I'm worried about this guy i know he's introuble with the police and i want to help but i don't know how?

Question

he's a senior and is in trouble for drug dealing he said he'd stop and he did for a year but he's back too it and the police are back on him. they havn't caught him yet but in reality he's really nice sweet guy, he can plays violin really well and he wreastles but this one thing is destroying his life he's stopped acting like himself!!! please help.

Answer 1

In reality, he'd probably be much better off getting caught than continuing down that path. If you can't reason with him, you may want to consider turning him in.

Answer 2

Hey there. That is a tough one. Are you still in school as well? I don't see whether you are a male or female, and the answer is somewhat depandant on that. I have a little law enforcement training, so I can tell you this- If the police ever were "on to him", they are most likely still keeping tabs. You see, they are generally too busy with the day to day to do too much, untill something goes down to get thier attention. However, they also could be working with the district attorney, quietly building a case. If either is true, your friend could be faceing LIFE ALTERING consequences. Seriously. I made a few choices when I was in highschool and shortly after, that have copmletely changed the course of THE REST OF MY LIFE. I too am a genuinely nice guy. I just may never get to pursue my lifelong dream of being a Highway Patrolman. (at $100,000.00 + per year) I tell you this because at your age, even things that seem insignificant, can later become HUGE issues. So appraoch carefully. Are there other friends (and I mean REAL friends) that are aware of the situation? Would they be willing to have a heart to heart, come to Jesus type of a meeting with this guy? If so, choose you timing carefully (don't make him feel cornered or attacked) and lay it all out as you all see it. Pier pressure is one thing, but pier sense and reasoning, from people he knows care about his long term well being, now that's powerful. Unfortunately anything having to do with drugs means you have a long road ahead. It is almost never a one time quick fix. (sorry) Is he also partaking of the sold goods? Is Meth involved? These are things you need to know.
If Meth is involved, and if he ever has used it himself, you need to know that Meth litterally chemically alters the brain PERMANENTLY. It can actually burn small holes in the brain, causing the synapses to fire irregularly. Not that the amount of money he will be asked to give up isn't enough of a challenge for you. If you have an adult counselor that you know you can trust, you will want to ask them more. Check out what I've told you. Never take free advice without checking it out first.
Are you ultimately ready to ruin your friendship to save a friend? YOu have to know that is a possibillity. I saw my brother in law go through this. Be aware that most of the things you hear back from him will probably be untrue. Drugs and lies seem to be inseperable. Good luck! Hope I helped a little.
P.S. The money. Most really great jobs are going to require some sort of a background check anymore. He could be pissing away a million dollar a year future, in a job he can be publically proud of. Is he making that much selling? Just food for thought.

Answer 3

First of all lets not glorify the guy, he is a drug dealer who is wrecking the lives of others (probably quite a few children) by selling them drugs to fuel his own habit and pay for his lifestyle.
If you want to do the right thing, turn him in to the police before he ODs or sells drugs to anyone else who will OD themself.
Once in jail he can get the help he needs to get off drugs and learn the lesson that he needs to stop.

Answer 4

You should really convince him to stop dealing. Some people deal for the thrill, most for the money, a few for both, but none reallize the incredible risk they're taking. Especially if you deal in new york, you could get screwed over really badly. If he's addicted, you should really force him to get some rehab. If it's just dealing, keep pressuring him and get others to pressure him too. He has to reallize he can lose everything for relatively nothing. Let him no you'll have nothing to do with him if he doesnt stop. and then have nothing to do with him.

Answer 5

It's truly a tragedy about this boy's drug-dealing problem and the trouble he is in with the law. But the truth is, no one can help him but himself.

Also, you might spare a thought for the reality of what he is doing. When he sells drugs he is selling misery.

Personally, I have no sympathy for people who do things they need not do, like selling and taking drugs; drinking and driving drunk.

They deserve whatever they get.

Answer 6

Stay away or you'll get caught up in it and end up in trouble, too. There's a legal term called aiding and abetting, and you don't want to find out what it means, the hard way.

Life helps those who help themselves. Don't be an enabler, and DO NOT give him money.

Over time, he'll bring you down, too. Our prisons and jails are full of these guys.

Answer 7

It's just a matter of time before he ends up in trouble and if you are with him when it happens that can mean lots of trouble for you as well. Some people have to learn their lesson the hard way. As hard as it is for you to see him destroy his own life we sometimes have to just step back and hope for the best. If he's the type that can't be reasoned with and usually they can't then you'll just have to step back and let him learn from his mistakes.

Answer 8

If he's doing as well as dealing, find any way you can to get him into rehab. If he's just dealing, and you want to help, it would be ideal to involve some form of counseling. You can start to find out WHY he's dealing--does he need the money? Is it a power trip? That can be a start.

BUT--don't forget that if you know about what he's doing, and it is in any way connected to you (he does it at your house, in your car, he "mistakenly" leaves some in your possession), you could become in danger, and partially chargeable for some crimes.

Answer 9

I know that you care about him. But really only he can stop himself. You can talk to him and try to make him stop. But there's not much more you can do. Just be there for him. If he wanted to stop he would. Or he wouldn't have started back up. Just let him know your there for him. And you care. Sometimes just saying that will help. Maybe he needs to fill loved.

Answer 10

Tell him to stop and to do what is right. Focus on his talents which could bring him much further than prison ever will. As for you, if he continues to be involved in illegal ativities then GET AWAY. Don't ruin your life getting caught up in some crap you don't want to be involved in..