My boyfreind and I have decided to have sex. Now weve been together for a few years. And i am completely ready. I just have a few questions. Like is there any way for me not to bleed when he inserts his penis? And how bad will this hurt?
2006-12-08 09:00:29 · 37 answers · asked by confessions_92 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your hymen is not already broken from the insertion of certain female products, you will most definitely bleed. Really no way around it.
The hurting part....it will probably feel very tight and like you're stretching down there....which is exactly what you ARE doing. It really depends on his size AND your size in relation to the amount of pain you may or may not be in. If you are both Virgins...don't worry - it wont last very long anyway.
The more you do it, the better it will start to feel. You may feel sore after the first few times. Just make sure he agrees to listen to you. If it hurts too much, tell him to stop or slow down.
2006-12-08 09:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your hymen (the tissue that breaks during sexual penetration). I'm not sure that you can avoid the bleeding...and it really depends on how thick or thin the membraneous tissue is. Some women don't ever full develop one and don't bleed at all. It is supposed to be difficult to damage through regular activity.
A traditional method to deal with the bleeding part was for women to place a towel beneath them to prevent staining.
In my case, I bled very little. And while I wouldn't say it was extremely painful, it wasn't all that comfortable either. It being your first time, the main cause of your pain is going to be the tension (expectation of pain). The more you anticipate it, the more likely you are going to feel pain. I was extremely tense and I wonder if it would have hurt if I could have been relaxed? It hurt just as much to have sex afterward as it did the first time...until I learned how to relax and enjoy it.
And do use a condom. Never listen to a guy that wants to have sex without one (the excuse is that it doesn't feel good). Sure, it takes a little bit away from his sensation but it's better for you to be safe and not get pregnant...and this might sound a bit crass, but he will also last longer sexually if he has a condom on (though usually the guys don't care about that factor).
Many people are saying wait until you are married...I don't really agree with that sentiment. I didn't wait, but I don't think my "virginal" attributes should play so much into my desireability. That is such an old value system...if you are a responsible person, use prevention and realize that you might not be with your boyfriend forever, you will be just fine. I'm happily married now...and had I married some of the men from my previous relationships without exploring that aspect, I would regret that more then anything. It's important to be compatible in all aspects - I would never marry someone I didn't live with beforehand...had I done so, I would be living with a divorce behind me.
2006-12-08 09:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lunasea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 22 and I had sex for the first time less than a month ago with my boyfriend that I have been with for 5 years.
There is nothing you can do to prevent bleeding. However, not every woman bleeds. I bled a lot and I know people who did not bleed at all.
I'm not going to lie to you, it hurt like hell. I was getting teary eyed my first time because it hurts. It hurts the first few times, but afterwards, it's all good.
I would recommend some lubricant and a lot of foreplay to make things easier upon entry.
You also may want to use a towel or something to put under you to avoid stains in case you bleed and because seamen'll get out when you sit up. It's quite gross lol
Oh! One more thing, you may want to be ontop, I found it easier for him to "get in" that way. Plus, while ontop, you decide the pace and you can take a break while trying to get him in.
2006-12-08 09:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It won't hurt as bad as it does when you realize what a huge mistake you made in giving the gift of virginity to someone you aren't married to. Most people consider sex an event. I teach my kids and I value this myself that sex is a sacred gift God gave us that should only be given in marriage. Are you ready for the possibility that you may regret your actions?
Don't go there unless you are ready for the consequences such as guilt, STD's, pregnancy, etc...
The best thing you can do for yourself is wait.
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. Quite the opposite, in fact. You should be proud of being pure. Wear it like a banner and hold your head high and then when you get married you will have the best gift to give your husband. I and my hb were virgins and now that I am divorced I will not have sex again until I re-marry.
2006-12-08 09:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh goodness. everybody wanting to have sex now adays. my advise is wait till your on your own. Well, I guess you might be you didnt say how old you were. you may or may not bleed. not everybody does. it will hurt like a ***** the first few or so time you do it. least it did me. and to be honost i didn't really enjoy sex so much until I was married b/c i felt more confortable in my body and with my husband to where nothing really mattered. let me tell you there are some sounds and a bunch of stuff that could be embarrasing about having sex. do u feel comfortable farting in front of or on him. lmao. sometimes sounds just like that but worse can occur. lmao
2006-12-08 09:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women don't bleed, just put a towel down underneath you just in case. Mine didn't hurt at all, but the guy I was with was teensy lol, really teensy. Make sure to use protection and lube if you need it, it will hurt worse if you're not properly lubricated. Keep in mind that you will remember this guy and that moment for the rest of your life, make sure he's really the one you want to remember. Good luck!
2006-12-08 09:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by kameka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't bleed my first time but I was on top. If the guy is on top for your first time, it might hurt a little more. Just tell him to be gentle. It's a really beautiful experience, I didn't have any bleeding or anything when I lost my virginity. Please make sure this is really what you want to do, though because once it's gone, you can't get it back. Good luck.
2006-12-08 09:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by Desiree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are going to bleed, it is the famous, popping of the cherry. It is fine. It is a little painful, and not too pleasurable for the first time. You are too nervous. But once you do it once, you'll be rabbits, and it will be more enjoyable. Remember to use protection, and if you have any other questions go to your obgyn or planned parent hood. They are more reliable. It sounds like your are uncomfortable talking to your parents otherwise you would be asking them not on here. Just be careful!! and of course have fun :)
2006-12-08 09:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not always true that it will bleed. In modern life style most probably you may not bleed at all. Even if you do very little you may not feel it . So don't worry enjoy as decided with the protection so that you may not get pregnant.
2006-12-08 09:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Pramod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably won't feel it. There isn't much you can do about the blood, just make sure you have an old towel under your bum or something.
Other than that, good luck, because I rememeber my first time and it never happened. It took two times before I was acutally able to penetrate her.
You might not enjoy it until the second time but have fun anyways.
2006-12-08 09:03:26 · answer #10 · answered by KinfOfPly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋