i have three kids and one on the way, i would love adult conversation, my husband works alot of hours and all my family and friends work. my oldest is seven, i guess i can talk to him, but not really.
2006-12-08 12:03:17 · 30 answers · asked by melissa h 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I don't feel so much lonely as I do isolated. I'm alone all day with an 11 month old and a black lab (who seem perfectly happy talking to each other, but danged if I can undertsnad most of the conversation!). My husband is able to write to me a few times a day from work, and that helps.
There is a site that I've found that always has new posts and there are alot of potential friends there alot of whom are dealing with the same situation that you and I are. Just so you know... it's a Christian site, and you have to register to read or post.
Find a site that you enjoy and where you will find people to encourage you in your day. I don't post there much, but even just reading the site helps. This is what works for me... others will probably recommend getting out during the day. That just wouldn't work for me.
Good luck... and remember, you're not alone. If you need an ear to bend, feel free to send a note my way!
~joanna
2006-12-08 12:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lord I am so glad someone feels like I do. I am the mother of 3 little girls ages 6 years old and 2 year old twins. So it does get pretty lonely around here. My boyfriend works a lot too so I stay at home with the kids. I do go out during the day and do some shopping with a friend or something if he isnt working. Normally when hes got a day off we try to go out and do something. You are really not alone at all so dont worry! If you would like to email me then please do. My name is Lynn. Email is kalismomma@yahoo.com
2006-12-08 13:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am/was in a similar situation, as my husband works 6days a week and isn't home until 8pm. I know where you are coming from especially now with your hormones shifting, you feel overwhelmed.
When I moved to a new state with my toddler and newborn, I joined a MOMS Club International. It was the best decision. Not only did I make friends/adult conversations, my children benefitted from the social aspect with other children, I had mom's night out once a month, we do recipe exchanges, kids days out to (post offices, zoos, ice cream shops). I was also in a Neighborhood Moms Club that some of SAHM decided to start.
After my children were old enough to attend pre-school, I went back to work while they were in school. Another best decision I made. Not only conversation, but satisfaction that I felt I was doing something more.
Your children WILL benefit from you staying at home....and in a few years....you will wish for that "baby talk!" Good luck to you and I hope for a healthy baby for you!
2006-12-08 12:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by X Ray Tech and Mother 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm the same way. I have a 3 year old and an 18 month old. I just started taking the kids to the mall so they can play at the little play areas there. They get to be around other kids and I get to talk to other moms who are dying for adult conversation. It's nice.
2006-12-08 12:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by baronboru 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel! My husband is in Iraq and I'm home with a 3 year old and 10 month old all day everyday. MOMS club is fun, women in the same situation as you and the club plans fun activities for you and the kids. http://www.momsclub.org/ Also, you can enter your zip code at www.mommyandme.com and find other playgroups and activities in your area. I plan at leat one outing everyday to stay sane...the grocery store counts. A gym with childcare is a great option and so is the library. Remember, it's not selfish to do something for yourself! Everyone will be happy if you're happy.
2006-12-08 16:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by Heidi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I joined MOPs (Mothers of Preschoolers) it's a great way to meet other moms. Good luck! I have 2 children and I have stayed home with both of them so I understand where you are coming from. It's hard to be in "kid world" all day long. Sometimes I think my husband just wants me to shut up when he gets home because I am so starved for adult conversation! LOL
MOPs has helped a lot. I have met a lot of great people through there. I hope there is one around where you live. Good luck!
2006-12-08 12:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by Zeida98 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes, i love my kids but god i would love some adult talk. i have a four yr old and an 18 month old. i also babysit a 2 yr old. my sister stays home and does daycare as well i call her alot. i also got a part time evening job just so i can get out of the house. even though i am married i swear this is the loneliest i have ever felt.
2006-12-09 14:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by SARAH B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way I have 3 and the oldest is 17 months and the other 2 are 7 months old and my hubby works with friends doing odd jods.
2006-12-08 14:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by queenoftheklowns@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! now i know i am not alone in this. i crave adult conversation all the time. I really can't talk to my parents because they are long distance from me. all of my friends and family work as well, so i look at the same 4 walls everyday. don't get me wrong i love my daughter but at 17 months she isn't very understandable when she talks. if you ever would like some one to talk to then email me.
2006-12-08 13:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by my_immortal_love2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not any more, my children are grown. But oh yes, I used to! I homeschooled, lived in the middle of nowhere and many times didn't have a car. And that was before the internet.
Now I work with developmentally disabled children and I have one mom I provide respite for that most of the time I just talk with her.
Your problem is very common. See if you can find a study or craft group at a local church that provides child care.
2006-12-08 12:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by Shalvia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋