A guy that I'm sort of dating has been flirting with other girls. We've both acknowledged that we like eachother, and we're going to a dance together, but we want to wait and get to know eachother better before we start dating.
He feels guilty when he says another girl is hot around me, and tries to reason that I check out other guys (which I seriously don't) but I let that go.
What bothers me is when he flirts with my friends right in front of me! I've overcome quite a few of my own emotional issues already in this relationship, despite the lack of commitment, and we've discussed his flirting before. He apologized a lot even though I wasn't blaming him (rather, the girl) for it and kept saying it was partially his fault and that he'd get it to stop.
Well, it did for a while, but he took it to extremes and I sort of intervened and now things are right back to where they were. Should I be worried, and/or seperate them again?
2006-12-08 11:49:48 · 6 answers · asked by [11:11 pm] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been sort of dating this guy in the way that we've acknowledged our reciprocated affection, are going to a dance together, but want to get to know one another more before we date.
He feels guilty when he says another girl is hot around me, and tries to reason that I check out other guys (which I seriously don't) so I let it go
What bothers me is when he flirts with my friends right in front of me! I've overcome quite a few of my own emotional issues already in this relationship, despite the lack of commitment, and we've discussed his flirting before. He apologized a lot even though I was blaming the girl for it and kept saying it was partially his fault and that he'd get it to stop. Well, it did for a while, but he took it to extremes and I sort of intervened and now things are right back to where they were. Should I be worried, and/or seperate them again?
EDIT: I know for a fact that he would NEVER sleep with my friends, because he is highly religious and sexually inactive.
2006-12-08 12:02:28 · update #1
EDIT: I know for a fact that he would NEVER sleep with my friends, because he is highly religious and sexually inactive.
2006-12-08 12:02:41 · update #2
Neither.
He likes to flirt, you have some issues with it. He sort of tries to change his actions, but doesn't seem commited to stopping. You aren't even officially dating.
Are you willing to accept this behavior from him? If you try to control him, he may hide his flirtations, but it is highly unlikely that he'll quit. Perhaps he and your friend like each other and neither wants to outright admit it. Who knows, but you sound like you are unhappy. If you think you can control them or separate them, sorry. You might coerce them into hiding their flirtations, but you cannot really control them.
I suggest you not worry or try to control them. Just let them be and observe them. If you don't like what you see, then move on.
2006-12-08 12:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i dont think you should seperate them. Just try and spend more time with him. Make it clear that he's the only one you want. Tell him you want to get more serious, and ask him nicely not to flirt w/ other girls. If he still does it, tell him that he's a player and you cant be w/ someone like that. Youre not overreacting.
2006-12-08 11:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Karen Smith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this guy is for you sweetie. You don't need a guy who flirts with other girls - especially your friends. If he really wanted you - he would not be flirting with other girls he would concentrate all his time energy on you and his eyes would only be on you as well. I think you need to find a guy who only wants to flirt with you. This guy sounds like a player - and tell him you don't want to play any more!!! Good luck!
2006-12-08 11:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is something that truly bothers you and he wants to be with you, he would stop. You might want to think about dating another.
2006-12-08 11:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a dog in heat PLEASE let him go
he is not respecting you at all
how would he like it if you flirted with his friends he is the kind of guy who will sleep with your friends and they are not your friends if they sleep with him either .some girls are like that
but since you know how he is let him go
you dont need drama ...my moto>>>>.BE DRAMA FREE
2006-12-08 11:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by slpry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's a major JERK if you are sort of dating!
2006-12-08 11:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by MiMi//Janie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋