I'm from asia, so it's common to get brutal punishment. But he is now beating me up without a good reason (for instance, I didn't wake up when my dad told me to wake up this morning... He's so retarded.... and I didn't even miss the bus or anything, I had spare minuites to sleep before I could get ready for school...) Anyways, he beats me up in the basement. Now I have a bruse in on my hand, it's hard to grab things and write. And there's a bruse on my leg too - and it's all swollen and red, and has little blackish spots on it. It hurts when I sit. I know it's the effects of brusing. And he only hit me one - think what whould happen if he hits me more. He only hitted me once because I begged him not to hurt me. He thretned he'd beat me up again if I do something "bad" like not getting up early in the morning!! What can I do? Can I call 911 or something? I can't run away ... and he askes ME to get something to beat me up with. This isn't the first time, I go through this alot.
2006-12-08 08:56:47 · 23 answers · asked by gogogo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm only 16.
I live in Canada.
He also said he'd beat me up if I miss the school bus - omg he's so retarded what's so wrong with that!!!???
And the only relatives in Canada are my two cosin's family.
And one time, I told my dad that if he beat me up, I can call the police, and HE BEAT ME UP MORE!! and I didn't have the nerve to call 911....
2006-12-08 09:05:37 · update #1
My mom doesn't do anything. He also beat me up one time, but that was long ago. And she beat me up because I wouldn't leave the house - because I said "I hate this house" (We moved there).
2006-12-08 09:07:15 · update #2
I'm not making this up!! ;_; I typed perfect english?
2006-12-08 09:08:01 · update #3
Yah my mom knows about this, but she doesn't do anything
2006-12-08 09:11:23 · update #4
He has testrostrial problems.
2006-12-08 09:29:53 · update #5
Take pictures of all the bruises. Document everything! Time of day he hit you, why, where he hit you and put it all with the pictures. Take everything with you when ever you leave the house so he doesn't find it or your mom find it. Take them to your school counselor, have the school call the police and child services. If you have a small recorder tape everything that goes on during the beatings so you have it on tape with his voice and the hitting smacks and you screaming and crying. Make sure you take care of the bruises as they may have blood clots. When you talk to your school counselor have them take you to the hospital to check for any major injuries and also it will be on file for the police to see. If you want you can just go straight to the hospital and tell them your Dad just beat you and he has done it before. there are police and security at the hospital. Is there any way you can stay at a friends house? I am so sorry that you are going through this. Please let me know how you are doing and what you have decided.
2006-12-08 09:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing! Call 911 now! You're 16 and you still let your dad beat you!? Don't runaway, stand and face him. "Dad you do this I will run away and call the cops!" Say that to him. If he tries to beat you, bolt out of the basement(or where you are) run and run.(go to a friend's house?) Then, if you have a cellphone call 911. Be careful if you do this, your dad can get into jail for quite a long time. You should come to Australia where there are laws that you can't beat your kid. And by the way your quite good at your english. I am also an asian. Not completely. I was born in Australia.
2006-12-08 09:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by - Eiren - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him what you are going to do, just do it. If he is leaving marks there is your proof go to the police, show your teacher or the principal. You need to tell someone when there are marks on you so you'll have the proof. Just be prepared they will probably remove you from the home and put you with another family. Your 16 so you could get a job and be able to support yourself in a year or two but know that living and supporting yourself is a very hard thing to do. If he really is beating you you need to get out of there and away from the abusive jack*** and the total b**** that is allowing it. Being a parent who left an abusive relationship out of fear that he would be that way with my daughter I can't understand why any woman worth her weight would allow something so horrific to happen to her child. It does happen though, some women were just raised to stick by the man no matter what he does. It's no wonder that there are so many cases of men abusing their wives and children and so many women just aking it. It's how they were raised so you need to know it is wrong and you deserve better.
2006-12-08 09:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by lil sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh My God!!!!!! Don't tell him you are going to call 911 or he will beat you up more, just call. 911 can trace your call. Can you call from your room or anywhere he won't hear you? Call and if he goes after you throw the phone and start screaming for help. If you can't call 911 safely, run away to the nearest police station, church, school, or hospital.
You are doing nothing wrong. He does not have a right to beat up on you no matter what. It doesn't matter if you smarted off or was defient, there are thousands of other ways to deal with a teenager other than abuse. It may be ok in Asia (I'm chinese so I know how you feel), but you are not in Asia, you are in Canada and child abuse is ILLEGAL!
Take care of yourself. It may be hard at first, but trust me (and all the other people posting that you need to go get help).
2006-12-08 09:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by msrosevillehomeworker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a difficult situation. IF there are authorities you can turn to, such as the police or a trusted counselor, you may want to talk with them. Prepare yourself for that though. You may be taken away from your parents and sent to a foster family or a state facility. Please don't run away... I've seen some bad things happen to kids. A lot of kids end up on drugs or getting sexually abused or turned to prostitution. No matter where you are, I am sure there is someone around who cares enough to try and change things for you. Look into your options, then make an informed decision. Remember, you are a worthwhile person, and don't let what has happened take away your future.
2006-12-08 09:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by White and Nerdy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are 16, you may be able to just leave without a problem. I would contact law enforcement though. But first, I recommend that you tell people about it...like school counselors, friends, other family members, etc. I know it might feel shameful, but remember, this is not your fault!! Tell as many people you can, because when social services and the police get involved, it will be very difficult for you if you haven't told anyone.
2006-12-08 09:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is serious. I would tell someone that your dad is beating you for no reason. Don't run away, because then when you need to come home again, he will probobly beat you again. Try telling someone that you can trust. Maybe a teacher, or a friends parent, or a grandmother. Or even the police. Don't call the emergency line though. God will get you through this! Trust and have faith in him always! God bless you, and I am praying for your safety and results!
2006-12-08 09:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by wormwoodkid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go through any of this...does your mom know? You need to tell someone. I don't care if you are from Mars...You do NOT need to allow him to beat you. YES you CAN call 911...you can go to the principal of your school, or to a counselor at your school, you can tell a teacher,or to the local police department, child abuse is illegal.Don't be another statistic that someone reads about in the paper...
2006-12-08 09:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not fair that you are beaten up.
But lets look at it this way, can you avoid being beaten up? The answer is yes, you can by going to bed alittle earlier and getting up early. It simply solves the problem, that is assuming there are no other complications to your story.
Running away is not the issue here, the issue is what happens after you run away. What becomes of you, you might be taken advantage of or get into wrong hands and worse situations.
2006-12-08 09:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by festus n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
child abuse is illegal ... reasonable discipline is one thing, but to have discipline, you have to have balance ... call 911 and report this and have them photograph your injuries .... dont warn him that you will call 911, just DO IT and let the police warn him. be sure to call EVERY time it happens and he will stop unless he wants to spend time in jail ... just for your information, in my opinion, it is only reasonable to spank a child if what they do causes personal injury to another or property damage .. a spanking is not a beating ... at your age, hitting for any reason is not reasonable because you can be reasoned with by conversation. One additional thought ... part of abuse is the victim allowing themselves to be abused .... get some backbone and protect yourself by getting some authority involved, 911 or a school counselor
2006-12-08 09:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋