Why are people against daycare but in a few years they will send their children to public school?

Question

I've noticed a lot of people who are very much against daycare but then years later they send thier children off to public school. I guess I just don't understand the difference. I also don't understand why people are so rude working mothers who have no other choice then to send their child to daycare. Any Opinions?

Answer 1

As a mom who has had children in daycare and in public school, I've heard this as well.

For a lot of people, the reason they don't want to put children in daycare is because the kids cannot speak out for themselves if something happens (especially if they are toddlers),. But studies in Britain (sorry I don't have the citation) showed that after 3 years of age a child actually needs that socialization with other kids.

yes, SOME people are rude about this issue, but they have not walked a mile in the mocassins of the mom who is working. It's not always a choice to go and work!

Answer 2

I dont think they are "against" daycare but more that they want to take care of their kids themselves... or they are "afraid" of daycares b/c of the experience they had as a child. Like, I hate daycares.. but i had to put my child in one to go to nursing classes... I had bad experiences with nannies and daycares when I was younger, but i just try to find the best I could find and I put him there.
I am not against mothers that put their children in daycare... my mom was a single mom, so i know how hard that can be on a woman..

Answer 3

My concern about daycare is whether or not my child can talk and the ratios. Sometimes you have no choice and I appreciate that as should other moms and dads. There are many things you can do to ensure your child is in the best care. When you send them off to school they are older and more independant and usually can communicate to mom or dad what is going on.

Answer 4

Daycare is a necessary evil. If you are able to make it on one income, you often have to live in an unsafe neighborhood.
People who are negative on daycare but send their kid to public shcools probably are working on the assumption that younger children in daycare need more nurturing than school age children

Answer 5

I just feel that the first years of their lives SHOULD be with their mom/dad and NOT in a daycare. School teaches them when they've gotten older to socialize and interact with people...when they are little...they just are placed in cribs or playpens when in daycare...OH...Please don't email me saying I'm being mean...I was a working mom who UNFORTUNATELY had to put my first 2 children in day care...from 6:30 am until after 11 pm some nights...I was going through a divorce and HAD to work to keep my mind off the abuse! When that was final...I moved to another city, and haven't worked an out of the house job since...My NEW husband wants me home with our two young sons...ONE is in kindergarten...and he's thriving...I'm not against daycare...if one parent can stay home....

Answer 6

I have no idea. My sister-in-law is exactly like that with my nephew. She would have died rather than send him to daycare, but now she ships him off to school every day and during the summer enrolls him in camps and things just to keep him away from the house.

I personally don't want to do either. I won't send my kids to daycare but I also won't send them to public school. I want to homeschool, personally. I can't see the difference (especially in like kindergarten and such ... kids in the schools here don't learn to read well til they're in second grade, and even then I cringe listening to them read out loud).

If my circumstances should change between now and then, and I ended up with no one to help, of course I might have to send them to daycare. Or maybe we'll be much poorer than we are now. I understand that. I do not criticize mothers who have to work or choose to for whatever reason, and I wish nobody else would. Everybody's situation is different, and I can't pry inside someone's mind to see what theirs is.

It's different in the case of my sister-in-law, though. She called women with kids in daycare mean names, but now she pawns her son off on anyone who'll take him. He can't read and she won't even teach him. Those kinds of moms seem to start off enthusiastic and then realize it's harder than it looks ... thus avoiding daycare but praising public school when the kids are older and harder to handle. I DO criticize my sister-in-law, though. She lives across the street and so I DO know her situation. ; )

Answer 7

If you think daycare and school are the same thing you are sadly mistaken.

I don't believe in daycare, but I understand that sometimes families just have no other choice. I'm fortunate enough that I've never had to use a daycare but if it came down to me having to then I would.

Going to public school is totally different. For one, school is mandatory. I personally think more people should homeschool, but again some people just have no other choice than to send their kids to public school.

Answer 8

Yeah I agree. Most people are all like "the child belongs with you, blahh blahh" But as a working mom you have no choice sometimes. Its not like you like seeing your kid shipped of to some place were you have no say over what they are doing or saying. A lot of people are hypocrites with out knowing it. There way is the right way and no way Else's. And yes like you said then they will send um to public school so they can play soccer mom!

Answer 9

i am not against day care.

i am against parents who have kids, but the moument their born they stick them in a daycare, and they dont spend anytime with them.

the thing is,young children and i mean young children (under 2's) need their parents, its proven, they need them their to teach and show them so manythings and to form that close parent/child bond. so sticking them in day care where they will have little adult interaction is not a good choice, obviously some parents have no other choice due to money but thats only a few that applys to.

by the time their school age they need to start interacting with kids, and learning and are not so dependant on their parents

Answer 10

Because when they send their children to preschool they're more impressionable. But when they send them to school they are still as impressionable but have learned to stay away from strangers etc. and they can learn good things.