I've been with my boyfriend for a year and I don't know if I fully trust him. I trusted himm at one point of time intill I found out he had a long distance fiance- after they broke up we got back togehter- but should I be able to trust him- sometimes I 2nd guess whether he's still with her or if he will do unto me what he did unto her?
2006-12-08 10:09:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you don't talk enough with each other and you don't share anything between each other. there's some kind of a distance between you two and if you don't trust him then your relationship won't last long. a relationship is built on trust, love and most of all lack of 2nd thoughts.
2006-12-08 10:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by Dianne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, typical female trust issues becoming their own self fulfilling prophecies... i should write a book. If your guy knows you don't like something - Like sexy pictures, or porn, or high fat potato chips - he's going to do his best to hide that from you. Why? Because he likes it and you get unreasonably mad. You make things worse by trying to catch him in a lie... so you can 'confront' him and tell him about your feelings (which he doesn't want to talk about) which leads him to logically do anything in his power to save the lie so he doesn't have to hear you confront him. He knows what's coming if he tells you the truth, so he avoids it. You, are pushing him into those habits. Face it, there will be things that all men do that drive women crazy mad. That's not going to change. You can either get over it, or drive your men away and force them not to confide in you. Then again, if he's cheating on you, dump the bum and start fresh with someone you can trust.
2016-03-29 00:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK honey once a cheater/wanna be player always gonna be one. You can't trust men they are dogs not all but most.Once they cheat on u and u let them think u don't care they will keep doing it and think they can get away with it.u should maybe give him another chance but if he kept a fiance from u then he probably has more up his sleeves.tho maybe u should give him another chance u should judge that on how u found out he had an long distance fiance if he told u that means he cared about u enough to not keep it a secret and felt guilty.if i was u i wouldn't give him another chance.
2006-12-08 10:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they say "How you get him is how you keep him." If he was ENGAGED to someone else while u were dating, he's NOT trustworthy and could do the same to you. I know it's harsh and not what u want to hear but it's the truth honey. I certainly wouldn't trust him. I suggest you dump him and build up your self-esteem. If you were more confident, you wouldn't have gotten back with him after u found out about the fiancee. Good luck!
2006-12-08 10:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by RedDevyl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lie once you WILL lie again! relationships should be built on trust,honesty,and friendship and understanding. You should not have to have all of this drama. Treat others as you would like to be treated! This is not what you should except from anyone. I would tell him to find someone else to put up with his lies, cause you are not! Move on, you will be happy you did. As guy's see that you have standards, hopefully you will attract better guys
2006-12-08 10:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by Domino's Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me sweet heart, your young, a Trust "issue" is a Big One! You can't trust this guy, his actions speak louder then words. I would Move On and don't look back. He will do what he did to her, he will just do it a different way. Trust me, an experienced,intelligent Woman, and say good bye to this guy.
2006-12-08 10:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after someone breaks your trust once thats a hard thing to get back, especially from a woman. but if you really love him you gotta try to trust him until he starts showing signs that hes untrustworthy again, then you need to start having a questioning attitude
2006-12-08 10:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust him too much, but yo’re an entirely different person than his fiancé so I am sure he will treat you differently. Try not to get to emotionally attached to him as he seems undeceive about marriage (he had a fiancé not a girlfriend).
2006-12-08 10:13:25 · answer #8 · answered by Supreme Lord 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have a right to be worried. Talk to him about the way u feel and he will try to asure u and make u feel better. Also, u might be the right one he has been looking for, so dont worry about him doing it to u.
2006-12-08 10:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust him til you have a reason not to......you will ruin everything with the unfounded thoughts in your head....give him enough rope to hang himself and if he doesn't hang himself....buy a sexy outfit and apologize to him the right way.....ur welcome....I'm right....just ignore the macho part of me
2006-12-08 10:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by eldiablo0731 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋