When my partner touches me, my skin burns and crawls unpleasantly. I can't breath or think, I just want to flee. It is really horrible. Being touched with fingertip is the worst. Being touched impersonally (such as bumping into strangers on the bus) does not bother me in the least. But being touched by someone I care for deeply is intolerable, and I constantly struggle to hide the way I react.
No, I have not been abused as a kid.
No, it is not because my parter is not right for me, this has happened with all my previous partners too. It is like a wall, or an invisible box I cannot escape.
2006-12-08 12:56:18 · 6 answers · asked by ags3y7 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You really should seek counceling to find out what it is, or you won't be able to get free of this fear.
2006-12-08 13:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it could be that the initial unpleasantness you feel is "the wall" and behind that is the fear of losing the people you love. This invisible wall comes across as a feeling that turns you away from your partner when really deep down you want to get close but are afraid to because it will be too emotional.
To let go and feel everything of what it is like to be touched by someone you care for can be a profound experience. (very emotional too) I think there are many people who distance themselves from that kind of intimacy or hold back from the full experience. Almost like people who have a difficult time making eye contact with someone they are talking to. It would be like a stranger walking up to you and running their fingers through your hair. That is intimate. For you I could be all wrong but it was a worth a shot. If you want to escape your invisible box I think you have to allow yourself to be touched and experience the unpleasantness and at that moment try to discover by questioning yourself, what it is that is stopping you from enjoying the experience. Good Luck.
2006-12-08 21:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by mia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start small. Hold hands, rub his shoulders, slow dance together, whatever. When your comfort level increases maybe your mind won't be so afraid of intimacy.
2006-12-08 22:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Max_Gio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel this way too. I have no explanation, but just to let you know you're not the only one.
2006-12-08 21:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by dolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm you might not be sexually attracted to the opposite sex?
2006-12-08 21:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by sexyshortie91 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This might be helpful
http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/
2006-12-08 21:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by LIz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋