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Question

It is not illegal and it is NOT rape.
In brief I need to get pregnant - I will be having my womb removed in 2 years.
I will be getting my colleague drunk during the office Xmas party and my friend and I will be taking him home. We have some ideas but I think there may be other ways of accomplishing this – her ideas are a bit extreme!

I am really wondering how I can get him to consent in some sort of way so that I won’t feel too bad and he won’t be angry with me if he remembers. I am not a confident person and I will feel too embarrassed to come on to him without thinking it through to the every last detail. Do you have a chat up line that has got you lots of success? Never chatted up a guy b4.
Want to have intercourse at least twice – he will be drunk so is there any chance that this will happen? Or will he fall asleep after the 1st time. I'll be ovulating during the week of the party so it will be the best time 4 me.
Don't leave negative comments - practical ones pls

FYI - due to recent legislation donations to sperm banks have all but dried up. they are operating a waiting list - so I would have to be placed on a waiting list. Like I said I'll be having a hysterectomy in 2 yrs time so getting pregnant next year is ideal.
PLEASE DO NOT RESPOND TO GIVE YOUR OPINION - PRACTICAL ADVICE ONLY PLEASE. WALK IN MY SHOES AND SEE HOW THEY FEEL B4 YOU GIVE YOUR UNWANTED OPINIONS.

OMG! - I WOULD LIKE TIPS PLEASE - NOT OPINIONS. I HAVE NOT EXPLAINED THE FULL STORY SO PLS DO NOT MAKE JUDGEMENTS. PLS READ THE TITLE. MY GOD!

Answer 1

So you need to get a man drunk just so he will have sex with you?

Answer 2

I'm sorry, but judging from your previous questions, you have serious issues that need delt with by professionals. It is WRONG to do that to anyone! You cannot dupe someone into being just a sperm donor for you because you want a baby. What will you do if things go horribly wrong like the baby is disabled or you miscarry? Who will you take it out on then? What if the collegue has some genetic disorder you don't know about and the baby will suffer because of it? You say you are not a confident person. How confident are you in being able to look after a baby? The first 3months of a babies life hits the mother the hardest - sleepless nights, not being able to 'read' the baby yet. You need a loving partner that will help you out during this time. You are not mentally fit to have a baby.

You have an obsession that needs to be checked out by a doctor.

If you can't even get a boyfriend then you have a BIG problem too.

A drunk guy can't usually get it up let alone do it twice. Please look at other options like a proper sperm donor or even a proper close single friend who will be willing to help you out. But you need counsulling as you are not in a healthy state.

Stop being so selfish, you will hurt lots of people and lose lots of friends and will lose respect from your collegues.

Answer 3

Sorry but I can't leave a practical answer because what you're doing is very, very wrong and probably would amount to rape in a Court of Law so please think again.

If you want to have a child, you must at the very least have the consent of the other party. He have a certain amount of financial obligation towards the child. How would you feel if someone tricked you into having to pay out for something for the next decade or so? He will automatically have rights to the child - how will you feel about that?

Very bad, stupid idea. Forget it. If you're that desparate to have a baby, go down the artificial insemination route.

Answer 4

Ok, can i make another suggestion seeing as what your planning to do is well out of order.

Why don't you just ask?
There will be some guy who will be ok with doing this for you with an understanding he will not be financially accountable?

I know a lot of people will disagree with this from the point of the child and i do too but i'd rather you go down this route than trap an innocent guy into having a child.

If you are in a bad situation and are desperate for a child i'm sure some mothers will sympathise with you but not your methods.

Why not just ask around first, and i really hope you become a loving caring mother because your not sounding like that type of person right now.

Answer 5

Tamsin, you've had lots of replies and havent read them all so dont know what other people have suggested, but wouldnt it be easier all round if you just asked the guys of your acquaintance if any of them would be a sperm donor?

If your colleague is pretty drunk i doubt if he will be able to perform.

Wouldnt it be easier to suggest a 3some to him when he has only had a drink or two. You and your friend tell him you've always wanted to do it!

Have to say though that tricking a guy you hardly know into this is not the best idea. He could have a family history of some medical problem you don't know about.

Answer 6

tamsin why not forget the plan. u kind of sound like u really like him anyway. u just never know wot will come out of it and please don`t forget that ok ur ovulating that week but it`s by no means guaranteed that u`ll fall pregnant. if u don`t get pregnant how will that make u feel? we`ve chatted and i do understand where ur coming from and i`ve given this some thought. why not try to see if he`s interested in u. u never know u might end up in a relationship wiv him which will be better for u. not every guy will pass on u because of the life u have and the things u have to deal wiv. give it some thought tamsin. people will only give u negative comments because they don`t know the full story. i really hope this helps u and i hope u give it some thought

Answer 7

Technically, it is rape sister, for real. Don't you think you can get pregnant by someone who loves you in two years, it is quite possible. This is not the medium for it anyways, because, those that are not offended by your question will only feel pity, and I know thats the last thing in your heart. Obviously you have decided whose baby you wanna carry, just a pity the poor guy has no idea what he is in for. And why drunk, can you honestly say that he wouldn't enjoy it, or that he wouldn't consent? If you answered yes to anyone of those questions, then you NEED to pump the brakes. Talk it over with someone who will be honest with you no matter what, and hear what they have to say. If for whatever reason you still feel like u wanna carry out this act, send me a mail and I will show you the flaws in you plan, peace!

Answer 8

Wanting a child before the clock runs outis not morally wrong, asking a man to bed you to achieve the end result is not morally wrong......if it is a mutual thing. But my head has dificulty with getting some poor guy drunk and then trying to get pregnantby him.....first off not thatsimple does notalways happen the first time and second off he may notget it up if he is so drunk and third off he has at least the right to know what is the plot......or have you lost the plot completely. Why not opt for sperm donation??

Answer 9

My advice is this - don't get him too drunk otherwise he cannot perform. make sure that you suggestively caress his knee, inner thigh and his cok . Ask him if he wants to come back to your place for some coffee. When you get him there make sure you give him a BJ - but don't make him come in your mouth. Doggy style is the best for conception so offer this to him. Also, legs in the air and very wide is a good position for conception as well as legs on his shoulders. Try and do all these positions because he may not last more than 1 round!

good luck

Answer 10

I don't like to be mean but you sound like a truly despicable person. My biological clock is also ticking and i would love to have kids of my own but to go to the lengths you are prepared to to get pregnant is truly shameful. It makes me wonder what kind of mother you would make when you intend to rape your child's father. I am assuming when you say "if he remembers" you are planning for him to so incapicitated that he cannot give consent. That you fool, is rape. Don't you think he should have a say in whether he is a father to your child? Or whether he has to fork out for the next 18 years of a child's life that was conceived out of your wickedness. Your lacking in confidence or not knowing how to chat someone up is not an excuse to do what you are planning. People are dissing you because your question could really only merit a cussing. I pity any child who has the misfortune of having you as it's mother. Have some self respect and get yourself some therapy or whatever it will take to not make you a menace to men out there.

Answer 11

You are planning on using a friend to gang up on this man in order for you to have sex with him. What if, even if he is drunk, he tells you to sling your hook? For all you know he might not even have viable sperm! I don't know you and obviously don't know the full story, but what you are planning sounds desperate, and desperate women (or men) are a huge turn off.

I'm more concerned if in fact you did have sex with him, became pregnant and had a baby, what would you tell your child when he/she is older when they ask you who daddy is? How on earth are you going to explain this to them without lying about it?

Getting pregnant is only the beginning. After you have made a little person you have the rest of your life and theirs to think about what you could have done better for them. Surely a baby deserves a better start in life than what you are planning?