she doesn't like to get petted. she doesn't like to play. all she wants me to do is feed her. my other cats in the past were male cats and they were very playful. this cat whimpers all the time and is not friendly. beginning of the month i am going to return her for a male cat. what do you think?
2006-12-08 09:55:36 · 15 answers · asked by yuuhhuhuh 2 in Pets ➔ Cats
she's been fixed
2006-12-08 10:06:17 · update #1
had her 8 months now. got her from humane society i called and asked if she was abused they told me no...
2006-12-08 10:07:55 · update #2
humane told me previous owners were sick and had to give cat up.
2006-12-08 10:17:48 · update #3
Some cats are just like that. My 2year old cat enjoys being petted, but on her time. And if you mess with her when she dosent want to be messed with she'll bite (gently though). Honestly, I think you should return the cat. For one reason. If you are not happy with the cat the cat will not be happy, and you find yourself stuck with a pet that just is not a match for you. Where the cat might be a match for someone else. Dont expect her to change.
2006-12-08 10:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by o_state05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think getting a male is the issue. Personallities can't be summed up by gender alone. You may know as some people don't like to be outwardly affectionate cats or any other animal for that matter are the same. You may have a medical issue in that pain is assosiated with touch. Does the cat mave matted fur? is the cat reaching a point in which it is over stimulated. Mine bite if I pet too long.
2006-12-08 18:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by Summerfest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not give her a little more time to warm up to you and her new surroundings. Let her do it at her own pace. Keep feeding her and talking to her in a soothing voice. Am sure that pretty soon, she'll decide that you are a wonderful guardian and jump on your lap on her own. I have found that the most "aloof" cats are also the most fiercely loyal.
Maybe its a bit unfair for your present cat to be compared (negatively) to those you have had before. Every cat is different and every cat has his or her own shinanigans... and absolutely unique great points. That's why they are CATS.
I don;t think I have ever had a more aloof cat than the ginger anf wite I presently have here. He does not like to be petted over much; never curls up on my lap... but he sunggles up to me when I'm in bed; lets me know immediately if any one of my family is sick (really strange trick); and "protects" me from strange men, racoons, squirrels, etc. ny making an aweful raucus fuss when any of the above shows up in the yard (hee hee hee). Love this cat to bits.
2006-12-08 18:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by Phoebhart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you spaid her yet? If not it's probably the cause of her problem. If she's in a dark room and not let out side often that could also make her feel "annoyed", "depressed" Or she may feel a bit ill for expert advice ask your pets veterinarian.
And as for getting a male cat you might want to give your female cat one more chance just get her spaid if she hasn't been, and take her to a vet if she still is ill.
2006-12-08 17:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by ▐▀▀☼▀▀▌ ☼Sharon☼ ▐▄▄☼▄▄▌ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had many cats, both male and female. Fixing them usually tames them a bit, but all cats are different. One of mine basically forces her head under my hand to be pet while another is satisfied if you feed her and perhaps give her one...and only one...stroke on the head. They each have different personalities. Male and female seems irrelevant here....give her some time...she just might come around.
2006-12-08 18:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has probably had abuse in the past and just needs some TLC and to know that you will look after her, i think that taking her back would make her twice as bad.
i have a female cat and shes and adult and ive had her from a kitten, she was wild and used to attack me all the time but after two weeks she came out of her shell and now she just wants me to feed her and doesnt like to be patted but it has nothing to do with not wanting to she just has to be in the mood for it.
also my cat was playful before she got fixed and like i said she still can be but i have to muck around with her for half an hour before ahe will join in and sometimes plays on her own but has to be in the mood other wise she gets cranky and can go for months with out it.
and if she came from the humane society of course she would have been abused how do you think she got there. patience and persiverance and lots of rewards are the key.
2006-12-08 18:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by bec 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT? Cats are very independent creatures and not all like the same level of affection as others.
How long have you had this cat? You need to give it time to adjust to its new surroundings as well as to YOU.
If this cat used to be affectionate, and something has changed, you should take it to a VET because it could be ILL and that's why it WHINES and doens't like to be touched - because it is SICK.
If you don't put some effort in to make sure the cat is healthy, and to allow it to adjust, and you want to take it back? I suggest you do NOT REPLACE IT, as I don't think you are a very patient pet owner, and the last thing a shelter needs is people who continuously adopt and then return pets.
2006-12-08 18:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by KB 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have had many cats both female and male, my male cats were always more affectionate then my felmale, but that doesn't mean that you should trade her in. My kitten now is a female and the only time she comes around other then to be let out or in or to be feed, is when it's time to sleep then she lies by my feet, never comes any closer and if I move her she either leaves or goes back to the foot of the bed.
If she is new give her time to adjust to living in your home.
2006-12-08 18:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd say give her a chance, she may have worms if all she wants to do is eat! A general rule for myself is to have female cats to ensure they don't spray in your house, but male cats are more affectionate and playful from what I've experienced. Good luck~
2006-12-08 18:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by holls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention where you got her - a pet store, a pound, off the street somewhere. Some cats are stand-offish by nature, but it isn't because she's female.
Instead of "trading her in", why don't you ask the vet about it? If she's whimpering all the time, maybe something is physically wrong with her. If she isn't friendly, maybe she's been abused. (You know, by people who think a pet is something to trade in like a car....)
It sounds like you don't need a pet at your disposal. It sounds like you need a television, if entertainment is all you're after.
Good luck to you and the cat....
2006-12-08 18:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋