I have 2 boys 11 months apart. Ages 2 and 3. I have been wanting another baby since my youngest was maybe 4 months old. My husband originally agreed to try for our third child in September when my youngest turns 3. I told him I couldnt wait that long and he agreed to try in June. This morning he said he doesnt want to try till next November. I got all upset because I have major baby fever. I dream every night of being pregnant or holding a new baby. I got all teary and he finally agreed on June. But he was angry and didnt want to talk about it. June seems so long already to wait for but I dont know how I feel now. Our older son will be in preschool and Id really love to try in June. My dh said I was being selfish by wanting one even though he doesnt. Im the one who is going to be pregnant, and take care of the baby. I get no help from him with our 2 boys and thats fine. But I just feel bad that he got all upset over it. Any opinions welcomed. I dont know I just feel that its the right time. If we got preggo in June my youngest would be 3 and a half years apart from the next. I think that is spaced far enough apart.
2006-12-08 10:58:35 · 7 answers · asked by FrustratedMomof2 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yes, you're totally being selfish.
Stop thinking about what you want, and start thinking about what will be best for your family...And don't forget that your husband is part of your family.
Not to mention the fact that it sounds as if you're not even enjoying the beautiful children you already have.
Are you always going to want an infant? That's not really very realistic (it's kinda like wanting a puppy...they all grow up!), so maybe you should volunteer at your local hospital's nursery.
Try to be happy with the gifts you've been given...and be glad for any that you might get in the future, but don't let looking at those blind you from seeing the beauty that's right in front of you.
2006-12-08 11:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why the baby fever? Isn't two toddlers enough? I could understand if your kids were a lot older and were doing a lot of things for themselves, but I think if you "get no help" from your husband with two boys already, then you should rethink having a third child. I would have a talk with your husband and see how he feels. Two kids in such a short amount of time is a BIG adjustment for a family. To be wanting another baby when your child is STILL a baby at four months old may indicate that some other type of emotional need that isn't being met.
2006-12-08 19:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by ivybear98 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are being a bit selfish. After all, isn't your husband part of the marriage, too? You are not just a baby-making machine, you know. You should have some quality time with him, and him alone; for awhile. It sounds like he may be just a wee bit lonely for you. He has not said he does not want another baby; but maybe just not yet. Give it a bit of time. He will come around again, but it is not all your way all the time. There is not race, and a few months is not all that long a time.
2006-12-08 19:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take lead from your husband. Raising kids is tough and maybe he wants HIS WIFE BACK for just a little bit. While you are taking care of your kids and trying to balance your feelings, don't forget about your man. So few marriages work out these days, it really isn't hard to keep a man happy. Go out, by something from Victoria Secret for the holidays and wait until next November. (or start trying in August...hehehe
2006-12-08 19:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by Honeypai 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My parents had 5 kids and we're all about 3 years apart. Don't over do the baby thing because sometimes kids can have the tendency to act like monkeys. And it must cost a fortune these days to raise children anyway.
2006-12-08 19:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by Bear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that having a child is something you both should agree on. One persons feelings should not take precedence over the other's. Your husband probably got upset because you made him give in to something he is not ready for. You obviously don't care about how he is feeling. Put yourself in his shoes wouldn't you be upset?
2006-12-09 21:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both have to want a baby if not they he might resent the baby and this might put a strain on your marriage he might be thinking shes always baby this baby that and he might feel left out as men are really baby's sometimes and need looking after too
2006-12-08 19:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋