My son is only 10 months and already throws tantrums?

Question

Do I just ignore this behavior? How do i get him to stop?

Answer 1

Whatever you do, do NOT ignore it. My older sister has a boy who is now 5 years old. She didn't control it earlier and now he rules her life. It's amazing what kids can make you do.

Answer 2

I'm the father of 3 - 11, 7 and 1 - my advice is not to ignore it, but certainly do not give in to his tantrums. You should tell him to stop - I know it sounds silly, but do it. Stand over him and tell him when he's finished you'll pick him up - and do it. Pick him up as soon as he finishes with the tantrum. That way you will reinforce the good behavior. Don't yell when he throws a tantrum, but be very calm. Talk to him in a calm voice while he is throwing a tantrum, letting him know that you don't like his behavior. Again, it may seem silly to "reason" with a 10 month old, but that's how he'll learn.
If tantrums happen in public, my advice would be to remove him from wherever you are - take him outside of the room or store or wherever.
The calmer you stay, and less radical attention you give him, the better. He's throwing a tantrum to get your attention.
My girls never really threw many tantrums at all, so my wife and I must have done something right. The baby is the most demanding, but has only tried the tantrum thing a few times before she found out it wasn't going to work.
Good luck!

Answer 3

First of all, are you SURE there is nothing else causing this? My oldest daughter did the same thing, and her's were often caused by pain in her ears. I'm not saying that it is not possible that he is, but if it continues I would have him checked out by his pediatrician.

For the meantime, when he throws a tantrum -- pull him away from the situation. This might mean asking the grumpy lady at the checkout to watch your groceries for a few minutes, but he will eventually get the message that the fits will not work. He is (in my opinion) honestly too little for timeouts or anything like that. I still have to do that with my children, and it works every time.

Answer 4

No never ignore a child Sigmund Freud once said a child between the ages of 0-2 years old either develops trust or mistrust if he is ignored, always meet the childs needs between the ages of 0-2 a child cant speak his mind so he will try his best to get your attention and children don't just cry, and thrown tantrums because they want to annoy you they do it for attention if he is not getting you attention he is going to get your attention in a negative way he will do anything it takes just for you to notice him.

Answer 5

Don't ignore the behavior. He may be allergic to something in his diet that you are not aware of. Have you just changed his formula? Have you introduced new solids to his diet? Pay close attention to when he throws these tantrums after eating. Something is definitely bothering him. If you're not able to figure out, let his pediatrician know about this behavior.

Answer 6

Most of the time, this means he is missing something he needs, a snack, a nap, some personal time, or some play time with Mom or Dad. There are times a child will enter the "terrible two's" earlier than normal and in this instance I would say, if you know all of his needs are met and there really is no underlining reason for his fit other than testing the limits, just ignore it, put him in a safe place and leave him alone. He will learn that you will not tolerate such behavior. Usually, when all needs are met, the child is just trying to see what will happen and what is acceptable. By putting him in an safe alone place, he will learn this is not acceptable.

Answer 7

Agree with Btyboo. My kid started at 6 month. Caught me by surprise and I did not recognise / realise that these were tantrums! I should have done then what I have done latter: let her thrash it out in a safe place (playpen) and let her know that I would not listen or cooperate until she calms down. It worked at 18 months, I just did not know that a baby could have tantrums so early!
good luck

Answer 8

A baby at ten months is just that, a baby. Regardless of what he does, he has to be held tight and loved, not left alone to cry it out. They learn to trust people if the mama is always there for him. If mama leaves him to thrash it out alone, he'll learn never to trust anyone, least of all the parents. It's no wonder that there are so many emotional wrecks here.
People who have children have to accept the fact that the baby's needs come first until he is about 3.

Answer 9

I walked away when my son did that. And when he seen that his tantrum wasn't getting my attention, he then would just come to me and cry. That is when you tell them that you will not talk or look or accept their fit. But when they calm down you will be there to listen. It worked on my son and he doesn't have any control over me. They have control when they have a fit and you respond. That is why they do it. It may take several times before he gets the idea that it is not getting him the attention he wants. but be patient it will work. good luck.

Answer 10

Even though he is only 10 months old I would put him in his crib if he can't clime out of it and let him sit in there until he either falls asleep or atleast for 10 to 15 minutes. I have a 17 month old and that is what I did when he started throwing fits and it seemed to work. He is to young to put in a corner and I would never spank him or my other two boys but if you don't nip it in butt right now you will definately have your hands full when he gets older.

Answer 11

All babies throw tantrums.Just ignore him as long as he is not in danger while throwing a tantrum.