My friend did not invite me to a Hoilday party. We have known eachother for almost two years now. She invited another friend but did not invite me. She also talked about the party in my presence. I invite her out to dinner with my family and to parties. I even invited her to go on vacation to the east coast with my family and I during winter break. But, she had to work so, she is not going. She told me she got me a present for the holidays. However, I do not feel the present cuts it because I feel angry regarding not inviting me to the party. But, I feel angier regarding her talking about the party in my presence. Do I have a right to feel angry? Was this rude?
2006-12-08 11:09:35 · 16 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I experience this a lot, specifically with one particular friend of mine. You are not wrong to have hurt feelings over this, especially over her talking about it in front of you. That's just rude and inconsiderate.
I recently found myself in the EXACT same situation. Instead of getting angry (especially since the friend was also a coworker), I took some time to reevaluate the friendship on my own and then I talked to her about it. We have since taken an intentional distance, and it's not as bad as I thought it would be. If you can react to this in a mature way and your friend cannot stop being a brat, it's probably just a sign that you need a different type of friend in your life.
That doesn't mean you have to ditch your friend, it just means that you, or her, or your friendship is changing, and that's natural!
Good luck.
2006-12-08 13:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you do not say if your friend is an airhead or not, because that certainly would explain it. It does seem kind of strange that there was discussion about the party in your presence, and then you don't get invited.
There may be some logical explanation that you don't know about, but we don't know what that might be.
Sure you have a right to feel angry, but I think you probably feel more hurt than anything. And that is certainly understandable. especially at this time of the year.
There may be the possibility that your friend assumed somehow that you were automatically going to be there? Is this a possibility? We really don't know what was going through her head when all this came about.
2006-12-08 11:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by Gnome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 00:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by chowning 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that you have stronger feelings of friendship toward her than she has toward you. The rudeness was talking about the party in front of you. Keep in mind that people can have more than one set of friends and she might have felt that you would not enjoy that particular group and that you might have been uncomfortable in their presence. True friends make allowances for one another but if she slights you again, you really must reevaluate if it is a true friendship, or just an acquaintanceship.
2006-12-08 11:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Whimsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was certainly unfeeling, and you have every right to be angry. However, before you go about holding a grudge you should ask her why you were not invited and listen to what she says. Her answer will tell you if it was an oversight, or a snub directed at you pointedly.
2006-12-08 11:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anger is a negative emotion. Do not waste your time being angry or you will lose yor friend. Be gracious and forgive her and in that way show her what a true friend is really like.
Cheers!
2006-12-08 11:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by iamwhoiam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's rude. It's thoughtless. Know your boumdaries. No one needs friends like that! It's not OK to hurt someone who you have supported. Stand up for yourself. The friend will probably respect you for it.
2006-12-08 14:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by duhhhhhhhhhhhtechie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she realize she didn't invite you? If she does realize it then, yes, it's very rude and I would not consider her a friend.
2006-12-08 11:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she didn't invite you. If she's a true friend then she'll tell you the truth.
2006-12-08 11:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by pretty princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would hurt my feelings, Do you think someone is coming that you dont get along with?
2006-12-08 11:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by pepsiolic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋