My cousin has 5 kids and is pregnant again?

Question

My cousin is 25 on welfare and lives in low income apartments. She doesnt have a job and no diploma or ged. Her babyfather is in jail and shes very stressed because she cant even afford to buy her kids she have now clothes and shoes. She doesnt want this child and shes 8 weeks pregnant. What should she do because she sits up crying everyday about her life?

Answer 1

I looked at your other questions and noticed you are having trouble concieving yourself. Why don't you adopt her baby? I do not believe in abortion. It really seems to me like your cousin has a self esteem issue. Please email me and I will give you advice on how she can better her life. My husband did it and he makes $5,000 a month now.

Answer 2

Ok this sounds a little crass but if you arrange adoption through a private agency the adopting family will usually pay for the pregnancy care and sometimes even care of the mother (food, housing, etc) while she's pregnant. I know this sounds horribly gauche but some people are so desperate for a baby they're willing to help out the biological mother financially. And it would be the same end result of adoption through the state but with perhaps a better situation for her and her children.

Answer 3

First of all SHE has the power to change her life. Secondly, I would not abort the baby, the Creator (God) does not put anything on a person's shoulders that they will not be able to handle. Third, obviously you have a computer and an internet, there are schools online where she would be able to get her GED and a College Degree (I am attending AXIA University of Phoenix now for my Degree). Third, the Government will pay for the schooling-she can get a Pell Grant, it will pay for her to get her GED and for two years of College, which is enough to get an Associates Degree. Fourth, she can go to Birthright and Salvation Army to recieve clothes and shoes for all of her children including the one she is pregnant with. Fifth, she can get WIC to assist in milk, cheese, juice, cereal, peanut butter, and formula, baby food, and baby juice. Sixth, there is Free Store in many areas and is run by Larry Rice and his foundation, call them they can help with clothes, shoes, furniture, and many other things. Seventh, there are local churches that will help her pay her utlities as well as Community Action that will help her with utilities and getting or paying for her heating bills. Eighth, there is no good that will come by sitting around crying, she now has a friend, have her talk to me if she ever feels the need [e-mail]

Answer 4

If what you say is true and she doesn't want this child, she should seriously consider placing this baby (and the others if she doesn't feel like she can handle it) for adoption. Adoption is a loving, unsefish, and responsible way to deal with an unplanned pregnancy. All parties involved benefit from it. The birthparents get the benefit of knowing the needs of their children will be met and they won't be burdened with the everyday struggles of parenting or single parenting, the adoptive parents get the benefit of a precious little baby (or child) to love and raise, and the baby (or child) gets the benefit of a loving, stable home. She can even choose the adoptive couple herself if she wants. There is a website where she can look at the profiles of couples who are waiting to adopt. It's www.itsaboutlove.org. Often adoption agencies like this one help birth mothers with medical expenses and job/education resources too. I hope that she can make things work in a way that will benefit her and her children the most.

Answer 5

find someone who can help take care of her kids so she could have a little time to study and get her GED and she can get a better job if that doesnt work then she should put her child up for open adoption that way she could still see her child and they wont be out on the street, hope that will help, best of luck to her

Answer 6

She could give the baby up for adoption so they would have a better life. She needs to talk to Welfare about getting money to go back to school instead of just sitting around. What kind of example is she wanting to set for her kids? Welfare will pay for daycare while she goes to school. Other women on Welfare have pulled themselves up out of the same hole that she is in. She just has to want to make the change.

Answer 7

She should have thought about this way before now. It's hard to raise kids especially 5 or 6. This question has been asked and I answered it earlier this evening. Maybe she should seek councling, getting her tubes tied, and contact an adoption agency, getting her ged, and going to a technical school. She's got a long road ahead of her. good luck.

Answer 8

Your cousin sounds like a very confused and messed up girl, she needs some professional help. She should put the new baby up for adoption and let a loving family adopt it, so he/she can have the life it deserves. Someone needs to motivate her to get out and stand on her own two feet, go to school and get a job and take care of those babies the right way. I feel bad for her, but, she does it to herself.

Answer 9

Your cousin has the poor me syndrome! She has too many damn kids to be sitting on her tail collecting welfare. I'm not knocking welfare, shoot if you need it get it, but don't abuse it! Your cousin has made a career of sitting around making babies. Women like that are weak and make me sick! Tell your cousin to wipe her tears and grow up. Obviously she needs to be more responsible and she needs to make better decisions. The choices we make really do effect our lives. Sure hope she gets her stuff together cause she's got a lot of people counting on her now!

Answer 10

SHE NEED TO GIVE BIRTH TO HER BABY AND STOP FEELING SORRY FOR HERSELF. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO GET AN EDUCATION. THE COUNTY WILL HELP HER WITH CHILDCARE. SHE CAN WORK AND EARN HER GED AT THE SAME TIME. SHE NEED TO LET THAT BABY FATHER ALONE BECAUSE APPARENTLY HE'S NOT HELPING HER LIFE IN ANY WAY. TELL HER NOT TO LET PEOPLE PUT HER DOWN BECAUSE THEY WILL TRY. TELL HER ALSO THAT THE BABY DID NOT GET A DECISION ON COMING INTO THIS WORLD AND SHE IS NOT THE ONE TO TAKE THE BABY'S LIFE AWAY. TELL HER TO HAVE HER BABY AND GET HER LIFE ON THE RIGHT TRACK. LET HER KNOW THAT IF YOU CONTINUE DEALING WITH MESSY PEOPLE, HER LIFE WILL STAY MESSY.