I was notified by my ex-husband that my step-daughter from that marriage attempted suicide last night. I raised her for 10 years before we got divorced and have been a part of her life in the last 5 years since our divorce. He is not giving me any information. It hurts so badly that I can't help her. I don't know what to do. I can't stand sitting here helpless. Any suggestions?
2006-12-08 10:13:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just try to talk to her know the problems that made her think of suicide and then try to soluate that
2006-12-08 10:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go visit her as soon as you can.
In general, when a girl "attempts" to commit suicide it is rather unlikely to be successful - it is at least partly a cry for help or attention.
Ask your ex for more information - you deserve at least that. Again - go see her as soon as possible. Ask her what happened and how you can help. Tell her you love her etc. After that, you should discuss anti-depressants and medical treatment.
There are two possibilities - something really bad happened to her recently and she did this. In which case, you should tell her that she can be open to you whenever she has a problem.
The other case is that she has been developing a deepening depression - in which case, you should ask for medical help - while not forgetting to treat her as an individual. (Often, teens will attempt to commit suicide after being put on medications because they feel that their parents don't really care - and that their parents are looking for the easy way out. But -- medical treatment is *very* effective, provided she makes it safely through the first month.)
Good luck!
2006-12-08 10:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by evaniax 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the beginning, i'm particular you know this, yet her disobedience is in basic terms her discomfort. i'm particular she is a physically powerful female in there. she is hurting. secondly, anorexia and subtsance abuse are oftentimes comorbid (occuring mutually), and the reducing behaviors are interior the comparable kinfolk. the anorexia is a quiet way of telling the worldwide you're in discomfort once you experience you do no longer need to or can no longer say how lots you harm; the substance abuse is obviously an attempt to numb the various terrible feeligns and techniques, and the reducing is a thank you to experience whilst the flaws she has lived via threaten to numb her to common emotions. i do no longer advise to simplify; it isn's straightforward. however the genuine subject is this: with the eating affliction AND the substance abuse AND the previous suicide attempt, she is in loads of actual probability. i know how tricky this could be, yet you will possibly desire to have her in inpatient medical care, whether she needs it or no longer. the terrific probability you will possibly be able to offer her at a classic life is to assist her recuperate. and of direction you don't know what to do: those at the instant are not issues you may cope with on your individual, nor can she. please get her into an inpatient software whilst she continues to be youthful sufficient. as quickly as she is eighteen, she would be waiting to no longer might desire to bypass if she does not decide for. you do no longer decide for to take that probability. she would be able to get extra suitable. stable success. i believe for all of you.
2016-10-14 07:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the dad time to absorb the shock he must feel. Pray for her and know that now she will get some help for whatever is bothering her. In most places you are placed under a 72 hour hold for observation. If medical personnel beleive she's no longer a danger to herself, they will let her go after that time. If not they will recommend a longer stay to help her get some medication going that will help her. When you do get to talk to her, try not to scold her, but let her know that she can always come to you and talk things out, she's not alone and she's loved.
2006-12-08 10:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
P.U.S.H: Pray Until Something Happens
I would let your ex know that you have a open door/phone line to him and his daughter. Let him know that you want to be involved with ya'lls daughter and her recovery. Right now, he might be so messed up in his own head he cant think right. Give it a day or so, then try again.
2006-12-08 10:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by missb_101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-husband is being really cruel. Tell him that you need information. He should know how much you care about her. You could try talking to her after a while. Don't pressure her; she'll tell you in her own time.
I'm sorry I can't be much help, especially in situations like this.
2006-12-08 10:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by Rammi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you care about her, and you obviously really do.. go visit her. She probably needs a lot of support, just be a friend to her, and show her that you are there. He's a jerk, don't depend on him to tell you what she needs, it's better to go see her yourself, and you'll know how to help her. She probably just needs someone to listen to her.
2006-12-08 10:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by Danii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can go there. You have the right, if you've been a part of her life. He must be a jerk, to keep information from you like that.
2006-12-08 10:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by tinamaries43 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a nice lady. go visit her if you can. maybe she will open to you
2006-12-08 10:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs attention...it is a cry for help
2006-12-08 11:18:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋