Ladies,
You are interested in getting married to a man who is a master woodworker. If he presented you with an engagement ring made of the finest most beautiful woods on the planet and it took him a very, very long time to make. For the time and parts it took to make the ring ended up costing more then just buying a 'traditional' ring and it is more beautiful, original, unique then anything on the planet and it was made just for you.
Would you accept it as an engagement ring?
2006-12-08 11:11:07 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes! I think that engagement rings should be more about the sentimental value than about the "bling"! this is, obviously, bursting with sentimental value. How many women can point to their engagement ring and say, "This ring, a symbol of love from my husband, was a labor of love for my husband. He made it and crafted it with ME in his heart and mind"? I know I can't!
You should, however, expect a moment of shock, because most of us American women (I'm assuming, of course, that your special one is American) expect a solitaire diamond ring, and she may be surprised at first.
You could, however, lead her (mentally) up to the moment by telling her that you have a very special gift for her. You have been working on it for (weeks or months). You carefully selected beautiful woods with meanings that fit her and your relationship with her. You carefully crafted it for her so that it reflects her grace and beauty. You have bestowed your love upon it every minute you worked those pieces of wood, just like you will work on your relationship with her every moment, in good times and bad. Just then, you slip out of your chair, onto your knee, open the wooden box you've made (which, of course, complements her ring), and ask her to marry you.
Oooh, gives me goose bumps just thinking about it. :) I think it is quite evident from your question that you love this girl very much because you have taken so much care and time in crafting her right. If she loves you even half as much as you love her, I'm sure she will love and appreciate it. :)
Best of luck in your engagement and marriage!
2006-12-08 11:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by xgravity23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man went through all of this and the women didn't accept they aren't meant to be together. Before you propose you should know the person well enough to know what they are expecting. Any woman who says no to this, doesn't deserve the type of man that would go to this trouble and length. And the man deserves someone much better than her. In a world of cookie cutter marriages that last all of 2 years this idea makes my heart melt and I'm as cynical of marriage as they get!
If a ring is suppose to be a symbol for the love you share what could be better than something that was made from the heart.
2006-12-08 13:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by masterjennjenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns on this one sweetheart. Though the ex never wore it, when he bought it the ring was for her and he had her in mind. Maybe he should just pawn it and use that money to pick out a ring for YOU!!!! If he is gonna be an insensitive, cheap jerk about it than maybe you should rethink your options here. You are not being unreasonable at all, a ring is a very special symbol of his love for you and how he envisions his future with you in it. Marriage is a very special thing and I think people now a days lose sight of what it really means and kinda just do it because everyone is doing it. He has to understand that that particular ring is a symbol of what his feeling were for someone else and I would be offended that he even thought it was ok to offer it to you. Stay firm on this one......I hope it all works out for you!!
2016-03-29 00:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would accept it, but nothing in the world could make me wear it. I'd need the diamond. Seriously. Who wears a wooden engagement ring around town? That's very sweet...but no.
Addt'l comments:
And the people who say they'd gladly accept it...are lying to themselves and to you. There's no way in the world they wouldn't be disappointed if that's what their man gave them. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a traditional, classy ring. It doesn't make us moneygrubbers; it makes us tasteful.
I agree with one of the above posters....you should handcraft the ringbox--NOT the ring. You can still get her a special ring by learning how to make one out of metal, or by having it custom made, or by just choosing something non-traditional. But a WOODEN RING? Please don't. These others are saying they'd love it bc they think it's the right thing to say.
2006-12-08 18:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes I most definitely would! It wouldn't even matter that it was made of wood! If he is that special someone that I could not live with out(like my husband), I would! But the fact that he did make a RING! A ring is something that is very intricate! That takes a lot of skill & time! And he got me the finest woods too! Oh yes I would except it & wear it PROUDLY!!
2006-12-08 11:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by tawannajones2217@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my man put that much time, thought, and effort into picking out my engagement ring (much less making it!) I would accept it. I don't like the traditional yellow gold diamond ring, I think most are just plain and even sometimes tacky. Something unique that he made for me, that would send my heart all aflutter! If you did this, more power to you! I would love it! Good luck!
2006-12-08 11:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by kameka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...for many reasons.
1) It may rot or get woodworm. An engagement ring, like a marriage, should last forever.
2) Wood naturally expands and retracts depending on temperature or humidity. This could restrict bloodflow to the finger or she could lose it. Depending.
3) For it not to rot or get woodworm you will need to treat it. With stuff that is not recommended to be in contact with skin for long periods of time.
Overall it sounds like s illy idea. Though if you give her the wood ring as a symbolic gesture, then you give her a real METAL one, then that is a very good idea.
2006-12-08 11:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'd accept it!! if he took the time to make it for me, and it came from his heart, than why would it matter that it was wood. this is going to sound corny, but in a book i have (Daughter of the Forest) the main character Sorcha is given a ring made of wood and decorated with little leaves and what not from her love. i think it's sweet! if you're planning on doing that for your girlfriend, than by all means do it!!! i am sure she would appreciate something that you poured your heart into than something that who knows how many other women have. it makes the promise all the more personal
2006-12-08 13:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An engagement ring made skillfully by an artisan of his medium of expertise? just for me? Yes!!!
But wood also can break and be damaged by water and cleaning products that would be used on an everyday basis. I would adore the wood ring, but would like a simple engraved gold wedding band to use as an everyday ring... -dd
2006-12-08 11:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by dedum 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are planning on doing this or are u just asking for the heck of it?
Well I would think its kinda weird but u should kno the person u are proposing to well enough to kno if they would appreciate it. If ur unsure maybe make the box that u present the ring in, it could still be as beautiful and unique...
2006-12-08 11:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by S.A.Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋