What can i do to boost up my daughter´s self esteem?

Question

she´s 9, she wears glasses, and kids make fun of her at school, sometimes she feels very sad and she worries to much about homework.

thanks in advance

Answer 1

I have several daughters of various ages and all their personalities and school personas are very different. my daughter who most matches your situation is a very serious and sensitive little girl. she demands fairness for others and therefor expects it for herself. I agree with a past comment about taking your daughter out for a physical pampering day. I took mine for lunch, a hair trim and photos at one of those places that dresses you up. I called ahead and spoke to the attendants and explained my problem to ensure they would be generous with the compliments and my daughter glowed after words. As for school I suggest discussing with the teacher exactly how much emphasis she gives toward homework while explaining that your child is feeling overwhelmed and losing the enjoyment of school.see if perhaps the teacher could discuss with you and your child together that homework is simply a tool to facilitate learning and perfection though nice should not be expected just a good effort at learning and reinforcing what was covered in class. Some children take homework a little too seriously. It's had when 9 year old's are expected to be cool, but if she feels"cool" the other kids may learn to accept she is too!

Answer 2

Kids can be absolutely rotten to one another, unfortunately. And everyone gets bullied at some point. I know I did, and somehow I managed to turn out okay.

First off, tell your daughter not to let what people say get to her. Kids make fun of each other because they're insecure about themselves. Maybe show her pictures of famous people who wear glasses or wore them when they were younger. I wouldn't start her on contacts just yet, nine's a bit young for them.

When she starts getting stressed out about homework, encourage your daughter to take a short break. I've ended up in tears over assignments plenty of times, and sometimes it helps to just walk away for a little while. Sometimes a quick snack break is all it takes to see a problem from a different angle.

I'd also encourage her to take up a hobby, whether it's a sport or Girl Scouts or acting, if she doesn't already do one. These are a great way to make new friends and gain some self-confidence.

Just keep supporting your daughter, and I'm sure things will sort themselves out.

Answer 3

All work and no play makes a very sad girl. Homework at that level is easy. At that level, my teachers had their test answers straight out of the questions in the books. The questions were in order too. So If you found the answer to question one and three, the answer to number two was on one of the pages between the answers to one and three.

Chances are school is going to suck for her and that might last through high school. Does she have a pet? Maybe she could play an addictive video game or learn to make things (clothes, food). Maybe she could do something outdoors like fishing or bird watching.

Answer 4

back when i was in 1st 2nd 3rd and 4th and 5th grade people were picking on me none stop and its ANNOYINg sometimes u just wanna punch the kids who tease u but deep inside there hurt to they just wanna take the sadness on someone else or madness! My Guidnce couseler when i was younger used to tell me just to walk away and if that didnt work u A confront the bully B tell a adult/teacher or C just stay away and if it continues its harassment and a parent or a teacher should be involed at this time if it does happen! have ur daughter go see the schools guidence counsiler! or just talk with her. Or if u wanna have some quality time with her that works to my mom did that! Try taking ur Daughter to the spa to get her all prettied up like have her hair and nails done and maybe just maybe she`ll feel better

Answer 5

I went through something similar in school (from grade 2 untill grade 10 actually). What helped me was having my parents there to support me. Tell her that she can talk to you when she needs a friend. Don't get mad at what she says (keep that anger in or she may become worried about telling you), don't go talking to the teachers. This will only make things worse (the kids will tease more if the teacher syas "so and sos' parents talked to me and your hurting her feelings."). Let her know that people change over time. Lots of love and lots of hugs for her right now. Be a sholder to cry on when she needs it. Let her know she's beautiful despite what they say.

Answer 6

Kids are cruel! I have a 10yr old daughter who is 30 pounds over weight, and she sometimes gets teased of that. As the parent, you have to instill in her that she is beautiful, and point out of some things that make her beautiful. Give her examples of others who wear glasses and are very successful. As far as homework, you need to be more involved with her homework and make it fun for her!! Play math games, sing songs,give rewards when she gets it right,etc!! kids love work more when we as parents get involved!!

Answer 7

Get your child involved! Do not ask, be a parent and tell!

Music lessons, Flue, oboe, clarinet, violin. Take Martial Arts, tennis, ballet, fencing. All of these build character and self confidence!

Help her to understand how the eye works and the terrible price of being blind.

Too, YOU need to spend more time with her. She should help you cook and clean house, and you should be at her school events and take her places! GO DO is not the answer!

Hands on parenting is!

Answer 8

Get her involved in some activities. Make sure she dresses cool. Take the pressure off on homework and school (this comes from a teacher and a Mom). Encourage her to be cool.

Answer 9

Get her involved in someting other than school. There are community sports teams, dance, music, or martial arts classes, the Y, and Girl Scouts. Although there may be some kids from her school at these activites, hopefully their numbers will be minimal and she can meet new people.

Answer 10

Ok....this is what you do!My little sister has the exact same problem but she's over coming it!And im proud of her!You sit and you talk and talk and talk and talk explaining to her it doesnt matter what others say......and if she starts to cry....its ok!She's opening up and that's what you want!Then you might want to take her for away from the school scene for a while......take her some where to let her hair down but not for a long long time.Then give her somethin that's dear to you and tel her.....everytime some one looks at her and says something mean..........pull it out and smile and say thanks......your makin me a better person and walk away!It's guaranteed to work!If not......she needs something much more!