My boyfriend loves to give me oral, but he is really bad at it. He has never made me come and sometimes I just get really frustrated. He really doesn't know what he's doing down there.
He is an amazing boyfriend and I don't want to hurt his feelings. How can I gently tell him he is not pleasing me and even give him some tips? I don't want to turn him off to the whole idea all together.
2006-12-08 09:25:51 · 14 answers · asked by gh25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you probably shouldn't be doing things like that unless you are married.
2006-12-08 09:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by lavenderlovely 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i ought to save issues supervised, yet save in ideas, ya can not get knocked up from oral. If she is in a monogamous courting and they have resisted vaginal penetration this lengthy, you could opt for to attitude this difficulty otherwise, and somewhat than making it a punitive component to get on the pill, you could try giving her more advantageous administration with techniques from asking for that she see an OB/GYN now that she is lively, beginning to have PAP tests and such. (turn it right into a i'm apprehensive about your wellbeing, not a For Pete's sake do not get your self pregnant difficulty)it may not damage to talk about that sharing actual fluid consists of the potential of STDs, and that till she has a ring on her finger she might want to apply condoms, even for the duration of oral. you want to save a dialoge open, and it type of appears like you're coming at this in a very harsh I CANT believe IT type of way. young children do not reply o.k. to judgement, and that i'm confident she is embarassed. also, she will't replace what has already occured. i'm not affirming that makes it more advantageous suited or accurate, yet she probably desires you presently more advantageous than at the different time, so that is a foul time to make enemies.
2016-11-30 08:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by jaffar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you that much then you should be able to open a line of communication with him. Tell him exactly how you feel then offer to help him do better at it, if you don't tell him you eventually will not even want him to go down on you at all, and I am sure that is not what you want. If he doesn't know it's not working for you he won't be able to fix it.
My suggestion would be to, if your comfortable with it is shave yourself bald down there, it will make it easier for him to get to your clit and you will be able to guide him very easily, it will also make you more sensitive and therefore it should be even better for you, and it is very important to let him know he needs to take more time and make sure you get off at least once before he does, and that will help do what you want him to do. Make you *** till morning. Oral Sex is the best foreplay ever and using it properly will really make it special for both of you.Don't be afraid to communicate with him , if he loves he will listen.
2006-12-08 09:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Art P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. Guide him. While he is down there use your hands to show him where to touch you. Use your fingers on his back as a guide to how fast you want him to go or what direction. Making a circular motion on his back will let him know to make circles etc. Tell him you want to try something different and you want to guide him. That way he won't think you are disappointed in his skills =)
How would you feel if he told you that you were doing a horrible job?
2006-12-08 09:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by errbyleerby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. Try this....when you're giving him oral - tell him that you want to know what pleases him best - and that you'll listen to his responses, and pay attention to what his body does as you please him. They say something like -- isn't that what sex is all about? Getting to know each other, and learning what we each like, etc., then maybe he'll get the hint that he should be paying attention to your reactions when he's giving you oral. You shouldn't fake a response, otherwise how will he ever learn? Good luck!!!
2006-12-08 09:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to just tell him and then help him tell him were the g spot is. also just because you have *** yet might not be his falt that is why it is importent to talk about it it will be benifishial for the both of you for him to find your g spot tell him to put his finger in side of you and go to the left when he is there about 1 and a half inches he will find id make it fun for him in the long run you will love it good luck dm
2006-12-08 09:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by dave m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must teach him. At least moan a little when he is getting close to the spot. Better yet, grab him by the back of the head and direct him to the right spot.
2006-12-08 09:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by lbuajlw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't - unfortunately you got it or you don't - it takes practice and years of experience to do it. Don't say nothing because men feeling are always on their shoulders and if you say something he will never try it again. Just be patient and he will learn, sheit he gotta practice on somebody. Good -Luck
2006-12-08 09:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by FeeLnUFeeLnMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When his doing something you like exaggerate it a Little. grab his head, moan louder, clench your thighs. if his not doing much than just lay still. He should get the point after a while.
2006-12-08 09:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell him he's horrible unless you never want him to try again. when ever he does something right say ohohohoho that feels good what your doing right there! he wants to please you or he wouldn't try, you just need to coach him. maybe tell him to use his fingers and his mouth so he can explore a larger area at once.
2006-12-08 09:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by sufferingnomad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't tell him that he's doing it wrong. Tell him how to do it better.
otherwise you won't have a boyfriend.
maybe get a porn dvd on eating puss. men love porn and then you never
have to tell him anything.
2006-12-08 09:29:37 · answer #11 · answered by a1tommyL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋