My boyfriend for 1 yr now, thinks for our i year anniversary, we should get it on that night. Now, since we've been togeather for so long, do u thinks it''s alright????
2006-12-08 09:33:06 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't do it because it's been 1 yr, you should do it because you love each other and means something to you. You must also be ready to face all the implications and consequences of having sex. Take your time with that decision.
Happy anniversary :)
2006-12-08 09:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by Miss T 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honey, how old are you? My question is not condescending. It is meant to say this. If you have to ask that question, you are not ready.
Don't let him push you to do anything you are not ready to do. If you have been together for a year and have not done anything, it can still wait a while longer.
You will know when you are ready. Don't rush anything.
But before you go and do something rash...remember to do somethings to protect yourself. Make him wait for the next 6 months while you get the new Gardisil vaccine. It covers you against some strains of HPV. Also, think about birth control. Practice safe sex and use condoms.
Don't do anything that you could regret later in life. Remember, this boyfriend might not be the end all and the be all for your life. But if he is...he will wait for you. What's worth having is worth waiting for! Trust me...you are!!!
2006-12-08 10:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kokomira 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I don't know how old you are but the best advise I can give is don't rush into it!You may not be thinking about this right now but in the future, if you do it when you're not ready, you will wish you would have waited! If he is not okay with waiting then he doesn't respect your feelings and you should never be with a guy like that! All you have is your values, you may not have yor boyfriend next year or even next week, but if you stand strong with your values that is something you will always have!
2006-12-08 09:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by xalia331 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope. If your a virgin it's all got to be about love. If he's a virgin, for god's sake your minute and a half of heaven is better spent doing something more satisfying... like collecting rocks.
but seriously, if you guys havent fooled around before, jumping straight into the sack would be disaterous, and really funny later on in life looking back.
Be safe, have fun.
2006-12-08 09:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
since you asked in another question why another guy wouldn't ask you out, and here you say you've been with a guy for a year. I'd say you need to examine your priorities. Do you want your boyfriend or the other guy? If you aren't committed to your boyfriend enough, then you shouldn't have sex with him.
2006-12-08 10:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by armus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The choice is yours. However, even if you use protection the possibility of pregnancy exists. If that happens are you ready for the possibility that your baby may not be as happy and healthy as you hoped? Are you and He committed? I would hesitate very much if I were in your shoes.
Being a guy it sounds like he is pressuring you. Thhis is not a sign of good character. Be careful.
2006-12-08 09:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by epaphras_faith 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are the two of you?
Are you ready to deal with a pregnancy if it occurs?
Are you ready to deal with an STD if it occurs?
Are you on an effective form of birth control?
Do you two know how to use condoms properly and have them available?
Are you both ready for the emotional issues that can come from sexual intimacy with another person?
If you answered "no" to any of those questions, you should not have sex.
2006-12-08 09:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A year is nothing really so its up to you and how you feel. Your first time (assuming it is) should be something thats right for you, but don't be put off by what people say, it isnt the big deal people make it out to be.
Just do things right and on your own terms.
2006-12-08 09:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. You shouldn't have sex until you're at least engaged. Why would a man buy the cow if he can get the milk for free? In other words, why would he ever marry you if he can have sex with you without being married? You DESERVE to have someone to commit to you before getting into bed with him. Respect yourself.
2006-12-08 09:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by frenchpeas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that one year is definitely long enough to wait. If you feel that you two are going to last forever and if it is a genuine relationship, then I would. If you feel uncomfortable or hesitant or you think it is not the right time, etc., then maybe not. It is really up to you, but my advice it do it... and make it special!
2006-12-08 09:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by Angela 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋