Weve been sorta dating for the last month and a half. She into christmas and the holiday sorts. Anyway, her big family is coming over to her apartment where she live to visit her. She told me i didnt have to be there and insisted I spend my xmas with my brother who live in Waco, TX. I kept telling her I wanna be with her on such special day such as the gift giving bonanza. She refused but I think she may be emabbrassed about her kooky family. LOL! Anyway, I go over on that day and surprise her by asking for her wrist in matrimony. What you think? Romantic, huh? LOL!!!!!
2006-12-08 09:14:08 · 24 answers · asked by cryingrainbow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Um...don't do it. You sound like you may have a screw loose. Have you considered that maybe YOU embarrass her (not her family)? It sounds like she doesn't love you...and how could she? It's been a month and half and you don't seem too sharp.
2006-12-08 18:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are quite a few things wrong with asking her on Christmas:
1) You have only known her for 1month and, while I am a firm believer in love at first sight and such, that is a REALLY short period of time to know someone before asking them to marry you. 2) You really don't want to ask someone to marry you in front of her or your family it puts that person in awkward position; it almost forces her to yes. 3) Christmas or any specific holiday for that matter is difficult if for some reason the two of you don't work out then that holiday will turn into a constant reminder of what could have been and that can be mighty depressing. 4) She may not be ready. If she is so insistent about not being with you for Christmas she may not be as far into the relationship as you are. Even if she has a kooky family if she was ready for marriage she would want you to meet them. Hope this helps!
2006-12-08 11:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by calichk613 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with proposing on Christmas Day but I agree that it's a little soon for you to start thinking about marriage when you've only been "sorta dating" for a month and a half. You should date for at least 1 year and a half and you should both be over 25 years old before getting engaged. If you do, you'll greatly increase the chances of your marriage lasting, statistically speaking.
2006-12-08 09:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by frenchpeas 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. You are crazy. What the hell do you mean "sorta dating"? Are you guys dating or not?
Wait at least 2 years of "real dating" before proposing. I'm not sure why you would want to get married either. If you are not careful, it will put you at a disadvantage financially for the rest of your life. Get a prenuptial agreement. Do your homework before jumping in. Marriage is not all that it's cut out to be, and nowadays, you can get all of the benefits of being married without being married.
Another reason not to do it is that she will think you are crazy and desperate. If you ask her to marry you after a month and a half or "sorta dating", she will definitely break up with you. You're displaying psychotic behavior. It's not romantic at all. She will think you are psycho!
2006-12-08 09:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok, you've been dating for a month... she didn't want you at her celebration (and no, it might not be because she's embarrassed about her family)... and have you ever even mentioned marriage before?
I would reason to bet that she will not be as happy to see you as you think. Bad idea, put it off. Call her on Christmas day, and say how happy you hope she is, and how much you miss her.
In a few months, re-evaluate the relationship, and perhaps run the idea past her a bit so that you know where her mind is as well.
2006-12-08 10:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by shaclare 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like she thinks your special or she would want you there despite her "kooky family".
You need to slow it down , you've only known this girl a month or so. I think your the one caught up in the Romanticism of proposing on Christmas. Give this relationship time to grow .
2006-12-08 11:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by That_ blue_ eyed_ Irish_ lass 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Romantic? Yes
Crazy? Uh-Huh
You Haven't Known Her Long Enough, Take It From Me I Married My Ex Husband After Dating For A Month....Don't Do It, You Have To Get To Know Each Other Better First
2006-12-08 09:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Paradise * 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would say don't do it. You've only known this girl for one month, if she really is the "one" then she will be around for a long time to come. I would jump into it so fast, for the fact you haven't even met her family. Just take a breather, Valentine's day is coming up ya know...even though I still feel it's too soon. But that will give you a few more months to get to know her more and her family as well!
2006-12-08 09:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorta dating? Don't you think that will be kind of soon?
And since this is the first time you meet her family, it seems like alot to take in. How about meet her family for Christmas and if you are still determined to propose, wait for Valentines Day! :)
2006-12-08 09:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a joke right? If you've only known her a month and haven't met her family then it's probably not a good idea to propose. Maybe she's hiding her kooky family for a reason! Meet the fam first!!
2006-12-08 09:18:36 · answer #10 · answered by jenna11rn 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
think about why she may not want you to be there when her family is comming to visit. If she's not ready for you to meet her family then save yourself the embarracement and don't propose to her on that day. She made it clear to you that she didn't want you to be around that day. Stop making assumptions and stop pressing yourself on her wishes. Be considerate of her feelings. I know you probably care alot about this girl but wait until the honeymoon stage of the relationship is over before even thinking about marriage with her (after about 6 months consider it again see if you still feel the same).
2006-12-08 09:25:58 · answer #11 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋