I had been single for a long time, deeply hurt I had isolated myself for many years. Many single and married man tried to get my attention, but politely I refused all.....until recently. For the last 10 months I had noticed at work that a collegue was watching me and trying to chat me up, but avoided him ( as I did with any man).Finally I warmed up to him and gave him the chance to let me know better. Then he started flirting, and responded positively since I felta kind of attraction I have never felt before.And worst, he felt the same attraction to me.Then he told me he is married.
We got to chat more, over the last two months, nothing intimately happened, kept myself very cool, but its eating us both.We both lost weight, we can feel when the other is upset. I finnally took the lead and asked him to keep on friendship level or nothing else.He accepted, but was so upset did not show up for work next day. I want to search for dating single guys:where do I start?
2006-12-08 10:09:07 · 29 answers · asked by Izabela V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey I'm married and I know the fun in flirting to see if you still got it. I also know the pain of everyone involved in the affair after it happens. His wife knows nothing about you because you knew nothing about her.While it may seem fun and harmless, the repercussions are devastating and even fatal. Remember the movie fatal attraction? That stuff happens for real. I lived it! I just encourage you to cut it off with the married guy. I don't know your age but single guys are everywhere. Just get out of that situation with the married guy. "WARNING"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-08 10:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by Cory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 05:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kendrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many ways to meet single guys. It all depends on what you are comfortable with. Just go do the things that you enjoy and you will meet someone. Just remember if it is in a place like a store or bar SAY SOMETHING because you may never get the chance again. The worst thing that can happen is they say they are not interested and if that is the case just move on. Stay away from the married ones though. Trust me...i learned the hard way that you NEVER want to be the "other woman"
Try things like:
Myspace
Library
Bar
Online Dating Services
Movies
Gym
Heck even the grocery store
Just remember when you see someone you are interested in talk to them or the chance may pass you by.
2006-12-08 10:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by alwayssmiles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is really hard situation but I'm so proud of you for putting him done! You may've felt this way about this man because you never let anyone get close to you before and this feeling is new to you. Lucky for you the Christmas season is here and with office parties coming this could your time to socialize. But from now on make sure to ask if they are married. Anyways for the party buy a nice dress and show that you not married just don't be to revealing. Avoid this man and talk to others your back in the game! Just don't be a player never ends well. Now remember you can be friends with guys and girls so at coffee breaks remember to socialize too.
2006-12-08 10:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Sometimes doing the right thing really hurts. You did make the right choice. Falling in love with a married man and pursuing a relationship with a married man is never a good idea. Even if you end up with him, the second he starts acting odd with you, you will immediately think he is cheating (and you will usually be right). As far as finding single men, you can try an online dating service or better yet, take an evening course at a local college, get involved in a church group, join a community theater (they always need stage hands), get active in a political party (it that's your thing), or let your freinds know you are looking for Mr. Right (maybe one of them is willing to set you up). Good luck, get out there. It's time for a healthy relationship or just a fun distraction!
2006-12-08 10:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by aa_cooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn and run the other way as fast as you can. You don't want to ruin any ones life would you? Including your own. If you pursue this Married man you will be hurting a lot of people and if there are kids involved you will be a selfish home wrecker. There are plenty of dating sites to pick and choose from get on line and find the single men and make a better choice.
2006-12-08 10:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he has taught you is that you can have feelings once again. You allowed yourself because it was initially safe i.e. (he was unattainable anyway) so your guard slowly dissipated.
Now take the information that you can come out of your isolation and direct it toward a man that is available. It's more of a risk, sweetie, but you only need to explore these feelings as kind of training wheels.
You are smart to take the lead and keep this guy a a friend and search to one that will bring you so much more.
I am proud of you!
2006-12-08 10:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally feel you on that!....i respect you for wanting to avoid drama with a maried man. However i can admit that is exactly how my husband and i met. I was married he living with his girlfriend and we were training one another on at work. He was to teach me everything he knew and i were to do the same by teaching him what i knew. Well 3-months past after working together, long story short we had to hurt allot of people to be together, but we were inlove and still are. We are happily married even after 5-years and we are more in love today than before. Its wonderful! Of course we were judged for a while by family & friends but we didnt care we had each other and we were happy. After a while they all came around and are happy for us too. Im not saying to go for it because i dont know him and he may never leave his wife for you, but sometimes it can be true love and that you may really be meant for each other, its just bad timing because he is married. I am soooooo sorrrry to hear the pain that ur in, because i lost 85-pounds yearning for him until he was mine. We have all had our share of hurt, and sometimes we have to give the hurt back in order to restore & pursue our own happiness because no-one else truly cares about you but you & soul mate! you give a little, you take a little.
2006-12-08 10:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't fall for it, he won't leave his wife for a reason that why he still married men have the same weak line to get into some panties, but think of it this way he don't have respect for the person is married too what make think he's going to have it for you in the long run. point is once a cheat all ways a cheat. and if you do have more than a friendship with him your going to hurt his wife and break up some one else home.
2006-12-08 10:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by wenwen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Izabela, you might try online but it is difficult, I know because I have been trying for over 2 years and only get toads and I am looking for a butterfly. Just type in Singles in your search and you will be overwhelmed by the number of sites. But what ever you do. Please dear, DO NOT play around with married men. If the guy wants you so bad, why don't he get a divorce?
2006-12-08 10:16:50 · answer #10 · answered by lynnerr55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋