Ok ........Here goes.. I really like this guy who I meet a couple of days ago. Now we are going out and we are thinking a bout having sex.I really like him and want to have sex with him but I 'm not ready for the fact that he will see me naked. Please help !!!I don't know what to do .I really love him .
2006-12-08 10:01:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont de it. sex doesnt go with dating. keep it special, wait until you know if hes the person you want to be with the rest of your life. sex is for marriage
2006-12-08 10:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already answerd your own question. If your not ready, your not ready. Plain and simple. Maybe your can do what my boyfriend and i did. I wasn't quiet ready for him to see me naked so what we did is took it slow. Taking off articals of clothing a little more each time we would make out. By the time we got close to where i was almost compleatly naked i asked him if we could keep the lights off. He was fine with that. He never once ever pushed me into doing something i didn't want. It takes time to get comfortable with someone in that way. But remember that he needs to respect your boundries and wishes all the time. Same goes for you to him. If he can't repsect you and what you feel comfortable with then he doesn't need to be doing anything with you at all. But remember also that there is NO %100 GUARANTEE that you won't become pregnant. No matter what birth control you take or even if you use a condom. You need to ask yourself if you are going to be able to take care of a child if you do get pregnant. You need to ask yourself if he is willing to be there for you if it does happen. If your answer to that is no then you might want to rethink having sex. It's a responsibility, not just a right.
2006-12-08 10:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by mrd1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is something that grows with time, committment and friendship...none of which could have happened in a few days. You do not love wim, you like him and are most likely lusting after him. Now that we clearly understand what it going on....
You shouldn't be as concerned with him seeing you naked as you should be concerned with his past sex partners, the length of his last relationship and his reasoning for wanting to dive into bed so quickly. Does he respect you? Really? Or is he looking for a good time...wham bam thank you mam. If you want that then do it...but don't cry when he doesn't call or drops you like yesterday's news in a week.
The naked bit...sounds like you have body image/self esteem issues. You might want to start by making a list of the things you like about your body and a list of the things you don't. Beside the positive items, write the things you can do to decently draw attention to your good qualities and the things you need to do to improve those physical attributes you find shameful.
Finally, you might want to consider why you equate sex with love and why you are so willing to endanger your own emotional health and possible physical health for someone you barely know. I'm afraid you''re about to be hurt.
2006-12-08 10:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by aa_cooke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok......You are just way to confused. You should be more concerned about giving yourself to this guy than what your body looks like. Yes, you need help...... Love is a strong word and there could be no possibility of this at all. If you give yourself to him I guarantee you he won't love you back. He will kick you to the curb and move on to the next LUCY (loosey goosey) he can find, and you'll be sittin there wonderin if it was your body. Get a grip & have more respect for yourself than that!
2006-12-08 10:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lennett O 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give it some time. You said yourself you are not ready. Don't rush things. If you really like him like you say you do. Give it some time. Sex right away may ruin what you to have. You may think different of him or he may think different of you. The love will keep you two there. Anticipation is a good thing just remember that. ;) Good luck...
2006-12-08 10:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by your papi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want to have sex, i guess its ok. u didnt say how either of u are. Sex is always good. Be sure to take protection, we dont need anymore folks in the welfare line. What is wrong with ur body. Why dont u want him to see u naked, that is also a turn on. ok.
2006-12-08 10:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh this is a difficult situation. why are u ashamed of seeing u naked? after all even you are going to see him naked. both of u are human beings and you're not an animal. i think that you have very low esteem of yourself and when you are in a relationship always keep in mind that you have to do everything that its possible. Maybe you are ashamed because its your first time but don't worry there's always a first time.
good luck!!
2006-12-08 10:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by Dianne 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well before you sleep with this guy make sure he is clean and he don't have anything that you can you catch, but if you are up for it and ever thing looks good go for it but use protection.
2006-12-08 10:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by wenwen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like a fling, not a commitment. If this is the case, go ahead. Banish your insecurities.
2006-12-08 10:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you don't love him.
there's no way.
ya'll aren't Romeo&Juliet. :]
but i was in the same situation. he was 2 years older than me, and had already done it, so he had no worries. talk to him about it. make sure he isn't just dating you and telling you he loves you just to get in your pants. make sure you trust him too.
oh and i agree with the rest--do it with the lights off.
2006-12-08 10:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by i_love_brandon<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋