Am I moving on the right way by talking about what my girlfriend did sexually when we were apart???

Question

3 months ago I told my girlfriend I wanted some time apart because things were moving fast, and we were getting serious. She was very upset, but I insisted and I didnt see her for a month. When I realized how much I loved her I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me, but she finaly took me back.We were happy for the past two months, but last week I asked if she had dated anyone while we were apart - I did not. I found out she not only did date but she even slept with someone she knows from her gym and someone from her work (at different times), she she had regular sex with both, until they both broke it off her. she was hurt by them using and dumping her as well as me rejecting her. Im jealous, but I know i hurt her too. we have discussed the details, though it is hard. this way i let her know it is ok to talk about how she was hurt,but also about how she enjoyed the sex, which she tells me she did - and she has told me new things i can try in bed with her!

Answer 1

Jackpot Baby! No holes barred! Get over yourself you sniveling fool. This type of situation rarely arises in a man's life. I suggest you exploit it to your advantage as much as possible. Use a condom and at 6 months get her tested to make sure she ain't got no rabies or nuthin'.

Praise Jesus child and let the pervert in you out - becuase she already has.

Answer 2

I don't think you have the right to even ask her what she did while you guys were apart considering you were the one that broke it off with her, or asked for your "time apart". In other words, you were broken up, you were not together, especially when you did not see her for a whole month.
Its awesome that you guys are back together and are able to communicate about the things that happened while you guys were apart, but that doesn't mean you can judge her based on that.
Just remember this, every time you get the green grinch in her head, that you broke it off with her, and not because of her, it was because you couldn't handle getting serious already. You kicked her to the curb, not vice versa.

If you love her, than she must be a great girl, and thats all that should matter. Don't be in a relationship if all you are going to do is pick out eachother's flaws, just enjoy the present while it's here and work on creating a better future.

Jo
P.S- its ok to talk about it, if shes willing to, but do not force her, then you look like the a**, and so what, she offered to experience new things with you, isn't that what relationships are about? New experiences, learning from mistakes? It doesn't matter where she learned them, I bet you learned a few things when you were single, even if its not sex related.

Answer 3

Yikes! If you really love this girl, you two need to try and put the past behind you. I think it is wrong of her to discuss her sexual experience while you were apart. The details are not important and only stand to hurt you. Try and stop talking about it. If you can't both move on from this, you may have to discuss alternatives.

If she knows this hurts you, it can only be that she is trying to make you jealous by keeping this information going. I am sure that if you talked so highly about a past sexual partner, she would be hurt, also.

Answer 4

"she has told me new things i can try in bed with her!" This is all I needed to hear. Dump her. She's obviously still angry with you and besides, she's emtionally dependent on sex with any male she can get her hands on. Not good. Dump her.

Answer 5

looks to me like you just gave her permission to have a fling when things get quiet with you, but if it is going to work for you , well fill your boots

Answer 6

whats yor point you broke it off with her i swear how dumb can you get why are you jealous thats what happens when you take a brake from from some one duh