My best friends mom and fiancee did this and i want to know what you think?
My best friend's mom said that Stacy(my best friend) cant get married unless her fiancee became christian, then her fiancee turns around and said that he wont marry her unless she becomes an Atheist, what do you think about that
2006-12-08 11:18:59 · 39 answers · asked by badferret 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Shes a closet non christian in case youre wondering about her religion
2006-12-08 11:22:30 · update #1
The guy is right. No one should ever be forced into the cesspool of religion.
2006-12-08 11:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by iknowtruthismine 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, _I_ think Stacy and her fiancee need to talk about religion in their lives and make their OWN decisions... recognizing they may piss off and alienate other family members in the process.
part of growing up and growing together is to recognize there are some issues which won't "go away", and religion is a biggie. If, 5 years from now, Stacy decides it's her path to become more active in her faith, how would an athiest husband react? Would it drive them apart?
To me, it's up to them to decide (assuming their of legal age, etc.), but they DO need to talk about this in a mature way.
2006-12-08 11:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by jon_r_patrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stacy needs to come out of the closet and be honest with herself and the people around her. The way she lives is ultimately her choice, and that includes who she wants to marry. Her mom can give her opinion, but again it's Stacy's choice. Even God Himself doesn't interfere with free will.
2006-12-15 17:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Ellie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of this will matter until they have children. That's when the fur is likely to fly. If Stacy, the closet non-Christian, remains a closet non-Christian then everything will be fine. If Stacy, the closet non-Christian, suddenly returns to full Christianity and wants to take the children to church, then the fur will fly. I've seen a lot of former or dormant Christians suddenly return to the faith when they have children.
2006-12-08 11:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is boils down to is what "Stacy" wants to do. However, if she does decide to become an atheist, then chances are that her mother will disown her. But then again, if she remains a Christian, her fiancee will not marry her.
It's going to be a tough decision, but it's only one that Stacy herself can make.
2006-12-08 11:23:38 · answer #5 · answered by pyroreview 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was engaged once to a Catholic boy. Hi mother told him that if I don't become Catholic, NO ONE in the family will come to the wedding. At the time, i just shrugged and said, then my family will be the only ones there, but I ended up breaking the engagement because of the stress we he was put through. His mother had a very strong hold on him.
2006-12-08 11:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by pink9364 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a man and woman marry the LAST thing you need is parents around getting involved and causing problems.
Marry and move at least 200 miles from both of your families for at least the first 2 years to cement the marriage.
2006-12-08 11:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think stacy should maybe try a new boyfriend and a new mom for .... say about 15 years - then if she still feels the same about them both - she can go back to her messed up crap and pick up where she left off - but.... just guessing here .... she might end up sticking with the loving people she spent the 15 years with ( you know ... the ones who aren't playing tug of war with her )
2006-12-08 11:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by justfleshnblud 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
her fiancee was making a point, he didnt mean it. he was showing her how rediculous it is to make religous beliefe a standard before love. i think if they marry and respect each others belife they will be just fine, and probebly have some good philisophical debates.
OPEN MINDEDNESS IS THE KEY
god loves all of his children not just those that worship, so who is to say they're joining isnt acceptable
2006-12-08 11:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is exactly the reason that these things be resolved before they get married. I personally believe that christians should marry christians, wiccans, wiccans etc..... Otherwise there is a lot of conflict in the future, particularly if their are children. (which religion should thay go into.....).
Cheers.
2006-12-08 11:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by iamwhoiam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, I personally would consider marrying someone who has my beliefs or around the same beliefs. Just saying "I wont marry you unless you believe what I do" sounds pretty harsh. Life would be much easier if they found someone with the same religious views.
2006-12-08 11:21:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋