I am by no means a virgin, let me say that first. I work with this guy and talk tohim every night. I don't know what he wants, but all I'm really looking for is to have sex. I'm not saying it won't lea anywhere else, cause the guy seems like a lot of what I want in a man. Right now though I know I don't need to be in a relationship, I just want a "friends with benefits" or "sex with no strings" kind of thing. Should I tell him? And yes, I fully intend to protect myself.
2006-12-08 10:42:38 · 14 answers · asked by red.cherry2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes tell him .. just don't use those words... use body language.... if you say "lets have sex" it will spoil the mystery of the perceived chase and ruin the whole situation. BTW... How in the hell do I find someone that wants a fwb situation?
2006-12-08 10:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by captainkirkwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, here's how you do it.
Look _______ (his name), you look like a guy I might want to get to know a little more. But it's like this, sex is a huge part of a relationship, so what do you say you and I go ahead and get that part of it over with. If we're compatible sexually, then who knows what will happen.
Then set the date for your place. Let him know afterward, how you want it. Occasional and casual sex. That's all. Nothing more, nothing less. And if he tells anyone, you'll cut him off!
2006-12-08 18:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by almondjoy_1000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its OK to just enjoy sex without there needing to be any complex relationships. Of course you should take precautions against getting pregnant. Although you should let him know that it is only a sexual thing, and not necessarily a meaningfull relationship. As long as he wants this type of thing also, then you get the green light to have lots of fun and many orgasms. Hope you enjoy yourself :)
2006-12-08 18:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by MARTIN B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be a little unclear about what you want, Cherry. I know from sad (ha!) experience that if you think a way to hook a guy is to get him in bed and then try to finagle a relationship from that, it is not going to work. What's the expression, "Once you've given away the goodies you can't make him buy them." Well anyway, you get the picture!
2006-12-08 18:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ellie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i cant imagine how u would tell him hey dude i wanna have sex with you i think u should invite him to your home for wine and a dinner then after u shake down a little maybe things will go that way ---seems a little silly but as adults he may be wanting to ask u too goodluck and we all have those cravings
2006-12-08 19:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, because as a single mother of 2, having a "sex with no strings" relationship is perfect for you. Stop reproducing, it's not helping with Darwin's theory.
2006-12-08 18:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by jonnyexcel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him straight up what you want. Let him no "friends with benefits" before you have sex.
2006-12-08 18:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say tell it to him..but indirectly..
invite him over for a movie or dinner and then get cozzy slowly..
if u dont have a place of ur own..
go out to movies and get little cozzy there...
and if he understand what u need or want/ he will invite u to his place....
2006-12-08 19:13:43 · answer #8 · answered by Inquistive_man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont have 2 have sex i mean me (as a virgin) dont think u need 2 rush into things so quickly!!!! Wait for MARRIAGE!!!!
2006-12-08 18:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by chica101 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should let him know how you really feel about him. it makes no sense to waste his time and your time. maybe if you tell him what you want, that is probably what he wants too.
2006-12-08 19:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by Ras_Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋