I am meeting this guy who lives 2 hours away from me he wants me to come to his house for dinner that he is going to make dinner for me. The thing is I havent met him in person yet, but we have been talking on the phone for a while. My question is is it proper for me a woman to drive down to him on our first date or is it more a mans place to come up to her town to see her for their first date? I just think it makes more sense and that it is proper that for a first date the man drives out of his way to come up to see me and take me out to dinner. What do you all think?
2006-12-08 10:21:35 · 13 answers · asked by Imyourfantasy4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have never met him in person??? DON'T EVEN go to his house!!! Meet him somewhere very public for the first SEVERAL dates. You never know what could happen. Don't put yourself in danger....... and don't say you "know" him well....... con men and serial killers are VERY good at convincing you of how great and safe they are. Please, please, take my advice, better safe AND ALIVE than sorry.
2006-12-08 10:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you really want to meet this guy? Why do you need to date someone who lives 2 hrs away from you. You sound like you resent the fact that you agreed to go there. The guy made an offer, and you said yes. Why did you say yes if you don't want to drive down there. Yes, you can say that the man should be chivalrous and offer to hold doors, and take on the inconveniences in life in order to treat his lady well, but in today's world, the "what's right" has changed. More and more women are asking guys out and taking the initiative. If you don't want to drive down there after you said yes, then by all means, flake out. But don't do it because the "laws of dating forbid it." OH and by the way, it sounds pretty stupid to go to some guys house with out ever meeting him. Meet him in a public place instead. It will be much less threatening for you. The guy sounds like an idiot for asking you over the first time and not even meeting you. What if he's a psycho? What if you're a psycho? Maybe he can lock you in the basement for a couple of hours to cure you of your habit of going to guys houses before knowing them at all.
2006-12-08 10:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by slap_shot69 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, IMO neither option is a good one. Firstly, you do not want to travel two hours away to unfamiliar territory to meet this guy for the first time. I realize that you probably know him well through the internet, phone convos, etc...but you really need to be looking out for your safety regardless. This is why you also wouldn't want him coming to your house.
As for the morals of what's right and all...well in a perfect world he'd be taking the time to come visit you. You going that far to visit him makes you look desparate. Also, from the perspective of a guy, he is at more of an advantage for pushing you further than you might want to go. Two hours drive home after a long drive there, and enjoying the evening...and you're more likely to stay there than drive home. Not saying he is setting this up as such or that any of that is his intent...but hey, we men aren't exactly known for our pure intentions :p
Anyhow, all that aside you need to be meeting this guy in a public place. This should be standard fare for you ANY time you are meeting someone physically that you have never met before.
So that it is fair to the both of you, i suggest that you meet half way, both only having to travel an hour. This is the LEAST he can do for you. Please do not listen to any pleas for wanting to prepare you a home cooked meal or show off his cooking skills. This simply is not a safe senario.
And in today's world, better safe than sorry, wouldn't you agree?
Take care and stay safe.
2006-12-08 10:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by cosper123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call him up. Tell him you're a southern girl at heart and that you would much prefer it that he comes to see you. Don't offer to cook, even though you've been talking for a while, he should meet you at a restaraunt close to you (keep it safe). If the date goes well, then go back to your place after dinner. If he seems unwilling and you think he's worth it, then offer to meet him at someplace halfway so you are driving the same distance. Have fun!
2006-12-08 10:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by aa_cooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a first date it would be more Kosher to go out . Doesn't have to be expensive either .
If you feel comfortable driving over there then do so...
2006-12-08 10:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would arrange to meet him there and drive myself. I don't need him to drive me. Besides, having him drive all the way up to your town is a waste of time and gas. Surely you can handle a car.
2006-12-08 13:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its is more proper for the guy to take the inititaive to see you first rather than you coming to him, better yet when its daytime for safetys sake. good luck anyway.
2006-12-08 10:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet at a restaraunt
2006-12-08 10:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about ya'll meet in the middle... find a restauraunt and if ya'll click go rent a movie and decide whos house to watch it @
2006-12-08 10:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by swingorstrikeout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go to his house...i think you should go to a public place just to be safe ...rather be safe then sorry..and as far as that goes he should come to your town that is what a gentleman would do
2006-12-08 10:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by Travis S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋