I have been seeing a guy for a few weeks. He is missing his children who live 200miles away and he moved away four months ago from them and his ex. He says he has accepted things are over with his ex but it stillhurts he is not with his children of 8 and 17. He sees them every 2/3 weeks. He says he has issues as in that he is really missing them. I really like him and he seems to like me. I mentiioned that he seems really distracted lately. He says at least we have a friendship and that's a good basis to anything. I am ready to meet someone for a long term relationship. I really like lots of things about him but don't want to be the stepping stone between his last long term relationship of ten years which ended 12 months ago.
2006-12-08 12:19:16 · 6 answers · asked by Sarah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A committed relationship takes not one person, but two. If you truly feel he's "the one" without any hint of doubt in your mind at all, stick with him.
Try to comfort him while he's away from his kids, but also enforce quality time between you two to get his mind off his depression. If it doesn't work after months of trying, see if you can work something better out with his ex where he can see more of his kids. If she won't budge, just keep trying to make him enjoy himself. Show him that you really do understand how much he loves his kids and how much he needs them, but that you're there for him now. Sure he can't put his kids behind him, but if you both think this is a relationship that can last, you ought to try to ease his "issues of missing them" somewhat.
If he doesn't grow out of the "friendship" stage after a few weeks, you need to have a serious talk. It may turn out to work...or it may not. But he does need to remember that he doesn't have just two kids and an ex-wife...he has you, too.
Hope this helps you somewhat! :)
2006-12-08 12:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by Tawny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now just stay beside him as a Good Friend of him, continue your friendship & Time will surely tell you both what to do next & what you both have already stored in your destiny:-)
Live in presant, don't worry about future. Don't need to take any step right now, continue friendship as it is the best relationship Men can ever Have:-)
2006-12-08 20:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by moonlit_night 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are on the right track of finding someone else, But he is right at least you have a friendship and thats better than, nothing, You can still meet another guy and talk to him when he needs your support. but dont lie to your new boyfriend, and let him join you when you talk to him. so that he will no that nothing is going on between you too. good luck in any decission you make.
2006-12-08 20:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has not gotten over his divorce and separation from his children yet so he is not ready for a long term relationship you should see other people.
2006-12-08 20:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAve a serious conversation with him on the phone
or when he comes. Ask him whats wrong.
And tell him that your kids...
let me rephrase that HIS kids need him!!!
your kids sorry....
2006-12-08 20:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by Guy Who Brushes His Teeth* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take what u can get
2006-12-08 20:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋