A guy asked me out on a first date. We have hung out prior, but this was a DATE. We live about 70 miles apart, so we met halfway after work during the week. We go to dinner, the check is given, after a long pause, I pick up the check, and then he offers to pay. I agree but say I'll pay for the movie. As I'm paying for the movie, he buys himself a soda. I then go buy myself one. After the movie, he wants to go bowling. The roads are getting quite slick, and I don't want to drive in it when it's worse. He persuades me until bowling, but I only agree to 1 or 2 games. We get to the bowling alley, he asks for 3 games. When they ask for the money, he doesn;t do a thing. After I pay for it and we get our shoes on, he then says thanks. I don't believe in the man paying for everything. I am 22, have a great job and live on my own. He's older, is an engineer, and lives with his mom. Is it right that I payed for the majority of the date, when he asked me? Am I wrong??
2006-12-08 12:37:42 · 12 answers · asked by brittanyrdh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the rule should be: whoever asks for the date pays for the date. However, I am not against splitting the costs.
The fact that he's an engineer and still lives with his mom concerns me. Engineers generally make decent money. Is he taking care of his mom, or is he just cheap and doesn't want to pay his own way in life?
Another thing that concerns me is that he doesn't seem to care about your feelings. You didn't want to go bowling, but he did so you went. You didn't want to play 3 games, but he did so you bought 3 games.
I would be wary with this one...
2006-12-08 12:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by bewitching_green_fairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As it was the first date, I'd say you have to split it 50/50 unless you specified otherwise. Since you agreed to pay for the movies, he probably assumed that was the case, and I'm guessing dinner cost more than the movie and the bowling put together.
Maybe he was just testing you to see how you'd react to those things? You won't know unless you go on another date, but from the sounds of it, you weren't impressed.
2006-12-08 12:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though there is no law saying, "all men must pay for dates", get rid of him. Honestly you want someone who can share the finances in a marriage, and he is definately not marriage material until he gets his sh*t together. It should at least be a 50/50 thing, but then again, what was the cost of bowling and the movies compared to dinner?
2006-12-08 12:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by hayden1107 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong, but there is nothing wrong with you paying for the movie...but he should have bought BOTH of you pop or popcorn and he should have paid for bowling since he was the one that wanted to go. BTW...that is a very busy first date..dinner, movies and bowling. He's a cheap ***.
2006-12-08 12:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay my dad always told me if a guy ask me out he should pay for everything but if I ask someone out i should pay. Its just whoever asked has to pay and if they have no money then do something that doesn't involve money. So i think he's old enough to start paying... I think you were wrong to pay...
2006-12-08 12:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. Altough I am the type of girl who will always offer to pay. I still believe that the guy should pay and not take my money. The guys who really cared never let me pay. The guys who were "loosers" did not mind that I payed.
2006-12-08 12:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by Junoon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump this bum I never let any of my dates pay one cent for anything. He is cheap and he will always be that way. You don't need him. Just for the hell of it if you do go out with him again and he wants sex tell him it will cost him $300 that you don't believe a girl should give it up for free.
2006-12-08 12:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if he asks you out then he should pay. but always offer to pay half. But i think he could've been nicer about the bowling alley. That was kind of gay on his part.
2006-12-08 12:42:27 · answer #8 · answered by chedderapples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats very strange that he won't pay for anything. I wouldn't stick around or you will have a very light wallet.
2016-05-22 21:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a guy shouldnt pay everything i think but ur not even dating. you should have said something so you both pay 50/50.
2006-12-08 12:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋