I have known this girl for a year and a half. Last November, she introduced me to her mom, who is now like a sister to me. I invited both of them to our Christmas party, and now my husband is worried. He doesn't think our 20-22 year old friends will be comfortable around a 45 year old woman. I understand where he's coming from, and don't want anyone to feel awkward (one of his friends has a girlfriend who's still in hs, it would be to her like having a mom present). Should I ask my friend not to come? She's really nice, and I'm sure she would understand, but I just don't know what to do.
2006-12-08 11:15:09 · 11 answers · asked by teeney1116 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hey, I'm just trying to make everybody happy.
2006-12-08 11:22:23 · update #1
All we ever do at our parties is play games (monopoly, etc.) eat, and exchange gifts. We'll probably watch a movie at some point in the night. It's basically a chance to get together and talk.
2006-12-08 11:29:09 · update #2
I think you should keep the invitation open. It might be insulting to her if you take back the invite. I would feel very hurt by that. Not inviting her is one thing but taking back the invite is something else. She sounds like she can relate very well to other people your age if she relates well to you and if you are just playing monopoly and that then it wont be like she is going to be around people who are drinking and acting stupid. If I were a few years younger I would not mind someones parent thieir if they were cool.
2006-12-08 12:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-08 23:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by AjohnG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are planning on having a "PARTY" where you are going to get all crazy then I probably wouldn't have invited someone that may be seen as a mother figure. If she's down with the stuff you all are doing and your comfortable doing what your planning on doing around her, I really don't think it would matter if she were there.
2006-12-08 19:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by me me me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was in college I had a friend who threw an annual holiday party. His 50 year old mother and 15 year old brother always attended. It wasn't weird. It was fun. And they usually left early as the party got "wilder".
Let your friend and her mom both still come. It's more likely the mom will be uncomfortable than your friends.
2006-12-08 19:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ali D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have already invited guests. You may not now "uninvite" them.
You and your husband should learn how to be a good host and entertain ALL of his guests. If you can't, think before extending invitations.
Trust me, your guests will get along just fine, as long as you don't have any silly party games which require them to match up. They will mix and converse just fine. Isn't that what your party is all about?
p.s. perhaps you may want to make the music, food and decorations more "mainstream," keeping ALL your guests in mind.
2006-12-08 19:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
1) You can't "make" everyone happy. Fact of life.
2) If you husband is concerned about a piddly little thing like this, he's got issues. Tell him to GTFOI.
3) It's an xmas party. Xtians should be happy to have even the most pitiful of your god's creatures around for his boy's birthday. Some xtian attitude.
Invite her. Welcome her and your friends into your home. And party.
2006-12-08 19:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your role is to do the inviting, that makes you respectful and considerate. She can decide for herself if she will feel comfortable at your party, she might gracefully accept your invitation show up and leave early. Congrats.
2006-12-08 21:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by Reading and Answering Your Q' 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Normal people can get along with people of all ages. Invite the mom.
2006-12-08 19:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your hubby has some issues. Shes there to have a good time, not "mother" anbody. Maybe if there are some single guys she can hook up too
2006-12-08 19:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by chetahbill 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good God lady grow up and tell your husband to grow up also. Having more mature friends is not a crime and if your so called friends are uncomfortable tell them to grow up also. You sound more like a couple of teeny boppers than a married couple.
2006-12-08 19:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by ec1177 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋