Received the Lord as my Savior when I was 23 , started my preaching ministry at the age of 32 I am now 53 , I am still preaching . I have a Bachelor of Theology Degree
I give all the Glory to God he gave me the ability to forgive my father , and the two men who molested me . Is has not always been easy but knowing Jesus helped out a lot.
2006-12-08 13:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by revfergy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
counseled these for years, and you are making an oversimplification. While we are accountable the idea that u understand how another person is accountable is dead wrong. We can lovingly point out where something or action is falling short or how it might be done better and in the end there should be consequences for deliberately bad behaviors but to act in condemnation which has no chance of being corrected, and love restored is a wrong and pride motivated vindictive behavior.
Circumstances do play a part in every action. One who has been traumatized may have severely affected sleep. Should this person who has not slept well for years be expected to be cheerful, or as cheerful as that same person who had not been traumatised. Be realistic.
2006-12-08 13:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A big hello from another insomniac!
I'm very sorry to hear about all these struggles you have been going through, including the loss of your husband, may he rest in peace.
I'm not saying we can blame failure on circumstances, but we have to be understanding towards people who are going though a tough time, because things are much more difficult for them, especially if they don't have a strong faith. And we should not throw that to their faces, but help them through, and after that perhaps they will enquire into what is the source of our strength and joy.
And we should not forget that whatever our achievements are, they are part our work (our will to change) and part the result of God's help (the power to change).
2006-12-08 14:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by todaywiserthanyesterday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though we may grow up in many bad situations, we are who God intended us to be, and perhaps these bad things happen to build you up through life experiences to gain the knowledge and understanding to do God's will. We are all clay in the potter's hand.
A person may appear to be just a small nobody, like a puppy....example- But God may see you as a full grown Dog, hunting dog that knows who to point, a dog that knows how to get the birds.
2006-12-08 13:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by inteleyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a degree letting someone play the victim is okay if it enables them to rise above it and move on. However, at the same time they do need to take responsibility that they do not put themselves in future bad situations.
Children are of course excempt.
2006-12-08 13:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by Wyleeguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is acceptable when your looking at someone else's failure to be understanding and take into account an abusive background or whatever might have added to their problems. But when it's us, we have to be careful not to make too many excuses for ourselves so that we repent and not just excuse our behavior or bad decisions away.
2006-12-08 13:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people will continually see themselves as victims regardless of their circumstances and other will see themselves as individuals and not doomed to become a victim of circumstance.
2006-12-08 13:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by Marj 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We are. They did not attend on the grounds that they knew that we might have positioned them over the coals. Now inform me how Democrats have performed with their poisonous politicians like Gore and Kerry. Oh you revere them.
2016-09-03 09:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋