last question, I'm 19, I know I'm a little shy when I meet new people, but when its just me and someone I just met alone, I don't say anything to them, is there anything I can take for this? I don't hardly have any friends because of it, I posted the question about have an attitude problem also, anyway, if anyone could answer this for me I would appreciate the help, thanks.
2006-12-08 11:29:12 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm the same way... If you take meds, it will change your personality (which you may or may not like). Just try your best. I'm going through the same thing (no real friends... never dated at all... feeling awkward talking to people...)
2006-12-08 11:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Doctors prescribe Paxil for social anxiety disorder. It does work, at least it did for me, and you feel more relaxed and at ease around people. It is a real drug though, that has side effects, and some withdrawal issues, and is something you go on for probably 2-6 months at least at a time (you dont just take one if you happen to be going out or something) so maybe think twice about if your problem is serious enough.
2006-12-09 00:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad I'm the same way, I'm also 19, and I'm in college and it was terrible the first few months b/c I didn't know anybody but I slowly made friends, you just have to force yourself to go out there and talk to people. I've gotten somewhat better at talking to people, but I know exactly what you are going through. Its just a overwhelming fear I have that people won't like me, I know its stupid but it controls my thoughts. I would just suggest forcing yourself to talk to people no matter how uncomfortable you feel b/c it might get a little easier each time.
2006-12-08 19:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by irisheyes47 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are medications for social phobias. You might want to have a chat with your doctor. Why don't you immediately try asking the new person a question about themselves? Focus on the other person.
2006-12-08 20:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a doctor and see if you might have a social anxiety disorder instead. If so, he can prescribe beta blockers which can help your situation. Otherwise, as with most phobias, you will need to gradually overcome your fears. Good luck
2006-12-08 19:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by Beast from the East 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand the position you are in. Im very much the same. the more you worry about the silence, the more stressed you get about it. Just try think of questions you would like ask, it might help if you consider questions you yourself would answer. as soon as you find something in common it gets easier. dont stress when there are pauses in the conversation, its totally normal
2006-12-08 19:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by Psychodelic Chicken 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same way shy guy from hawii does. i'm on meds too and have always been shy and quiet. life really isn't fun for me with all these phobias and it's hard to keep friends. I don't have any. no one understands.
2006-12-08 21:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by yuuhhuhuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confidence not drugs is your answer. GET IT! You are just as good and deserving as anyone. I promise.
2006-12-08 19:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by aaapowersports 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋