hi im josh. well i dont no what to do my wife just gave birth to my daughter on the 6th but she crys alot for little things is that okay or should i call her doctor i tell my wife dont cry and my mother told me its all womens like that when they give birth.
2006-12-08 12:13:12 · 10 answers · asked by lori7642 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Honestly, it is pretty normal! Most women have some degree of postpartum depression and we all deal with it differently. She should know that there doesn't have to be a 'reason' for her tears. I would advise that she just let it out and not be embarrassed or ashamed. Consider it a purge for her system. With my 1st I tried to stifle my tears and just,'suck it up'. It took a lot longer to get over this phase than the second time when I just said, "I feel like crying so I'm just gonna hold and feed my baby and let it out". I cried for basically a whole day! My poor husband was so baffled and worried.
Be concerned if: she stops caring for herself, (within reason, a new mom barely has time to shower-let alone do her hair and makeup) If she loses interest in the baby or things that usually give her pleasure it is time to call the Doc.
There is no set time to 'get over' PD it just needs to run its course. You can help her by getting up with the baby equally at night (I cry a lot when I'm exhausted) take care of the baby while she showers and does things for herself i.e. a quick lunch out w/ pals.
If it is serious there are terrific meds that will help her break free gloom. Best of luck. And congratulations on your baby girl!
2006-12-08 12:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for a lady to be VERY VERY VERY emotional after having a baby. The hormones are all whack and chemically imbalanced. Makes you sad, mad, elated, complacent, depressed like a roller coaster ride. And no, you can't control it.
What she needs is understanding. She needs love, she needs you to do things to help with the baby, and keep up the house without having to be asked.
Transition into motherhood is very hard. And only us other girls here would know.
The warning signs I would look for before resorting to call her doc would be how she acts with the baby. Is she loving and bonding, or does she put the baby off and ignore. Is she agressive to the baby when it is being fussy? And keep communication very open with her (do this by being constantly understanding and supportive) so that she can tell you if she feels that there is "something wrong with her" because she is having "disturbing thoughts". If she is envisioning in her mind, or having thoughts of hurting the baby, she does need some help. And it's not her fault. It is called post-partum depression, and it does get better. Just make sure the baby is not at risk at all. That is the key. Other than that...if she is just moody....be a supportive husband and wait it out. Get her Mom and Sisters and best freind over to help, and keep her company. That does help a lot.
2006-12-08 17:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by momof2kiddos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be postpartum depression, I had it with my first, and prepartum depression while I was pregnant. It's hard to deal with the fact that all babies are not angels. You baby just came into this world and has been living warm in your wife's womb safely. Faces can scare the baby, being cold in this winter weather. They baby just started to drink formula or breast milk and it's giving the baby gas. Also colic is a condition that the baby cries for no reason, it usually ends in 3 months. Just swaddle the baby like they showed you at the hospital, your wife is going through hell right now, and you need to help. She is going to be hurting down there, breast hurting, headaches, no sleep. Just be there for her, and rock the baby. or find out what the baby likes. I'm glad I never had any screamers, and I hope God is with you.
2006-12-08 12:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of smart people that posted to this question, I do recomend a Doctor(IF all she does is cry!), You can even call the Doc's office and see if you can talk to her doctor! Some times they can tell you what to do over the phone!
You have to use your better judgment, if you think it is harmfull for her, or the baby you need to take action
I hope you listen to the smart people on here,
Have a wounderfull day, and CONGRATS!!!
Adam D.
2006-12-08 14:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by Adam D. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby blues and PPD...i had them with both kids. All she needs to do is call the dr., usually no apt. is even usually necassary because SO MANY women go through this, they will just call it in. If it last for a week or more, get her help. She will say no at first...i did. But it really will help to get meds for a few weeks. That way she can spend quality time with your new baby instead of being miserable. And just be there for her and let her know its normal to not know what the heck is going on.
CONGRATS by the way on the new addition.
2006-12-08 12:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by posquatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be postpartum depression but I didn't have that and I was still a wreck for the first couple months. Think about it lack of sleep, uncertainty, breastfeeding issues, crazy hormonal fluctuations, extreme physical pain, and the list goes on. She's definatly entitled to losing it a bit now and then. But go with your gut, if you feel something isn't right, call her doctor.
2006-12-08 12:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's Ma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course she's allowed to cry! If you had all those hormones coursing thru your body, you'd cry a lot too. It's pretty overwhelming to deal with a new baby, try to get your body back,and adjust to life again. Cut her some slack... try to help her out and be a nice, supportive husband.
2006-12-08 12:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by Cara M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women have the "baby blues" after delivery. But it can also be post -partem depression. If you are concerned enough to ask questions here, then I suggest that you call your Dr. He or she may be able to tell you if it is serious. Better safe than sorry.
2006-12-08 12:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by trickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its pretty normal. i cried after my daughter was born. sometimes i would just look at her sleeping, and i would think of how beautiful she is and i would cry...then other times shed cry and cry and i couldn'r figure out what was wrong, so i'd cry. sometimes for no reason at all. i think its something that a lot of new mothers go through...its harmless. just comfort her and help out the baby all that you can, it will pass. i think the crying is worst when ur breasfeeding too.
2006-12-08 12:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women do this. Do call her doctor. She may need to be on medication. Post-partum depression is nothing to mess around with.
2006-12-08 12:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋