I don't know what is happening. Me and my ex fought one and a half years ago. it has been since that time that we have spoken and now he sent me an sms where he asked me if we want to meet to talk. I obviously accepted but he haven't send again to meet. I don't know if he was saying the truth or he wanted to fool around with me. I love him and I want to talk to him again but do i have to wait for him? I don't know what I will do. Does he really wanna meet even though if he told me he will send me an sms to meet and he hasn't send yet?
2006-12-08 10:42:01 · 15 answers · asked by Dianne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you really wnat him back play it a bit cool. desperation is not a good look. give him some time to contact you. if not send a casual message. sort of "well are we meeting up or what. or have you changed your mind" if he is messing you around then there isn't much you can do. chalk it upto exprerience and be glad to be rid of him as nice men don't mess with you like that
2006-12-08 10:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel? If it bugs you that he says these things, than it is safe to say you arent smitten in return. Perhaps you are letting him do too much and he already feels so attached and also cares for you and now the future of the baby that he is confused. Ask him what he loves about you. And listen carefully to his answers. If they are not "you make me laugh" "I feel I can tell you anything" etc stuff, that he is probably more attached to the situation that to you. It happens, alot. People get confsed when they have been out of the loop a long time and also when they are a caring person and someone that needs care is sitting in front of them. It is the basis of many a badly ended relationship. Someone eventually realizes it has gone too far. It might be easier to have him around, but if you dont feel the same for him, it will be much harder to move on and date someone that REALLY interests you after the baby is born. If you think it could grow between you...put your foot down. Limit the time together and tell him exactly how pressured you feel. If he cares more about you like he says, he will back off. If he is desperate and pushy- he really cares more about his feelings and lifestyle. Someone will always care more, its never equal...but when the see-saw is way off balance- problems will arise!
2016-03-29 00:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the mature one, instead waiting around send him an sms asking him if the plan is still on. U need to figure this out so u can move on in ur life.
2006-12-08 10:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to meet with you. You responded, the ball was in his court. Move along, as this fellow sounds like everything must be at his convenience, and your time is more precious than that.
I guarantee you, you can be happy, stop being melodramatic, and look at this as a good thing. You know exactly what type of person you are dealing with now.
2006-12-08 10:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by shaclare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sms him back, say ok and you'll meet for lunch. Then when you go, be polite and cordial, but set down some ground rules. What's on his mind.....why the sudden contact. Don't be afraid to tell him what's going on in your life and what you are looking forward to doing. Your not there to be played with or because he got dumped by someone else....if he's sincere, then proceed slowly. But, if he gets flakey.....don't fight about it, just drop him.
2006-12-08 10:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that he just wants some more great loving from you then he will drop you. It is the way men are. Sorry , no prince on a shiny white horse here. Once it is over... leave it.. you can never go back. I have had three daughters and everyone has had the experience you are talking about here... i know... I have had all of them crying on my shoulder after they went back to see their old boyfriends after months of him breaking up with them. I think it was punishment of what i did to a girl friend of mine. Where I went back to have sex with her after we broke up and left her again... after that ... once i was satisfied. Just telling the truth. Men are all the same. It is not love but lonely lust.
2006-12-08 10:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be afraid or not sure what to say. The best thing is to move forward from the situation. If you were wrong admit you were wrong and tell him how you feel. I would go ahead and try to contact him by phone or email to see if he still would like to meet and talk but if not move on with your life. best wishes.
2006-12-08 10:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your ex is just trying to find out if you are seeing any body else. I think he's playing games with you because he did'nt call you back. He probably wanted to see if you were going to take the bait and see him, and you took the bait.I hope he's isn't playing with your feelings, and emotions,that's an terrible way to play. Good luck to you and follow your heart.
2006-12-08 10:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by CAROLYN B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him how you feel and that you are not wanting to just fool around and that you want the truth you want a real man not a little boy. only little boys want to just fool around a real man wants to be with the person they love not just to fool around with if you think he is lieing then kick him to the curve because he is not a man yet so let him go.
2006-12-08 10:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe instaed of sendin messages you guys should just talk. If you think waiting for him entirely is a good idea, then go fo it...
2006-12-08 10:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by XaiJai R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋