suicide please help?

Question

help me. My best friend has borderline and is constantly having suicidal thoughts and attempts. When she told me about her plans or feelings i used to be able to say something that made a tiny difference, but then she still was fighting it somewhere deep inside. now she tells me and i don' t know what to say i don't know how to help her. She's not even got reasons anymore or anything that we can talk through she is just numb and says she wants to die. She has already made numerous attempts. What else can i say to her apart from telling her how much i care and value her and that i'm listening to her. that just doesn't seem enough and i'm scared that i'm going to lose her. I don't know what to do anymore, i think she has just given up the fight and i don't know how to do it. I can't do it anymore. please somebody help me. I can't lose her, tell me what to do.

if it helps she is 22 and is already getting help from professionals though it doesn't seem to be doing anything, just making it worse.

even if i could get her into a hospital it wouldn't work she has been there before and she knows how to work the system so that she gets out within a week at the most. The professionals are doing nothing and i feel that i have to.

Answer 1

There is nothing you can do to help her, except if you can handle it to be there like you have been. go get the book "walking on egg shells", it helps people who have a borderline personality personality disorder in their lives deal with it. Borderlines can suck the life out of anyone, even really mentally healthy people and their therapist, families etc.--get that book most of all remember you are not responsible for her illness or her survival--she is.

Answer 2

Unfortunately i find myself in the same position as yourself.

This is very complex because if she doesn't have reasons than it is very hard to help

I think the best thing to do is get everyone who cares about her and for you to talk to her either all at once or all in a very short space of time

That should hopefully get her moral up and at least help her to continue to fight her depression

Seeing a physiologist will help.

With no reasons i find it very hard to give you any advice that could be considered useful

Talk to her try and find some reason for her feeling like this then re-enter the question as it will probably result in you getting better advice

If you get her into hospital then tell a nurse/doctor her name and details etc so they know who she is and then tell the nurse/doctor howe she gets out in a week then the hospital will suspect her

Answer 3

well i used to have a friend who was kind of going through the same thing. But what i did that seemed to really help was just to fill up her time completely and if she wanted to talk to someone then i was always there to listen. The shrinks dont help. I think telling different people that you dont even know your problems is weird i mean really. But just fill up her time and like the other person above said maybe taking a road trip might do some good or something....

Answer 4

Everyone has to have a reason to be alive; something to live for and appreciate. Your friends depression could be due to a chemical imbalance that simply requires the proper medication. Your friend definitely requires professional help. You are doing all you can, but don't become emotionally drained because of it or you could risk the same feelings of depression. Depression is a weird thing and affects people differently. Get your friend to professional help without delay. Disregard her reactions and responses to getting help. Sometimes tough love is the only way.

Answer 5

You need to read a book called Stop Walking on Eggshells. I cant remember that author but any book store will have it. If your friend is borderline personality disorder you MUST read this book. It will help you understand. If she has made numerous attempts and not succeeded, she really doesn't mean it. It is her way of getting attention. If her therapist is not well versed in BP disorder, she needs to see someone else. This is a very tricky disease and I wont go into it because it is hard to explain on Yahoo. You cannot change her and you cannot make her stop this behavior. Believe me, I have lots of experience. Please get the book I am talking about and you will really understand. The book is not walking on eggshells but is Stop Walking on Eggshells. You are being manipulated and you need help. Reading this book changed my whole life. I cant push the book enough because it made me see my participation in a very serious bad relationship. You are in as much danger as she is.

Answer 6

TRY TO FIND OUT WHAT HER PROBLEM IS WHY IS FEELING THAT WAY IF U GUYS ARE CLOSE AND U REALLI LOVE HER THEN TRY TO ELIMINATE THE NEGATIVITY IN HER LIFE. FROM WHAT U HAVE SAID SHE IS GETTING PROFESSIONAL HELP AND IF THAT ISNT DOING ANY GOOD THEN THE ONLY OPTION IS TO MAKE HER HAPPY AND SHOW HER THAT LIFE IS WORTH LIVING FOR BY EXPLAINING AND URGING HER TO PURSUE A GOAL OF SOME SORT. IF SHE ACHIEVES A SENSE OF SATISFACTION AND ACCOMPLISHMENT IN LIFE SHE WILL BEGIN TO APPRECIATE LIVING...
I HOPE SHE FEELS BETTER...SUICIDAL THOTS ARE NEVER TO BE TAKEN LIGHTLY AND MUST BE ADRESSED IMMEDIATELY!!

Answer 7

You need to be serious with your friend.Thoughts of suicide is not okay and it is sort of scary.Although you should stick with your friend through the situation,sometimes....its not always the best idea.Your friend just cant give up and kill herself!Thats ridicoulous!Why is she having suicidal thoughts anyway?Remind her of all the things that she has to live for....all the people who love her.Its a scary situation.Whatever you do....dont let your friend kill herself!Please!Go to therapy or counseling together.It could make difference!You and your friend are in my thoughts.

Answer 8

Have your friend call 2-1-1 now. If this service is not available or not working have the person call to the nearest hospital.

Do it now!

Answer 9

Take a road trip together. You need to remove her from her environment. Go to Vegas, wear some sexy clothes, get men to buy you shoes, etc. Enjoy life a little.

Answer 10

I feel for you, there is not much that you can do. Perhaps, it would be best if you talk to someone who will help you deal with this, such as your priest or minister. You are not responsible for your friend. You have done all that you can. God bless you.